If you are new, then let me introduce myself – I’m Michelle. I’m currently single, after a 1 -1/2 year long relationship. It was a long distance affair and my boyfriend was my first love – we gave it a second try more than 20 years later. Apparently, it didn’t work for him, as I have not heard from him for the past 4 months. He’s had some issues due to the economy – in particular unemployment – but there is no excuse for that sort of bad behavior. I reached out, as both a friend and a loved one and he ignored my attempts. 

I picked up a copy of He’s Just Not That Into You, by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, yesterday. (If you’ve got a Target near you, you can find He’s Just Not That Into You for 20% off the publisher’s price.) A single friend of mine has been telling me to read it for ages.

I went straight to the part that has to do with The Disappearing Boyfriend. According to the book, this sort of guy is really, really isn’t into me, because he failed to leave even a post-it saying goodbye. Although in our case, I think it would been more like a text saying, “Can’t do it – good luck.” Instead, I got nothin’.

Until a couple of days ago when he sent me a friend request on Facebook.

Would you judge me if I said that I okayed it? I waited a full day to do so. Does that earn me any points?  I am not a bitter ex, not really even an official ex in this case, but part of me wants this man to see that I’m not moping, that I’m busy and active and have friends that are not him.

So, I might be updating my Facebook status a little more than normal. Any excuse to say, “Life is good,” works for me. 

Image credit: Barnes and Noble.com

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Dating Dames Is Now Relationships

When I feel like throwing in the towel on marriage, I visit Dating Dames and remember what single was like.

We were so thrilled with our marriage education results (no divorce and verging on . . . happy) that we’ve signed on to teach Vow, marriage education in our community.

Find out of there is a course in your area. Take it. It will make you more powerful in your life when you are more powerful in your marriage.

For more tips on how to have a great marriage visit Marriage Actually.

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Marriage is Hard, Dating is Worse

And for a minute I entertain the idea of what that would be like. So, I might visit Dating Dames.

Where I get a ring-side view on what it’s like to be single today.

Take this story on how you can require a date to fill out The Boyfriend/Girlfriend Application. There is even a space for Relationship Background and References. How romantic.

I like to ponder the great questions of life “Is it wrong to stay in a relationship just for the great sex?“ Certainly, I’ve stayed for lesser reasons.

Hollywood Hookups – Hot or Not? Do I think Zack Braff and Drew Barrymore are hot together? Um. No one is good enough for Drew. No one. Not that Zack Braff isn’t cute, no one is good enough.

And I get to look at really weighty questions about the nature of choosing a spouse: Is the topic of religion taboo in relationships? (Uh, just a warning – if you don’t talk about this while dating, you’re in for some unpleasant arguments at every religious milestone like baptisms, communion and confirmations of the children – it can get pretty hairy.)

Generally I end my trip down Single Lane by filling in the blank with SUCKS. Single Life SUCKS.

I end up pretty grateful I only have to guess what one man is thinking – the one I’m already married to.

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