For the past few weeks, I’ve been re-thinking certain theories I’ve come up with in the entire duration of my dating life. I admit that it’s only been a decade since I started to seriously think about dating and relationships. Realising that it has been actually 10 years or so that I’ve been in the whole dating scene has made me come up to one conclusion. I’ve been holding onto little girl notions of what love is all about.
“I still often see myself as the same little girl who followed her dad around like it’s the only and most important …read more

There will always be a standard. There will always be the sizing up part. There will always be decisions to make.
You may have developed a pattern over the years, intentionally or not. For whatever reason, it’s brings you comfort above all. It’s the most convenient thing to do. I’m not passing judgment. I’m only observing.
Some of your actions will be based on a pattern. Some are influenced by principles. We can only hope that the combination is healthy enough to provide you with relationship or dating prospects.
For men, as the pursuer, I hope you are mostly ruled by principles. This …read more

Sometimes, we do have to ask ourselves which one are we. Are we the type who gets involved or one who commits? Every couple should take a step back and check which one you fall under. This will save you a whole lot of trouble later on.
Let me briefly paint a picture hopefully to define each:
Involved
You want to be in the relationship. You want to be a part of the other person’s life and vice versa. You are present in the relationship with all good intentions. You are after the results (short or long term). Your decisions are based on …read more

I came across this article online that highlighted three (3) valuable lessons the author, Reva Seth, learned when she wrote her book, First Comes Marriage: Modern Relationship Advice From The Wisdom of Arranged Marriages (Fireside, 2008).
The three (3) key insights taken from the Arranged Marriage model are:
1. Stop Drifting! Decide What You Want From Dating.
2. And Then Go Find It.
3. Put Coupledom In Context.
I’m not sure just how many of you guys are finding difficulty in achieving relationship bliss but there’s no reason for you to give up on the idea. Either you’d have problems with finding Mr./Miss Right or …read more

When I talked to you guys about handling rejection, I sort of thinking about this sentiment I heard last night — that meeting people online is far easier than meeting people at a bar or a diner or a bookshop.
How much of this is true, I wonder?
I can only guess that a lot of individuals find refuge by being on the internet. People tend to be less uptight and accommodating in places where people congregate online, may it be in chat rooms, dating sites, social networking site or even blogs. You have to, otherwise, no one will come visiting your …read more

I’m sure this is one topic that’s been talked about a hundred of times but I just wanted to share a bit on the conversation I found myself in over the weekend. I was hoping I could share the source’s name but I’m sworn to keep his identity a secret, simply due to privacy. I guess I’ll just have to refer to his as “Mister Logan” (don’t ask, it’s me being cryptic, heh). LOL.
While having coffee with a bunch of guy friends, I presented the question that basically asks this, “What’s your stand if or when a girl asks you …read more

Question: Is it considered honest to show a guy your flaws when you just started dating? Or will it just scare him away?
Tough question, I should say.
Personally, it’s not totally about revealing flaws but knowing that you’re not simply acting a certain way to get him to keep dating you. Know what I mean?
Like what I read in the author’s answer, making up certain things about yourself can lead to catastrophic ends when found out. It’ll just be one lie after the other. I can’t imagine being in a relationship that will put so much stress on me. Is it …read more

I’ve observed that it’s a common notion that when someone initiates a conversation with a stranger, it automatically means an expression of interest. It doesn’t really matter if it’s a guy coming up to a girl or vice versa. Simply, when two people find themselves in that situation, they would assume that there’s interest from the initiator.
Hmmm. Curious.
Perhaps I’m naive because I’m a little dubious about this whole thing. To be quite honest, I don’t automatically think a guy is “interested” in me when they spark up a conversation because if I turn the tables around and I initiate the …read more

I’m not even certain if it’s a question I need to ask but I reckon it is something that can be on the minds on individuals who are dating someone they know they’ve fallen for. Do you automatically tell the other person “I love you” to mark the seriousness of your intentions? Or do you reserve it till you think it’s time for you to get engaged? (Gawd.)
I would understand that there are people out there who take these words seriously and will refuse to utter them to a person least deserving. I commend you. I’m a firm believer of …read more

I’m quite certain that most, if not all, women have engaged in conversations that are filled with “girl talks” and “guy bashings” — somehow, it can be said that it’s quite a normal occurrence. Guy bashings occur when, of course, there’s bad blood between exes. Girls vent out their frustration to their friends and basically diss the guy, hence, the name. It’s probably developed during pre-teens and was nurtured all throughout the female adolescent life. Though, the question is, do women grow out of them?
In my personal opinion, some do and some don’t. It only varies in intensity and frequency. …read more