he said he doesnt have any1 to talk to abt his problems, bcoz i was too busy partying everyday with my friends, so he called this bitch (who adores him like crz) to come to his house to talk. and *you can guess what happen next.
my friends and even the bitch told me what happenned between my bf n the bitch, i was so stupid fr not trusting them, my bf kept denying it n he was friggin mad cuz i didnt believe him at 1st, then after 4 months (after all so-called-rumours) he finally confessed tht he did cheatd on me. it was totally embarassing, he kept saying sorry and everything blabla love me and stuff.
so what do u think? — Dee

Instead of responding there, I thought I’d share to the rest of you what I thought of the situation, too.

The thing about relationships that I consider most important is the level of trust. Without it, there’s no point in continuing the relationship. However, I recognise a certain weakness that most women have in terms of emotions and our relationships, we tend to be lenient and forgiving but I’m generalising.

I’m sure everyone will automatically blame the “other woman” first and foremost but fail to consider that the man is as guilty as that woman. Tempted? Lonely? Angry? Curious? Intoxicated? Drugged perhaps? Regardless of the many reasons that a man or woman can conjure up, it doesn’t take away the fact that the deed was done. What’s worse it when he (or she) was given the chance to come clean but denied it.

When it comes to relationships, my major pet peeve is lying. I can’t stand being around people who are dishonest to the point that they’d deceive you. It’s a pretty selfish thing. No can can have the cake and eat it, too. If they have chosen to date or have that relationship with you then he or she should respect the commitment that you both went into.

Dee, he said he claims that he loves you and that you should forgive him and perhaps asking that you give him another chance, know this, if he indeed loved you, he wouldn’t be in this sort of situation with you, you wouldn’t be found questioning his fidelity.

My two cents.

What about you guys? What would you do? Thoughts?

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What Would You Do: He said he didn’t, then ate his words

We’ve all got them – regardless of whether they are petty or not.  There are just some things that we can’t live with – no matter how hard a person tries to overcome them or tries to put their best foot forward.

In Deal Breakers:  When Does Mr. Right Become Mr. Not-On-Your-Life? a quiz book by Michele Avantario and Maia Dunkel that’s designed to help you determine what your deal breakers are or uncover deal breakers you may not have realized existed.

The book is intended to bring humor to the sometimes painful art of dating but can certainly shine a light on some of those little quirks that dig under your skin and help you realize that perhaps you aren’t being as shallow as you thought.

Is he Mr. Right or Mr. Not-on-Your Life? (excerpt via Amazon)
 
For some women, it’s a moustache. For others, it’s a cheating heart. Whether you’re playing the field or are considering a trip down the aisle, you’ve got to determine whether to stick it out or move on in your pursuit of true love. Find out what your deal breakers are:
 
• You’re on your first date when you notice he’s had four glasses of wine before the entrée arrives. Deal breaker?
 
• You’ve been dating someone special and upon entering his apartment for the first time you notice a book called The Idiot’s Guide to Sex. Deal breaker?
 
• Your long-term boyfriend proposes and presents you with a stunning ring in a Tiffany’s box—and later you find out it’s a cubic zirconium. Deal breaker?
 
• You meet a cute guy at a bar, but the only number he’ll give you is his pager. Deal breaker?
 
• You’re looking forward to a romantic Valentine’s evening with your new beau. He picks you up at seven, and when you get in the car he says, “So, what’s the plan?” Deal breaker?  
 
• You’re engaged to a man of another religion and it’s never been an issue in your relationship. One evening when you’re talking about having children, he tells you he expects the children to be raised in his faith. Deal breaker?
 
• One night after a few drinks your date lets you know he once had a passionate affair with a married woman. Deal breaker?

 

So what are some of your secret deal breakers?  Brave enough to share?

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What’s your deal breaker?