My parents NEVER talked to me about sex. Ever. My mom did, however, watch afternoon soaps with me from pretty much toddler-hood, and tell me constantly how eager she was to be a grandma.

Ultimately, I got my education from said soap operas, and later on, trashy romance novels – a reality based out of fantasy, with no basis in logistics.

I wonder, now, if that is the root of all my current problems? Of having nothing real, and clinging to the “maybes” and threads of hope that dating (or pseudo-dating) can offer? Would I have been “normal” if I had gotten the talk as a kid?

I can’t help but wonder.

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Not Talking to Kids About Sex

According to Trish Silver, the author of When I Remember Love, romance novels offer an emotional comfort food, which is relevant in tough economic times.

“Good romance novels can also be an encouraging force in women’s lives specifically, during economic downturns. They can show strong heroines overcoming barriers in productive ways.”

Trish says she likes to write about the power of true love and to show  that such love is a real possibility in their own lives, even when external circumstances may be more discouraging than usual.

What are your thoughts? In dreary tines, are you  more likely to escape to the world of fantasy – be it novels or soap operas, or some other form of romantic fantasy?

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Romance Novels: An Escape in Hard Times

What would you do if you introduced your new ‘main squeeze’ to your friends – only to find out later that your ’squeeze’ has lustful fantasies about one in particular?

Now, do you get angry or resentful because they were ‘honest’ and told you the truth? Or do you encourage them to begin, AT that point, to keep secrets?

Sounds like a double edged sword to me.

You’ll have to read the entire story by Kat to get the clear picture, but in the end, Kat asks some pretty intense questions that every single should consider when getting involved with someone an insisting that brutal honesty is always the best policy…

— Is honesty the best policy, even if your lover/spouse tells you who turns him (her) on?
— Do you get upset or jealous if he (she) looks at other women (men) with lust?
— And, if you get upset by that and tell him (her) to stop, do you think that he (she) still has those thoughts/fantasies, but then won’t feel safe in sharing things with you? In other words, do you just end up shutting off honest communication?

In the end, you should be careful what you wish for, because like Kat, you just might get it!

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Honesty – Be careful what you wish for