“It’s everywhere — everyone is texting, everyone e-mailing and it just seems to be a diffused focus on dating these days,” said Christie Nightingale, a relationship expert.

Nightingale is a matchmaker with a D.C. dating service. She calls it an “electronic epidemic” and says it’s causing clients to give up courting. She believes the back and forth texts or e-mails can cause a would-be couple to crash.

“Seems to be prolonging the process of connecting and meeting one another to establish a relationship,” noted Nightingale.

My boyfriend and I text a lot.  A lot. I like that it keeps us connected throughout the day even though we live so far apart (I’m in California and he is in Colorado), but sometimes it leads to communication problems.

You can’t see the person that you are texting with. Without looking the other person in the face, there are  no clues to mood or attitude, so it’s easy to misunderstand intent.  We’ve both seen something innocent blow up a bit. Very not fun. I prefer to talk on the phone, but even that can be tricky. (I do love his voice).

I agree that it’s best to spend time talking in person, but with my guy halfway across the country, I do what I have to do. (Until today. Woot! I get to see my boyfriend today!)

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The Electronic Epidemic