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Lets go back a few years, it was his very first year in public school and the third grade. This was a very bad year for our family, especially due to one teacher that told me flat out she hated homeschoolers. They were doing a cultural thing at school and watching a film, I guess SoccerBoy said something that was bad. I worked at the school every day back then, I’ve since never volunteered to help at any school. Part of me blamed myself for the way the teacher treated him, maybe she just didn’t like me so she took it out on him. Even if we never ran into one another, it embed a seed there. She waited four days to tell me about this, it happened on a Thursday, I heard nothing on Friday and finally she approached me on Monday.

“So Did you talk to SoccerBoy?” Teacher asked.
“Umm, yeah.”
“And?”
“Is there something we should’ve talked about? Did something happen at school?”
“Nevermind, if you don’t know SoccerBoy didn’t talk to you.”

In the end she finally did spill her guts and told me that while watching a movie of a two guys beating on drums SoccerBoy told the kid next to him, “I wish they had two sexy girls instead of these two fat guys.” When she told me I was left with my jaw open. She asked, “You’re surprised too.” I shook my head and asked exactly what wasit that he said that was bad. What the bad word was, I couldn’t figure it out.

I ran the sentence through my head twice before asking her just to make sure I hadn’t missed a curse word. But I couldn’t figure it out. The bad word….sexy. Oh and she didn’t understand why he’d prefer girls over guys. Ummm, if my son were stating he’d rather watch sexy men, wouldn’t that have came out WRONG?

Back to today, I smiled and asked exactly what they learned. “We learned what could count as sexual harrasment, both verbal and nonverbal types including physical.” But that’s as far as he got. Guess I won’t be learning anything new today. At least he didn’t get in trouble for anything though. Hopefully I can get to hear more of what was taught so I can hit on it more or write about it here.

I have noticed in the years since I was a child things have definitely changed, back in school it was okay to hold hands, pass notes or even hear a guy whistle. These days these are all against the law type of things, a student can get written up for any of them. I’m glad it is being taught how to conduct oneself around others but I also wonder if some of it isn’t going too far. I mean the word sexy in regards to my son not wanting to watch a bunch of guys dancing on a stage. She told me she could’ve had him suspended worse.  What do you think of sexual harrasment? Are they teaching everything that needs to be taught, or is there more?

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Sexual Harrasment Awareness at School

 Andrew Elliot, one of the people conducting the study found it, “…fascinating to find that something as ubiquitous as color can be having an effect on our behavior without our awareness.” 

Elliot and his co-author Daniela Niesta said the effect could be due to societal conditioning, though they attribute it to deeper biological roots because nonhuman male primates, such as baboons and chimpanzees, are known to be attracted to females displaying red.

Red has long been recognized as the color of passion and romance throughout history.  It’s rich and warm and I know that I always feel good when I wear it. It’s definitely not something that you wear if you want to blend into the background.

The study, detailed in the Oct. 28 online edition of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, is said to be the first to scientifically document the effects of color on behavior in relationships….The red effect applied only to males and only to their perceptions of attractiveness; it did not change their ratings of the pictured women in terms of likability, intelligence or kindness.

I remember reading once that men prefer the orange-red color and that women prefer the blue-red.  I asked my teenage daughter her opinion and she said, “I don’t like that icky orangey red.  Hey, why are you asking me this?  What are typing? Mom!“ 

Do you have a favorite red?  Do you have a favorite red outfit that you feel special in?  Or does another color work better for you?

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Put Your Red Dress On

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I’ve been told on many ocassions that I’m a “natural flirt”. Unfortunately (sometimes) this attracts natural flirts of the opposite sex who have no intentions, they just flirt without realizing it. Or they misunderstand me, and think I’m interested (regardless whether they are or not, or I am or not) and react accordingly based on their interest (or lack thereof).

Personally, I don’t think that conscious flirting is really necessary. I think if as a woman, you’re attracted to a man, and you’re confident in who you are, then the whole thing comes so naturally that you don’t have to think about it. You can let a man know you’re interested without concentrating on it or trying too hard (which can often come off really, really badly).

AskMen focuses on silly things like “She draws attention to her mouth,” and that just tells me that they’re playing into the fantasies men have. You’re either an orally fixated person or you’re not. Personally, I’d change this one around to say, “She focuses on your mouth when you’re talking.” I say this because despite how much I consciously try to focus on a man’s eyes when I’m attracted to him and he’s talking to me, my gaze always fixates on his lips. Shoot, I just gave it away, didn’t I?

