A few months ago, my friend *Tim (names changed because all my friends read my blog, it seems), told another friend *Anna, that he had feelings for her.
Tim and Anna had a great sort of – what seemed to be – brother/sister banter/bond. They’d hang out a lot, tease each other mercilessly, but all in a platonic sense.
Until that one day that, over linguine, Tim told Anna that he had had feelings for her…for years.
Anna did not feel the same, and let him down gently. Tim said he understood, that it wouldn’t change their friendship, and life went on uninterrupted.
Now, …read more

My friend Amanda* (names changed to protect the innocent) dated another good friend of mine for about six months two years ago.
After they broke up, they had a weird year of so of “in-between” where they were not together, but would have frequent sleepovers and be pretty much inseparable. However, whenever she broached the subject of them being together, he’d reinforce that he wasn’t in the place to be in a relationship.
Eventually, this erupted, and now they are trying to work their way toward any sort of friendship at all.
Last night, Ted* (name also changed) called Amanda and attempted to …read more

Oh, you’ll come across some women who are exes themselves who will bitch about the guy you’re seeing or even you, the current girlfriend, even when they claim they are in “happy” relationships now. To what purpose, you ask? Several but not one of them are good and valid reasons.
She’s insecure.
The fact that she’s trying to stay up to date on the current life of her ex would mean she wants some sort of reassurance that she’s “better off” but once she “bitches” about it, signifies that she’s not satisfied with who she is and where she’s at right now …read more

The past few weeks have been strangely eventful in dating and relationships land, don’t you agree? Well, at least, twas in my case — and a friend’s.
It’s funny how things are quiet and simple for a long time (think, years) then all of a sudden, you’d feel like the rug got pulled from under you. Lying there on the floor, you’d question fate, “WTF is going on?” Part of you wants to just laugh it off and the other wants to scream away the distraction. You can’t help but think (screaming in your head, mind you) about the probabilities that …read more

“Learn how to use deodorant you smelly git!”
It’s one of the options for SMS or text messages you can send to your Ex as a form of revenge at the website, getrevengeonyourex.com
A bit harsh, wouldn’t you say? You should see the rest. Gah.
When I came across the site, it made me laugh a little. I found it ludicrous that something like it exists. But I got to give him for tapping into this kind of, er, market. It made me wonder if any of you would consider availing this service to “get revenge on your ex”?

I was kinda’ reminded of exes last night when I was out with a friend. Come to think of it — it seemed like it was a night of “the ex” last night. It’s quite hilarious, really. Heehee.
One of the things I can recall from last night’s conversation was when I told him about my own experience of a close encounter with an ex and how I’m noticing that it seemed like I don’t bump into the guys [and sometimes hear from them] I used to date after the “break up”, which is both baffling and good, in …read more

Since we’re on the subject of exes, a question popped into mind that I think needs answering. I hope you can indulge me with your thoughts.
Would you date your ex’s friend?
Gayla raised the question about dating your friend’s ex a while back but now I think I’m posting a different question, right?
The idea has occured to me at one time and then some but never really allowed myself to fully comprehend it’s possibility even though I have heard stories of it being uncommonly practiced within tight-knit cliques. [Okay, that came out pretty subjective, eh? Sorry. Heehee.]
Anyway, I just find …read more

Several months ago I read an article that included the 5 most common mistakes that are made in online dating profiles. I kept the breakdown of that poll to reference and thought this would be a great place to share it.
The top five most common mistakes seen in profiles that are known to cause would be dates to click on by are, in order of offensiveness:
51% Not checking spelling and grammar
23% Writing about exes
13% Including other people in the photo
10% Trying to cut other people out of the photo
3% Choosing the wrong gender preference
What about you? …read more