Most people have these fears and date anyway. What’s the alternative? For a select few, however, dating can cause some serious anxiety. Following are common dating fears that singles have shared with me, along with a few tips that should help.

Fear of Rejection
This is the biggie. Asking someone out puts a lot of pressure on the person doing the asking. No one likes being rejected, laughed out, or simply told “no.”

Ease the fear: Don’t give rejection the weight of the world. Understand that everyone, and I mean everyone, has been rejected by a date at some point. If the person you’re asking out is unkind, remember that is their issue and not yours. Feel sorry for someone that tries to put you down, because if you keep trying to ask someone out you will meet someone great, whereas the one who laughed at you will most likely still be alone.

Fear of Online Dating
For every person that tells me online dating has worked well for them, I usually have one or two more that think it’s too scary to try. The biggest complaints are that there are weirdos online or that someone at work will find out you are online.

Ease the fear: Never worry about what other people think about you dating online. First of all, it’s none of their business. So don’t tell them. Instead, go forth with the knowledge that in six months time you will likely have met the right one. That person teasing you won’t be laughing when you are happily with someone special.

Fear of Being Alone
This fear is the one that drives singles together when they should take some time on their own. People settle when they are afraid to be by themselves for any length of time.

Ease the fear: Look at your time alone as a gift. When you meet someone serious, you will at some point crave alone time. Use the time spent by yourself to get to know exactly what you what in a mate. Only then will you be able to attract the right one to you.

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Common Dating Fears

And you thought I’m going bonkers, eh? LOL.

If there’s one popular quote from a tremendously popular sports personality, this has got to be it. When it came into mind, I immediately related it to dating, courtship, and the whole love-relationship thing.

Oftentimes, we do want to throw in the towel, huh? Esp when we’ve experienced a lot of rejections and traumatic heartbreaks. No matter how many times you tell yourself that it comes with the territory, you just can’t shake off the feeling that it’s draining. You can’t help but ask yourself this question, “is it all worth it?”

But if you truly believe that you’re meant to find a person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you’ve got to keep at it. Stay in the game. You won’t get anywhere if you keep to yourself, sulking in your room, cursing life for dealing you a bad hand. Or several perhaps. That’s just it, though.

Babe really hit the nail hard on its head on this one. Fear will only paralyze you. It won’t give you your heart’s desire. Just look forward to those priceless moments you would never have experienced had you not dipped your hand in the game.

Dating can be hell. But it can be magical, too.

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Dating Advice from Babe Ruth