In any event, like I said, I don’t really believe in trying to concentrate so hard on flirting. Likely because it’s just something that naturally happens with me, but moreso because I think that trying too hard to do anything is just bad.

1. Be comfortable in your own skin (and, in your fabulous outfit).
2. Be confident in WHO you are.
3. Smile.

As far as I’m concerned, that’s ALL you need to know.

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The Art of Flirting – Do You NEED To Study?

The tables offer Harrah’s a new way to track its customers’ habits and behaviors, adding to its sophisticated costumer rewards program that tracks users’ gambling habits.

Can you imagine how the dating scene would change if you could simply send a message to the hottie across the bar to find out if they are single or even interested in getting to know one another over drinks.

The dating scene sure has gotten easier – hasn’t it?

At the same time, I believe while the dating scene has gotten easier – it has gotten easier to fall in and out of love.  Temptations are greater and it’s always easier to believe there’s something better out there.

Read more…

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Microsoft and Harrah’s unveil high-tech interactive bar table

Devine Caroline explores random, everyday ways in which women might just meet Mr. Right.

We’ve all heard about the tales about meeting Mr. Right at the gym or by introductions, but what about those really off-the-wall ways?

What are some of the most intriguing ways you’ve heard of happy couples meeting?

Inspire us with your stories!  I’d love to hear.

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Single Men Are Everywhere

61 percent of single adults say looks are most likely to attract them to someone within the first minute of an introduction.

Only 17 percent said they thought sense of humor was most important and an even lower nine percent said they value intelligence most. And ironically, less than one in three single adults (31 percent) who have an online profile(2) regularly update the picture on their social network or online dating site profile(s).

I would think the fact that people don’t update their image as often could lead to a great hesitation in contacting those you might normally be interested in.  Sometimes you have to wonder if the photo is new, old, how old and if it’s even them.

While online dating can be a wonderful avenue to meeting love interests – you really do have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince(ss) whatever the case may be.

source: Street Insider

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Flirting a Major Struggle for Online Singles

This activity brought on an idea for a date. Wouldn’t it be a great opportunity to make the date a little different, not to mention, more intimate? It’ll be fab if the two of you will be cruising along city streets that are lit in such a way that produces a romantic ambiance.

You can stop occasionally, whisper in each other’s ear, and go have coffee at a quaint cafe that you two may discover along the way.

Vietnam is such a motorbike country to an extent you wouldn’t believe. The amount of bikes on the road seem to over power the other vehicles.

Anyway, what do you guys think of this date idea? If any of you guys have done this, do share! I’d love to hear about your experience.

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Date Idea: Rent a Scooter

If you do see a guy you like, can you immediately tell if he likes you? If you’ve got nothing but a small idea on how to even start figuring it out, here are some body language hints to help guide you.

Hint #1
The brow and the smile

Hint #2
His Body Faces You

Hint #3
Looks at your lips while you’re talking

Hint #4
Pupils widen and Blinks

Hint #5
Laughter

You can read the Body Language Decoder for more on the explanation on each one.

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Attraction: 5 Body Language Hints From Him

How can all this be possible? Well, it’s simply with the use of that functional tool you use to shield off the rain. The everyday umbrella. Heehee.

I guess I really don’t have to go on and paint a picture for you, yeah? This is just me making something out of the mundane. I believe in being resourceful even in the whole dating scene.

I wish I have a great anecdote to share to you guys but I don’t have any. I reckon if any of you readers of Dating Dames have a cute story to tell which involves an umbrella in a rainy day, do share! I’d love to hear it!

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On Rainy Days and the Umbrella

Okay, before I completely lose you on this, I’m talking about making the intended victim other person — the one you’re interested in — jealous.

There are two known motivations why a person would resort to this:

1. To stir up some sort of reaction that can help you determine their interest in you.
2. To drive the other person away (granted that you already know that he or she is interested in you)

It may sound silly but, believe it or not, there are people who do this. Even married people do it, even just to get some form attention.

However, I can help but wonder on the extent of an individual’s effort on the matter. Will you actually consider doing it? Esp if we focus on the second motivation. I reckon it’s a pretty cruel thing to do. Will you actually resort to hurting someone you know who cares for you? (This is considering that the other person isn’t antagonising you or something.)

Personally, I just think that no one deserves to be treated like that esp when he or she is a friend. I just can’t help but ask the question, “what has he (or she) ever done to you, for you to hurt him (or her) that way?”

This is a part of dating and relationships wherein things get a way bit mucky and darn frustrating, me thinks.

What about you? Care to share your own thoughts on the matter?

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Would you play the Jealousy Game?