If you are a former reader of Dating Dames, then you might know a bit about my ex-boyfriend.
He is currently back with his ex, who is the mother of his youngest child. They were split for a long time, most of two years, unless of course, they were not and he just said that they were. I would not have known the difference – we live in different states and he was the one who traveled to visit me.
He has her listed as “complicated” on Facebook. Not “in a relationship with.” Just “complicated.”  I think that sucks. Either do it or …read more

I’m a huge fan of Bonnie Hunt and her new show. Bonnie and her mom, Alice come up with some of the greatest things to say. Often, it hits a nerve with me (in a good way). This morning she was talking about divorces and breakups and Bonnie said, “If someone misuses you, don’t take it personally, just know that it says a lot more about them, than it does about you.”
I think this is important, for lots of reasons.

Image by Shutterhack via FlickrSometimes I seriously do just want to throw in the towel on the whole dating thing.
Other times, I find myself thinking, “Dammit, I deserve to be in love.”
Then I think, “Well, you’ve been in love, Lara. It’s never been anything but awful in return. Why bother?”
Sometimes I hate how other people who really don’t deserve to be happy, are.
Other times I feel like maybe their happiness is God’s way of making them be less like a piece of total poo in life. It’s handed to them for inspiration, for change, for growth.
Maybe I’m seriously okay where …read more

Image: davidandgoliathtees.com
So, okay. He broke your heart. He’s been manipulative. He’s made a fool out of you. Yes. Go dump his sorry ass. We fully support you!
But here’s an idea. Why don’t you top it off by sending him a gift that’s carefully wrapped and bearing a tag that says “Good riddance!”? What would you give just to see his face when he opens it and sees this shirt?
Mr. Liar, one of the Little Losers from David & Goliath.
On second thought, why bother? I reckon he’s not worth the dollars you’ll spend on the said gift. All 24 of them. …read more

We can’t really help it, yeah? Some things that are meant to be in the past refuses to stay there. Some people will continue to haunt you no matter hard you try to bury and forget them.
Personally, I can’t help but point out that wasn’t it enough that he and I have hurt each other to the point that we had to part ways? Why do we have to re-live the pain over and over AND over? The hurting stops here. I refuse to let another day pass by with the thought of possibility that the ex can (and most …read more

The past few weeks have been strangely eventful in dating and relationships land, don’t you agree? Well, at least, twas in my case — and a friend’s.
It’s funny how things are quiet and simple for a long time (think, years) then all of a sudden, you’d feel like the rug got pulled from under you. Lying there on the floor, you’d question fate, “WTF is going on?” Part of you wants to just laugh it off and the other wants to scream away the distraction. You can’t help but think (screaming in your head, mind you) about the probabilities that …read more

“Learn how to use deodorant you smelly git!”
It’s one of the options for SMS or text messages you can send to your Ex as a form of revenge at the website, getrevengeonyourex.com
A bit harsh, wouldn’t you say? You should see the rest. Gah.
When I came across the site, it made me laugh a little. I found it ludicrous that something like it exists. But I got to give him for tapping into this kind of, er, market. It made me wonder if any of you would consider availing this service to “get revenge on your ex”?