Sometimes, we do have to ask ourselves which one are we. Are we the type who gets involved or one who commits? Every couple should take a step back and check which one you fall under. This will save you a whole lot of trouble later on.
Let me briefly paint a picture hopefully to define each:
Involved
You want to be in the relationship. You want to be a part of the other person’s life and vice versa. You are present in the relationship with all good intentions. You are after the results (short or long term). Your decisions are based on …read more

I’m talking in terms of exclusive dating, of relationships.
For couples, there are lines that are either expected to exist or intentionally drawn. These lines are applicable to any relationship outside your relationship, ones that either directly or indirectly affects. There are reasons why they’re there:
For Safety
The line is set to take active steps to protect oneself, as a partner in a relationship. Or it’s drawn to protect the relationship itself.
For Clarity
Think parameters. It sets the limits and expectations, which will help the couple reach a better understanding of each other’s roles.
For Security
The knowledge of the line’s existence will cradle …read more

I came across this wonderful post that talks about how individuals should re-learn the concept of “you have to work at it” when it comes to relationships. We all have to admit that, yes, there are stages that you go through that makes everything look easy but when the time comes that you find yourselves in a rut, it doesn’t always mean that you have to give up.
Here’s an excerpt from the post to give you a better idea of what to expect:
For example, this Monday, they were discussing marrying and breaking up and age. One of the morning …read more

Progressing into Intimacy
If two people click, there’s no other way but for the casual relationship of dating turn into something more serious like exclusivity. This opens the door for intimacy to enter your dating relationship and I’m not just talking about physical intimacy but rather the kind that brings you closer to a more solid and lasting union.
Discovering Intimacy
You will find the relationship fresh and sweet… and poignant. It, sometimes, is scary esp when you’ve been so used to just taking care of yourself, however, you’ll soon realise that this area of companionship brings a certain feeling of belongingness that …read more

When my initial thoughts, er, should I say qualms on exclusivity takes a different turn since I’m now faced with certain facts that made logic a thing of the past.
I bet I didn’t make sense, eh? Teehee.
Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that in dating, I’ve observed, you simply can’t generalise or, better yet, box everything in and package it as a fact. I learned that you’ve got to leave room for it to breathe and grow. No pressure. No force. Just sit back and let nature take its course. Sheesh. I think I sound like a …read more

What does an exclusive status in dating mean?
It’s a shame to admit to but I’m kinda lost here.
Personally, I think that when you go into a dating relationship, it doesn’t automatically mean that it’s in an “exclusive” status. Being part of that situation will not mean that the two are a couple… right?
Firstly, you go through the “getting to know you” stage without the real responsibility of taking care of each other’s business and then you establish some sort of routine when you go further into the relationship.
You still get asked to go out on dates without the presumption that …read more

Yea, I’m talking about that early, EARLY stages of the relationship when the two of you are sooo into each other that oftentimes you forget to check the rearview mirror when backing up. Uh, metaphorically speaking. Teehee.
Are you still on cloud nine? Still can’t stop grinning and giggling? Ah, well. That’s what I’d like to call the ticklish affection. Hahaha. Of course, I made it up. Nobody else uses it — uh, right?
Okay, my question is —
Coming from a casual dating relationship, how can you tell if you’re about to enter or actually in a serious relationship with the other …read more

There will come a time in a relationship that you and your partner will face the “next-level” predicament. But I’m curious. What exactly are the levels in a relationship?
I’ll state the obvious: Acquaintance, Friends, Dating, Exclusivity, Moving In, Engagement and then, lastly, Marriage. These are the levels that partners generally go through. I hope I didn’t miss anything. Anyway, some levels are skipped and they even have ’sub-levels’ like in terms of intimacy, physical and what not. Though, I can’t help but wonder, how important levels are to individuals in the dating scene?
For individuals who consider it important, several questions …read more