Now, as I reveal these secrets (you’ll have to visit their article to see the reasoning behind the reason) I’d like for you, the Dating Dames readers, to see just how much of a role each one plays in your life, if at all.

10. Pretend to be virtuous
9. Criticize other women
8. Act jealous

7. Become needy
6. Speak in code
5. Invade our personal space
4. Become too emotional
3. Shop till they drop
2. Talk incessantly
1. Use sex as a weapon

I think the only one I’ve never been guilty of – or that’s never ruined any relationship I ever had is the shopping.  I think I’m one of a handful of women on the planet that really thinks MALL is a four letter word.

Now, on the otherhand, the one that presented the largest battle for me to overcome was my battle with jealousy.  After having been cheated on by a coupld of former loves, I found it very difficult to trust anyone, EVER!

I did finally recognize this emotional flaw I carried and did my best to address it and overcome it.  It was worse than ever quitting smoking – by far, the hardest habit I’ve ever had to break.  But I did!

I realized that IF a relationship was causing enough problems to invite jealousy, that was enough cause for me to leave.

In the end, no one or no relationship was worth that great of a sacrifice.

Now it’s your turn!  Com’on, I know you’re guilty!

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Men Confess the 10 Annoying Things Women Do

Via Christian Carter – Men are different from women.  You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.  When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.  Lot’s of women don’t even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.

As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.   They often don’t understand non-verbal communication as well as women. Men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”.  Women don’t seem to remember this about men.  So do men feel sexually attracted to women based just on looks? Or is something else going on?  Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, Christian claims that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.  Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.  Looks just happen to be the most obvious way…

Perhaps it’s the assumed ability of summing up a man’s character that get’s so many women in trouble. 

In fact, my cousin and I were just discussing this very thing a couple of days ago.  There are times when our minds, as women, just never seem to stop working!  We ALWAYS have something going on inside our heads.  And so when our husbands seem to be zoned out in thought, naturally we ask them what they are thinking. 

It’s very difficult for us to accept “nothing” as an answer, but in reality, they really are thinking about NOTHING!

I still say that if any woman or group of women out there can crack this particular secret in men, they will be set for generations to come.

As for me, I’ll just resolve to the fact that I just don’t “get” men and likley never will.

I’d rather be shopping!

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Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology

Via Christian Carter – Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day.  Women choose the men based on a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.  And because of this ”attraction” some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn’t treat them very well for months or even years.  These women confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”.  Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.

To be honest, I can’t think of a single argument with this “mistake.”  I know several women who make the same mistakes time and again.  And to matters even worse – is to realize I was one of those “women” for a very long time.

My personal belief is - many women are caretakers by nature.  And just as so many of us experience that “biological clock” ticking when our desire to become mother’s peaks out, women can often be drawn to men who “need” them for the very same reasons.

Many women define themselves by how well they take care of their boyfriend, husband, family… and in the process of finding their own definition, will lose sight of who they are and what it takes to make them happy.

While knee deep in the single scene, this was without doubt the single-most challenge I had to learn to overcome.  Always drawn to the men who needed ME to FIX them – I lost myself somewhere along the way.  It wasn’t until I’d entered a relationship that resulted in both physical and emotional abuse of both me and my children, that I realized that it wasn’t my place to FIX anyone!  I had all the “mothering” I could handle right there in my kids. 

It took my putting myself on a type of restriction and placing my children above ALL things for me to break the habit of dating the “wrong” guys.  But there are those women who don’t have children to put first – so what might they do instead?  Pets?  Friends?  Family?

Suggestions? 

If you’re close friend were consistantly dating the “wrong” men, what advice would you give to perhaps help them to break the bad habit?

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Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”