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There may be nothing wrong with the e-mail, but has more private details than you feel the world should know.  It also has the potential of offending any people you may have mentioned.

Some people have no qualms about airing their clean and dirty laundry, their innermost feelings, family secrets, their financial challenges on social sites where the whole world has access.  Even if you’ve only admitted specific people as your friends, posting to them, replying to them expands the circle of people who have access to your information.  Also, those friends may decide to make it more public without your permission.

So…teach your children that if they want privacy, they need to be very careful about what they post and to whom they post.  Young people, as well as older, don’t seem to realize the ramifications of the Internet and how it can spread information you don’t want made public or in the way you may have expressed it to a close friend or relative.

The same goes for text messaging.  You may find that someone is posting your private texts to them on social media.  They simply want to share, but perhaps it isn’t something you want shared with everyone.  They really should ask your permission because, by copyright law, you own what you wrote and pictures you took.  However, most people are ignorant of this.

The lesson seems to be….THINK before you write to ANYONE or post anything.  What you write and pictures you take may reach the world without you wanting them to.

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Privacy No Longer Private on the Internet

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Nowadays, there are so many ways to communicate and to let them know the ties with home aren’t broken:

• Phone and cell phone
• Text messaging
• E-mail
• Facebook or similar
• Skype of similar
• Postal mail
• “Care” packages

I think our granddaughter has received all of these types of communications from her parents, brother, grandparents, friends and aunt.  We know her ups and downs and she knows we’re all here and care.

Nowadays the means of communication are so many versus my college days when we wrote letters to parents and they to us.  We used the phone only for emergencies because long distance calls weren’t in the family budget.

When our daughter attended college, we used the phone a little more.  But the postal mail was the main means of messages back and forth.

How do you keep in touch with your college students?

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Communicating with Your College Student

Finally! After much consternation and carping on my part about the lack of proper e-mail etiquette these days, comes music to my ears.

In the words of manners expert Letitia Baldridge in this week’s The New York Times Sunday Styles Section:

“…we need to have grace in our lives, and I’m not talking about heavenly grace. I’m talking about human grace…”

Ms. Baldridge is referring to how we compose, and more specifically how we sign-off on our e-mails.

Your salutation should be warm, friendly, appropriate to the situation or environment you are in…and above all it should be polite and friendly.

This article was helpful for me…I am sometimes guilty of ending my notes with the cold and rushed-sounding “Best, Kim.”

From now on, no matter how busy I am, recipients will receive a “Warm regards, Kim”. Unless I’m mad at you…:).

And if you’d like a more expansive understanding of online etiquette, visit NetManners.com.

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Manners and Protocol For Modern Day Correpondence.

Every year, as soon as I start to see Halloween decorations, I begin to examine the past year in terms of my goals, my accomplishments and my disappointments.

I know we still have several months to go before year-end, but I can’t help reflecting — maybe it’s the shift in temperature? (And when did those goofy blow up balloons become so popular?)

I discovered recently, that my saved e-mails also offers an opportunity for me to reflect:

• The shameless self-promotion note to the editor of Vogue (Thanks for nothing Ms. Wintour.)
• Ideas that never came to fruition.
• The horrible missives between my colleague and myself.
• The notes that should have never been sent, after a fine bottle of Pino Noir.
• The one-word notes?! Thanks, sorry, whatever.

But thankfully, my past year in e-mail also shows the history of some of my successes: A feature piece in More Magazine, a prestigious stationery award, and a very distinctive debut at an industry trade show and most recently learning how to sort of blog.

And there are 3 (well, 2.5) more months to go…isn’t that something wonderful to to relfect upon?

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Trick or Treat. The Year In E-Mail.

In order to reach these folks, I had to get my hands on a one complete list of names. A complete list did not exist because many of the sales people did not work in one locale.

I did everything you would think to do: made phone calls, sent e-mails, visited colleagues in various locations in the city, had endless meetings. No one could either get me a list or give me the name of the person in charge of The List.

When I asked my manager for help, she remarked “…you’re a vp, you should know how to get this done…” So, I was on my own…and guess what? It turned out to be a mess.

This week, here at b5.media, where I’m lucky enough to contribute, I was experiencing mind-boggling technical difficulties with this site.

I would say that the b5 community is made up of a group of very talented and, compassionate professionals. Within a very short time, Christina and Aaron, two extremely busy b5 bloggers, came to my rescue.

After several hours of research, testing and more testing, we were able to solve the problem. The fascinating aspect of this story is that I’ve never met Christina or Aaron in person. They really don’t even know me, except through occasional e-mail correspondence.

Yet, they were willing to take time out of their schedules to help, along with a few others at b5. I find this to be an amazing position to be in — considering I saw the folks at my previous job everyday and yet, no valuable help — mostly I was considered to be a pain.

