This morning she sent me an email telling me to check her Singlesnet  message box. (She has me check the interesting ones, because sometimes it’s good to have an extra set of eyes and ears.) There were four emails from a familiar screen name, but once she opened them up, she saw that they were actually from the guy’s live-in girlfriend.

The girlfriend left her name and number. Scarlet rang her and apparently they are planning some sort of a sting operation. Scarlet would make a coffee date and the girlfriend will meet him instead.

If I were the girlfriend, I wouldn’t bother. I would pack my things (or his things) and just be done with him. Why bother, why waste any more time on a man like that? Is that really going to make her feel better in the end?

Something funny this guy said to Scarlet, “Ask me anything. I’m an open book.”  I guess she forgot to ask the question, “Have you been living with someone for the past 2 years.”  That’s her fault, right?   Sheesh.

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Scarlet and The Cheater

Well, new girl is still in the picture – but last night, the guy stopped by for a brief visit to my friend’s place, and in the forty minutes he was there, they managed to get naked – again – followed by him getting all weird, and making an abrupt exit.

At this point, I’ve stopped blaming the guy. Clearly, he has issues. But my friend? Glutton for punishment, if you ask me. How can we expect the men in our lives to respect us, or take us seriously, when we perpetuate the same self-destructive patterns over and over?

My friend is in love with this guy, clearly. She can call it friends with benefits, or whatever, but the truth is, she’s just looking for any way to be with him, not realizing this is the only way she will ever be with him at all. And I’m just so sad for her, but I don’t know what advice to give anymore.

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Women: Respect Yourselves

They haven’t seen each other in a while – they still talk often, but he is a musician by trade and currently on tour.

In a really freaky twist of fate, my friend, also a journalist, was invited to a press junket out on the west coast the exact same weekend he will be there. Any other time, she’d jump at the chance for a free posh vacation. (For, that is what press junkets actually are.) This time, though, she paused…in actuality, it IS a coincidence. But will it appear that way? Or some clever ploy to get some action?

And, should action happen…is that necessarily a bad side benefit?

What would you all do? Go or not go? I am toying with the advice that she should go on the trip…and just avoid telling him she is there!

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Love, Lies, and Free Vacations

She’s completely in love with him, and has told him – he has gently told her that’s not what he’s about, and things have fallen off…and things have started off again. Repeat.

Said girl is obviously at fault for letting herself continuously go down that road to hurt..but when said guy sits at lunch and tells her about the awesome new girl he is seeing, does he not realize that said girl may be feeling mixed things? And might have feelings involved? Isn’t he sort of at fault too?

I realize this is a situation that begs a lot more explanation – but from those of you who have been in “friends with benefits” type situations – I wonder – have they EVER ended well?

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Friends with Benefits