Do you remember my buddy, Brett?  The guy with “no faults”?  Well, of course he has faults, I was being joke-y serious when I said that he was fault-less. Today I noticed one. He is on the insensitive side, at least when it comes to his wife.
Earlier in the week, he told me that his wife is taking a trip down south for a month. He said that he was surprised by that and he asked her if she was coming back. Yes, she said, “the girls are up here.” Uh oh, I thought – she’s really pissed about him wanting her …read more

In the past I’ve shared what I’ve picked up about the male perspective on dating and relationships.  I think that a better understanding of men and how they view things can only be a benefit – both for women and for men.  
Today, a friend of mine, Eliza, shared this post with me  Ten Dating Red Flags, by Rich Santos over at Marie Claire.  Rich shares some very important relationship points that are equally applicable to men and to women.  
For example:
1.  You Are Not on the VIP List For Breaking News.  Were you the last to learn about this person’s job promotion or newborn niece or nephew?  Once things …read more

I enjoy watching reality television and one of my favorites is The Biggest Loser on NBC. The Biggest Loser is basically a game show featuring people who are working on weight loss. This season, they are showcasing families. One trainer has married teams and the other trainer has parent/child (grown children) teams. 
If you’ve never watched The Biggest Loser, you might find the idea of a show of a show featuring overweight people called big losers offensive, but it’s really a positive show. It’s exciting to watch these people getting their lives back and this family aspect, it appeals to me both as a mom and …read more

I just read a really great post about stay at home wives/moms versus working ones at Girls Just Wanna Have Funds.
It got me thinking a lot.
In an ideal world, I will meet and marry a man who makes enough money at his job (regardless if he works at home or not) that I can continue doing what I love to do, which is my consulting business and blogging, and still raise children properly. (I use properly in quite strict terms – I don’t think it’s fair to bring a child into the world if you’re not financially capable to give …read more

I’m big on personal finance stuff… I love reading blogs about it, and I’ve even been known to try to start my own in the past, but I’m too busy making money to actually write about what I’m doing with it.
One of my favorite personal finance blogs is by a married father who is not just frugal, he’s downright SMART about money and how to save it without letting the frugality feel like it’s something of a burden to the family. On The Simple Dollar, Trent’s Twenty Free Ways To Please Your Lover (In A Family Friendly Way) serves as …read more

As I mentioned in my intro post, I have been involved in a long distance relationship for one year. Actually, today is our 1 year anniversary.  I love my boyfriend very much and I’ve spent more time than I would actually admit to thinking about how I want to live with him full time.  Okay, I will admit to this – a good part of each day has been spent picturing our life together. 
We did have a plan to move in together at one point, but circumstances, meaning job stuff, changed those plans.   Since that time, we have not spoken about it again.  Our visits …read more

I had this enlightening conversation with a new friend last night and it was on the subject of settling. I’ve heard this raised time and again whenever people would talk to me about relationships, staying with a current partner, or entering into a new relationship. To be honest, I’ve considered this idea of “settling” in a lot of situations I’ve found myself in.
The thing this person said about this theory had startled me. It was about the reason why people, mostly women, settle. Abandonment issues. The reason for my surprise was because I had recently realised this myself. …read more

Sometimes, we do have to ask ourselves which one are we. Are we the type who gets involved or one who commits? Every couple should take a step back and check which one you fall under. This will save you a whole lot of trouble later on.
Let me briefly paint a picture hopefully to define each:
Involved
You want to be in the relationship. You want to be a part of the other person’s life and vice versa. You are present in the relationship with all good intentions. You are after the results (short or long term). Your decisions are based on …read more

In the two decades that I’ve been seriously in the dating scene, I’ve never really considered that such a theory — or is it a fact? — exists in relationships. It’s probably due to how I view relationships, how I perceive life.
Beware the Window of Honesty, which slams shut about four weeks into a relationship. The more we become invested in someone, the more about ourselves we feel inclined to keep hidden. (Voice of experience: The explosive power of a secret will grow with the passage of time.) — Michael Crook, What’s the Recipe for The Good Life?
I recently …read more

How do you go about talking to your partner about the subject of jealousy?
Jealousy
Jeal”ous*y\, n.; pl. Jealousies. [ F. jalousie. See Jealous, and cf. Jalousie.] The quality of being jealous; earnest concern or solicitude; painful apprehension of rivalship in cases nearly affecting one’s happiness; painful suspicion of the faithfulness of husband, wife, or lover. (Source: dictionary.com)
In an ideal scenario, jealousy should be non-existent in relationships. After all, trust should be present in a healthy relationship. The former contradicts the latter. Without trust, the relationship ought to be non-existent itself.
However, we all know that to be human is to err. …read more