“If parents model good relationship skills, as well as good parenting skills, then children are likely to learn these and reproduce them in their own adult relationships.” — Paul Amato, Professor of Sociology, Pennsylvania State University

Growing up, I was taught to believe that this kind of thinking was true. My mother would tell me to never choose a man who came from a broken family. You have to understand that in my country and during those days, being part of a broken family was highly unconventional.

I reckon I still believe that whatever kind of relationship you have with your parents will directly reflect how you will conduct yourself in a relationship. And yea, I still believe that parents are our primary role models because they are the closest set of people who display the relationship that you will have one day.

However, there are certain things that I am now aware of, which I believe we need to be considerate about. Sure, children who have divorced parents or who grew up in a highly unstable family environment can turn out to be such a mess and perhaps, become one of destructive kind of individuals. However, even if studies can support such generalisations, I believe that stereotyping them will not be helpful.

They still have the same needs as any other person. Okay — they may bring a baggage or two but that doesn’t make them all bad. You can think about their admirable traits like, their will to survive, their strength to move forward, or their courage to start a family of their own.

But I understand the need for you to protect yourself from such individuals, of course. I also understand that it will require a lot more work on the relationship but I happen to think that these individuals have an extraordinary love in them to compensate you in risking or troubling yourself in going into a relationship with them, loving them.

If you found out that a guy or a girl came from a broken family, will you continue seeing him or her? Or Will you fear the possibility of history repeating itself?

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Good Parenting Equals Good Relationships

Obsessive Habits
Eating, smoking, cleaning, sleeping, drinking – anything that is done in excess can be a sure sign there are underlying problems you may not be ready to take on.

Your Fish Has More Emotions
If your fish has more of an emotional connection to you than your partner, you might be barking up a tree that won’t produce any loving fruit any time soon, someone who keeps their emotions at such a distance is probably reserving them for an ex or a secret fantasy and you may just be the Mr. or Ms. Right now rather than Mr. or Ms. Right.

If a Wet Dishrag is Less Clingy
You may be with a person who has very deep security issues and could end up being possessive at best and even threatening. You’re better to cut the cord early than to attempt to play the cling free snuggle bear with this one.

Learn from History
If your partner isn’t willing to share their emotional and relationship history with you, there’s likely something hiding in them thar hills that you may not want to find. It’s ok to dig just a bit, but if your partner is reluctant, be prepared – you may not like what you hear.

When It’s Just Sex
If you and your partner are having unemotional – no strings attached sex, you should probably explore this relationship to see if you are both at the same place romantically before the relationship goes any further and creates more emotional baggage than it has to.

Can you think of any other tell-tale signs that a person is carrying excessive emotional baggage? Feel free to share them with us right here on Dating Dames!

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Sure Signs of Emotional Baggage