Retired couple, Honey and Ray Smith have dressed alike every day for the past 5 years.   Their closet is full of matching size small and size medium shirts, pajamas, watches, two sizes of matching croc shoes (yuck) in various colors, as well as matching pants. Honey does skip the boxer shorts – apparently she enjoys Victoria’s Secret under her matching Hawaiian shirts.  

Together since high school – when they first sported matching outfits for Senior Ditch Day – the couple wears the matching outfits to show the world that they are a happy couple.

“I don’t even think about it anymore,” said Honey. “I just went in one day and bought some shirts for him and some shirts for me.”

The couple had often matched their clothing colors in the past. But after Ray retired in 2003, they decided to match everything.

“The reason is we wanted to let people know we’re happy,” said Ray. “Also, people remember us because we dress alike.”

This is a cute story, they sound still very much in love after 46 years of marriage. They take monthly trips to Disneyland and shop together at the mall. These two enjoy together-time.

I haven’t dressed like Steve since we were dating in high school and got matching t-shirts at Great America and I don’t intend to start now (he wouldn’t look good in a skirt), but I do like to do things that are couple-y… Okay, well I like to hold hands when we go places and to me, this is another version of that. Their matching outfits are like a visual bonding, the clothing version of a hand-hold, a connection.  Does that make sense?  They are showing the world that they are a team. 

What do you think? Do you know a couple like this?  Is there truth in the theory that people grow to look alike as they age?

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Married Couple Has Dressed Alike For Five Years

Every couple’s communication lies not just in the actual “uttering” of the matter that needs said but in the reception. Do we hear the voice, sound or words? Or do we listen to the heart of the statement?

Sometimes, we often confuse things. Interpretations vary. You may see it as him being irrational and unresponsive while he can view you as selfish and paranoid. You may think that she’s simply being possessive while she may think that you’re simply being a jerk.

Can we stop and think why these things happen?

If only we can actually see the situation in our partner’s POV. Step outside of ourselves and see to heeding their needs. Perhaps you can see that it’s his nature to be practical even when you do have impractical emotional needs. Maybe you are indeed a jerk and it makes her actions similar to a “possessive” woman.

Does the answer lie on the words? Not just. Sometimes, we can’t stop with just hearing but move on to really listening. Esp if we want to sort things out.

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Hearing Versus Listening