I wrote a post a few months ago, Redeeming Men, talking about how my goal is to not screw my son up.

So, a friend of mine emailed me and said, “Do you know any good, kind, compassionate men? Your anger is coming out in your writing. It’s emotionally destructive to you.”

Duh. Hate that.

Angry writing on a women’s website. It’s just too easy. It reaches a certain audience, (other angry women for sure), but I have too much respect for my craft. I’m too ambitious.

Also, I just got bored. With the anger itself and with talking about the anger. It’s futile. …read more

Honest Wedding
Very cynical. But, is it true?

Naomi Wolf has an article about porn in The New York Times and its real effects on that fact that it’s become “wallpaper” and seeped into mainstream media.
For most of human history, erotic images have been reflections of, or celebrations of, or substitutes for, real naked women. For the first time in human history, the images’ power and allure have supplanted that of real naked women. Today, real naked women are just bad porn.
For two decades, I have watched young women experience the continual “mission creep” of how pornography—and now Internet pornography—has lowered their sense of their own sexual …read more

As Valentine’s Day approaches I realize – after sifting through the B.S. of romance books and movies and media interpretations of “love” – that what we all deeply want is a deeply spiritually connected relationship with our spouse.

One of the things that finally clued me in – aside from denouncing all the popular culture myths of what love is – is Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now.
It always breaks my heart a little when people get a divorce. Even celebrities. It’s worth mourning.
It occurs to me when others divorce, or when I have considered ending my …read more

Did you see 20/20 about the book Why Him?/Why Her? by Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist?
My husband, Jeremy and I agree, now that we’re out of the insanity of the hormone-driven mating phase that it’s communication skills and not passion or spark that keep a marriage together.
We found it interesting that 60% of the people in the world are in arranged marriages. And the success-rate is quite high in that few arranged marriages end in divorce. (Only 5-7% divorce in India.)
We think it’s because when it comes right down to it, what you really want in a mate CAN …read more

What married person can’t relate to having the same conversation over and over and over? UGH!

Just trying to stir up some funny in the hopes that people will come to the couples event at our church.

I’ve been reading Eckhart Tolle’s book, The Power of Now.

He introduces the idea of a Pain Body. The Pain Body is also discussed in great detail in his other book A New Earth.

Basically, he says that one part of the human condition is a pain body. We have personal pain bodies that result from things that happen specifically to us. But, we also have collective pain bodies that come from being members of a group – women, for instance.

Tolle says that because of several thousand years of oppression, repression, violence, rape, battery, harassment, slavery and sexism baby girls are born …read more

My husband and I made a commercial to advertise an upcoming Marriage Mingle we’re going to lead at our church.

I love what I can do with a Mac, iLife and YouTube. Technology is fun once you get past the learning curve and the frustration.

What do you think?

He’s redeemed the whole male gender.

Until he graced the planet I wasn’t sure the rest of them were worth dealing with.

Now, I think men might be all right since he’s joined the ranks.

Not sure what happened to bleep up some men – but, my clear goal is to NOT SCREW THIS ONE UP.

He’s a good one. Inherently good. Abnormally compassionate, sweet, loving, open and kind. Tough. Funny. Smart. No baggage, no grudges.
Did all men start like this? What the hell happened?

Photo Source: Empowering Girls: So Sioux Me.

Watch this awesome cartoon where Bat Girl sues Bat Man because he’s been paying Robin more than she for the same work.

To all you Republicans out there – It SHOULDN’T take an Act of Congress to get women Equal Pay.

But, evidently it does.

You’ve only had like one hundred years to let “the market” correct itself in regards to paying women less than men for equal work.

Hell, I’ve done far better work and been paid less than my saunter-in-at 10-am-and-write-one-article-a-week-lied-about-his-college-degree-and-still-get-paid-$15,000-a-year-more male counterpart.

One recent study found that over the course of a lifetime women lose approximately $434,000, on average, over a 40-year …read more