To follow-up on Michelle’s infidelity theme, I wanted to discuss the unfortunate issue of getting caught on the opposite end of cheating.  It is definitely more common to find cheaters lurking amongst us these days, so it is also more common that you could find yourself accidentally dating someone who is cheating on someone else.
I honestly believed that the idea that someone could be dating more than one person at the same time was something that only happened in movies or to extremely naive people.  But unfortunately I am finding out that it is becoming more and more common!  It’s …read more

Which can result in the Big Lie…
From “The Language of the Heart,” page 263;
“There are, nevertheless, certain occasions where reckless truth-telling may create widespread havoc and permanent damage to others. Whenever this seems possible, we are likely to find ourselves in a bad jam indeed. We shall be torn between two temptations. When conscience agonizes us enough, we may well cast all prudence and love to the winds. We may try to buy our freedom by telling the brutal truth, no matter who gets hurt or how much. But this is not the usual temptation. It is far more probable …read more

My friend asked and I’ll try…
My first thought relating to how pride aims at the destruction of others comes from the term “character assassination.”
Suppose for a moment that you’ve worked on a project for your company for months finally arriving at what you believe in your heart is a magnificent piece of work.
Your co-worker has also worked on a similar project and has the same feelings about his/hers.
The boss chooses their project for the honors. And you begin a campaign of character assassination maligning anything good about your fellow worker, raising doubt about anything they’ve ever accomplished. You tell everybody …read more

The title of today’s Daily Reflection is Pride. Without going into detail, this reading is very appropriate for me right now! I really like what it says because it truly nails the subject and transcends pitiful and pathetic injustices.
“For thousands of years we have been demanding more than our share of security, prestige, and romance. When we seemed to be succeeding, we drank to dream still greater dreams. When we were frustrated, even in part, we drank for oblivion. Never was there enough of what we thought we wanted.
In all these strivings, so many of them well-intentioned, our crippling handicap …read more

This post is worthy of repetition. It recently came to the attention of a number of us that a gal in New York with 19 years clean in NA is “back out there.” She is loved by many, and knowing that she’s killing herself is being felt by those she helped. As yet, none of them have followed her, thank God. Please, these stories are real and true. Take them to heart. Alcoholism, addiction, kills people. [Originally posted June 15th, 2007]
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I’m paying attention. To Mary Christine. To dAAve. To a host of others. And I have to re-tell this …read more

This is only one of them but it sets the theme…
From The Language of the Heart: Bill W’s Grapevine Writings, page 263;
“There are, nevertheless, certain occasions where reckless truth-telling may create widespread havoc and permanent damage to others. Whenever this seems possible, we are likely to find ourselves in a bad jam indeed. We shall be torn between two temptations. When conscience agonizes us enough, we may well cast all prudence and love to the winds. We may try to buy our freedom by telling the brutal truth, no matter who gets hurt or how much. But this is not …read more

Drop me on my head!
I recently listened to some smart ass who arrived at a meeting late, listened to a couple of folks who were on topic, then spoke out to make the assinine statement that God certainly has dropped him on his head in order to get his attention.
How Profound!!!
Ah, I suppose its just me (spiritual axiom), but these folks who have this stupid (yeah, stupid) need to contradict sound experience in order to gain some level of sick attention all need a serious flogging.
This same person wakes up each morning and does a First Step. I often wonder …read more

I met the woman who became my wife in a bar. In those days she drank, a lot. Then we got married…
I kept drinking, she stopped. I found lots of new drinking buddies through the years. I’m sure Bill W. did also yet the first remained the most important just like mine. And we both had one of these;

A kitchen table.
My last drink was at my dining room table but I consumed much alcohol in front of my wife at a table very similar to this one. This is the actual table that Ebby sat at with Bill …read more

Take The Cotton Out Of Your Ears! AND – Put It In Your Mouth!
There are a lot of old phrases that meant quite a bit to folks like me that I rarely hear anymore. This is one of them.
Do you take offense to such a saying? If you do, the odds are good that you’re early in sodryety. An oldtimer explained it to me;
You have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Everything you know about staying sober is on the first page of the Big Book, therefore when you open your mouth (at days, weeks, or months dry, …read more

That’s right! By telling on his/her disease and being truthful, the oldtimer manipulated the topic at yesterday’s meeting…
You were given cause to think, develop an answer based in the Twelve Steps, and respond accordingly. Did you?
Or, did you believe that the oldtimer was okay, didn’t truly need your help, wasn’t looking for an answer that would not only help him/her but others as well?
Or, did you make one up because you really had no idea what to say but needed to be heard anyway?
What do you think about this?
“How I work my program is none of anyone’s business!!! How anyone …read more