Personally, I can’t help but point out that wasn’t it enough that he and I have hurt each other to the point that we had to part ways? Why do we have to re-live the pain over and over AND over? The hurting stops here. I refuse to let another day pass by with the thought of possibility that the ex can (and most probably will) materialise and find a way to hurt me again.

Incidentally, I’m going to throw a few questions out there, all in the hope of finding some clarity. If your ex can affect you, regardless of degree, does it mean anything? Can you really be friends with an ex? Does an ex seek to hurt you (or is it all in my head)?

About the last question, I just think that sometimes, an ex can be too selfish that he or she can’t let the other person move on and be happy. Is it foolish to hope that this ex has it in him to treat you in a manner that reflects the “love” you guys had even when you’re no longer together? Yea, I’m not holding my breath.

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When the Ex Keeps on Haunting You

She’s insecure.
The fact that she’s trying to stay up to date on the current life of her ex would mean she wants some sort of reassurance that she’s “better off” but once she “bitches” about it, signifies that she’s not satisfied with who she is and where she’s at right now (or who she’s with). Hence, the need to put him down to make her feel better.

She’s envious.
Due to her dissatisfaction, the need to bash or “bitch” is a defense mechanism to mask her feeling of want. The bitching is brought about by a competitive nature that arose after the break up. It’s either a “keeping up with the Joneses” type or the need to always blatantly remind people around her that she’s “better off”.

She’s self-righteous.
I can’t help but say that it’s such a hypocritical thing to do. Sure, she can point out how grossly used she was when she was with her ex but she did “love” the other person, right? If she truly loved the other person, shouldn’t she be happy for him if he’s happy now? If she continues to point out his flaws (to other people at that) on why they aren’t together anymore, are you also highlighting your short-comings? A problem will always involve at least two people, don’t you agree?

She’s not over him.
If she still talks about him (esp if she talks about his past and current relationships) but claims she’s happy with who she’s with right now, then she’s one poor little girl who’s in denial.

She’s bloody stupid.
Why? If she claims that she’s never anything I’ve stated above then she should get a clue. The past should stay where it should and her bitching about her ex is pretty much pointless. Move. On.

Some women can be real bitches sometimes. Often, they keep up an image of being a good girl or the “victim”, pity the ones who haven’t “wisened up” but fail to realise that the world doesn’t revolve around them AND yes there are other stories — though seemingly intertwined — that they know nothing about (hence, the need to keep their noses out). If you’re an ex (like I am) you really need to mind your own business.

Personally, I don’t see the need to bitch about the ex or talk about his current girlfriend cuz I’d rather tell my friends stories about my boyfriend. Wouldn’t you do the same thing? Esp if you claim you’re happy with who your with right now?

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When the Ex Bitches

You’re a Buddy! You’re that girl that is every new girlfriend’s worst nightmare. You know the one—so nice, so friendly, and so close to and admired by her exes that she’s the standard everyone after her has to live up to. You may wonder whether your tight ties with old lovers impedes your ability to give yourself to the one you’re with, but no matter. Your pedestal position is more than enough to keep you holding your head high—even if new girlfriends hate your guts. TAKE THE QUIZ SEE ALL PRODUCT MATCHES Share with Friends | More Glam Quizzes | Shop at Glam | Celebrity Photos

You’re a Buddy!
You’re that girl that is every new girlfriend’s worst nightmare. You know the one—so nice, so friendly, and so close to and admired by her exes that she’s the standard everyone after her has to live up to. You may wonder whether your tight ties with old lovers impedes your ability to give yourself to the one you’re with, but no matter. Your pedestal position is more than enough to keep you holding your head high—even if new girlfriends hate your guts.

Oh, I didn’t think I’d be any sort of threat. It’s quite funny cuz I know a guy or two who are glad to be rid of me. LOL.

I simply think that ex-girlfriends are exactly that — ex-girlfriends. Thing of the past. No longer present. The important girl now is the one the guy is with. Okay, okay. I’m also trying to reinforce this thought into my head. Hehe. Insecurities get to us sometimes, huh? Anyway, I know well enough that it’ll pass. Anyway, it was entertaining to take this quiz. Go on and give it a go, meanwhile, I’m off to take the next quiz it’s prompting me to take, it promises to tell me how hot I really am. RFOL.

Have fun!

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Take the Quiz: What Kind of Ex-Girlfriend are You?

It’s funny how things are quiet and simple for a long time (think, years) then all of a sudden, you’d feel like the rug got pulled from under you. Lying there on the floor, you’d question fate, “WTF is going on?” Part of you wants to just laugh it off and the other wants to scream away the distraction. You can’t help but think (screaming in your head, mind you) about the probabilities that these sort of things would happen in your lifetime.

A friend shared her story of hearing from an ex of three years ago, a guy she jilted. Apparently, he seeks her hand once more but she gracefully declined. There were too many complications that time is vital in order to come up with a decent answer. So, yea, there’s still a possibility of a reconciliation between the two but it’s not 100% certain.

A week after that ordeal, it was my turn to tell her that MY ex came back into the picture. He’s not after my hand, though. Thank God. But simply being in close proximity in my new world, i.e. instant messenger apps and social networking sites, somewhat threw me off. Gawd. We’ve lost contact and never tried to re-connect for the last four years! Imagine how much we both must have changed.

During this time, the ex of the guy I’m currently seeing also came into the picture via a certain social networking site feature. To further explain that bit, this site allows the account holder to see who has been checking his or her site. And, lo and behold, the ex was on the list, not only on his account but on mine, too, and quite recent visits, too! It seems that she’s overly curious about her ex and the girl he’s currently seeing (me!). Heh.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

I just observed that these incidents happened within close intervals, which led me to surmise that it somehow is a season that exes re-surface. Or am I making a silly assumption?

Well, if these things are of coincidental in nature, I wonder if there’s an actual study on the when’s and the why’s this kind of thing happen. Is it possible that exes can detect if the other is now happy and on the road of forgetting them?

What would push an ex to explore the possibility of contacting the other?

My guesses would be:

• Curiosity
• Regret
• Missing the other person
• Closure

Which one is it? What do you think? Thoughts?

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‘Tis the Season of the Exes

It’s one of the options for SMS or text messages you can send to your Ex as a form of revenge at the website, getrevengeonyourex.com

A bit harsh, wouldn’t you say? You should see the rest. Gah.

When I came across the site, it made me laugh a little. I found it ludicrous that something like it exists. But I got to give him for tapping into this kind of, er, market. It made me wonder if any of you would consider availing this service to “get revenge on your ex”?

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Just how far will you go to get revenge?