So, to Christina and Aaron and everyone else at b5 media…thank you, and if I can return the favor in any way, please let me know.

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A Virtual Helping Hand.

When we’re young and starting out in our careers, we want to be heard. We want everyone to know how we think, what our plans are and what our contributions are to the firm. We’re probably overly communicative.

Then when we hit supervisory or managerial status, (yay us, right?) something happens to our communication skills…they become lax. As our responsibilities, the expectations of others and just everyday stress increase, we somehow forget that there are others who depend on our voice in order for them to get their job done.

Here’s a common dilemma: Normally, you and someone who reports to you have a great relationship…generally, you’re both on the same page. You both understand the trajectory of the business goals…the importance of getting Sr. management’s blessing.

Then suddenly, as if out of the blue, you start demanding or, rather, surmising that certain tasks be completed in a more compressed timeframe. But here’s the rub…you didn’t tell anyone that this was your expectation. So from the perspective of those who work for you…you seem insane and unreasonable. Or maybe they think, you think…it’s not your job anymore to keep folks in the loop.

We’ve gone over planning, listening and organization at great length here. What we’ve not delved into is communication. And I don’t mean e-mails, phone calls, text messages (don’t get me started)…I mean engagement…really bringing your team into your thought process.

Here’s my advice and it’s pretty low-tech…call up the stationery supply folks in your firm, have them send you a stack of legal pads, or better yet, one of those presentation boards on which you can write down ideas with a marker. (the non permanent kind, guys.)

Plan to have brain storming sessions once a week…get those ideas, drawings, graphs in front of everyone…then discuss and start dividing repsonsibilities.

The most important aspect of this exercise is to set realistic timeframes and deadlines. Then ask one person on your team to collect weekly status updates from each team member, put it together in one document and send it to you.

In any case let your expectations be known. If you don’t, your staff will think you don’t care about what they go through all day to accomplish your goals.

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Talk and Move Up The Organization.

Did you know that how you manage your inbox says a lot about you? For example, “…if you keep your inbox full rather than empty, it may mean you keep your life cluttered in other ways,” says psychologist Dave Greenfield, who founded the Center for Internet Behavior in West Hartford, Conn.

Often, I would walk by someone’s desk and notice that he or she seemed to have thousands of unanswered e-mails. I can remember feeling inadequate; as in–I’m not important or popular enough to be getting all of that mail.

But then I realized that those with the over-stuffed inbox could be “e-procrastinators”…making the decision to deal with old e-mail tomorrow or the next day…similar to those who leave bills unopened for months and months.

I answer every e-mail — that may have to do with my need to be liked. I also have a very neat in-box…because I can’t bear chaos and clutter. (why then is my sweater drawer in such disarray?)

Regardless of what type of e-mail profile under which we fall, the bottom line is that an organized inbox can only help our productivity.

Here are some logical tips from organizational experts: Marilyn Paul, author of It’s Hard To Make A Difference When You Can’t Find Your Keys, a book for the chronically disorganized, says –

• Pare down an inbox by moving e-mail into folders by need or follow-up
• Once a week, set aside time for inbox housekeeping
• Use the inbox alphabetizing feature, which organizes all e-mail by sender (I’m trying that one immediately)

Christina Cavanaugh, author of Managing Your Email: Thinking Outside The Box (heh, I get it…) says:

• Simply delete the oldest 9,000 notes (9,000! who has that many?)

When you think about it, if you compare your in-box to your kitchen, would you want all of that garbage lying around?

Good luck and sometimes, just say no…and don’t answer your mail.

Material compiled from Wall Street Journal article.

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E-mail Housekeeping.

This week, almost every person from whom I’ve needed information, answers, creative materials, bills, schedules or just a simple “hiya”, has not returned my e-mails. I swear I can hear the crickets chirping, it is so quiet out there.

It tells me that those who do not return my communiques, believe their time is more important than mine. Or…that my messages are just plain dull.

I understand that we are smothered by communication all day long…but in business, if someone takes the time to send you a note…you must reply.

And I don’t mean…”hi.” I mean a thoughtful response that a) acknowledges your request or observation or whatEVER. b) provides solutions or insight in an effort to keep a project moving forward.

It’s just good etiquette.

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E-mail ettiquette

Sneaking around, checking potentially IMPORTANT e-mails, leaving that stupid blinking light on 24/7, even in the blackness your room as you sleep (or your partner tries to sleep)…oh, and the bzzzzz that scares the dog toward having a mild stroke — I’m begging you…take a break and get some help.

It’s your Blackberry and there are steps that can be taken. Read Adam Bryant’s thoughts on this supremely disturbing affliction in this Sunday’s New York Times.

And for goodness sake, it’s Memorial day…I promise, it’s just spam. No, it is.

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Blackberry Addiction