If I were a strategic feminist, here’s how I would achieve family-friendly employment policy:

Place women in the human resource departments.  
Make the American economy dependent on women in the workforce.
Position a female candidate in the race for President.
Give every woman who wants one a pen and a public forum.

Wait, go down and check out who’s in your H.R. department, watch a Democratic debate, look around your office and count the women, click on a blog.

I know a few new moms who are finding the transition to Mommy difficult. I can totally relate. I suffered Post-Partum Depression pretty severely after the birth of my first child. I had just witnessed 9-11 which was traumatic and that most likely contributed to the severity of my PPD. I’ve written a little bit about it on So Sioux Me so you can read Fear Not, if you want to know more details about my extremely difficult transition into Mama.
I’ve had a second child since then and I have had five years to reflect on the massive overhaul of identity that …read more

A friend forwarded me a column by ROBYN BLUMNER, who says stay-at-home moms are worth  - ”nothing.”
This is in response to the whopping $138,000 that Salary.com claims at-home-mothering is worth based on the many roles moms fill. Blumner writes, “stay-at-home moms need to understand the reality of their choice. They are handicapping their future financial security and that of their children by being economically dependent on a man.”
She is absolutely right. But, so what?
I tried to ignore my maternal instincts and work full-time with the kids in daycare. I tried to buy into the whole “have it all” career and kids feminist promise. Believe me, I desperately wanted it to …read more

There are only 3 things I envy about men. By envy, I mean, things I wish women had that men have.
The first is the obvious – political and socio-economic power. Duh, 43 male presidents, history books full of men doing heroic and powerful things. All the men running companies, having the predominate power in all religions. I expect feminism, enlightenment and time to take care of this one. They had a good head-start and women are making great strides – thank you Nancy Pelosi, the first female Speaker of the House of Representatives, and all women everywhere for bringing about …read more

Okay, so I have pink hair and I love it.
Often I forget I have it and wonder why people look at me funny. Then I remember and I chuckle and it’s like an internal comedy for me, because otherwise I’m a typical soccer mom.
However, a recent visit to my hairdresser proved a disaster and now I’m walking around with BAD pink hair.
A friend of mine thinks I can pull off pink hair effortlessly. This is untrue, it takes an enormous amount of balls and self-confidence to wear pink hair in East Texas. In New York, where we used to live, …read more

I had this boss last year who was a “mean girl.” She was such a cliché that I found it rather funny and was able to see her from the outside of the situation and not internalize her opinion of me – sort of.
 
She pulled me out back where she would smoke and pretend to be my friend and very seriously she said,
 
You can’t keep coming to work with your hair like that. It is not appropriate for it to be pulled back and it looks horrible. You really shouldn’t get highlights if you can’t afford to keep …read more

Trashy television confession:
 
I watch The Girls Next Door and find it totally amusing. You know it’s the reality television series where we get to see how Hugh Hefner’s harem lives.
 
Understand, I KNOW it’s trash. I would never let my daughter see me watch it, I record it on my DVR and watch after she’s asleep.
 
What I find interesting about it is not only the exaggerated femininity of the three girlfriends, Holly, Bridget and Kendra. But, I find the fact that they are all vanilla ice cream quite ironic.
 
I imagine that if I were Hugh Hefner I would …read more

I I saw this woman who had sextuplets on Oprah last week. When they told her she was pregnant with an entire litter of babies she had the only rational and sane response I’ve ever heard of – she had a mini-nervous breakdown and had to be immediately hospitalized for shock. I imagine I might have the same response. I think having one baby at a time is a lot of stress and always prayed I would not have twins to double my stress. But, sextuplets. . . reminds me of that old ‘80s song by, who?, maybe REM, I …read more

I was driving to the gym one morning last week and heard Kidd Kraddick In the Morning making fun of JC’s mom for trying to use a Sharpie as eye liner.
The whole time they are bashing her I’m thinking, what a great idea, except that it’s too permanent if you goof up.
Truth be known sometimes I stare at women for long enough to make them uncomfortable. It’s embarrassing, but really I’m just trying to figure out how they got their eye liner to look so good. Frankly, liquid eye liner is their secret most of the time, but I just do …read more