“What many people don’t realise is that, should their soulmate change into the perfect ideal required, they both will be seeking different partners! Think about it carefully. People come together because they are attracted to each other .. AS THEY ARE, not what they hope to be. Change one person to something else and s/he will then be looking for a new partner to match the new characteristics they have acquired.” — Elaine Sihera, The Single Biggest Killer of Relationships
The article reports on the cause of bringing relationships to an end. Unmanaged expectations. Couples having set too high an expectation …read more

A few days ago, a friend and I got into chatting a bit and he decided to talk to me about trust, communication and relationships. It’s fun to learn that there are men out there who go through this sort of thing and it doesn’t just happen to women. This proves that both genders suffer the same problem but often differ on how they deal with it.
Men will always be different. In terms of which things are considered important, how they perceive things, and how they relate emotionally. Women on the other hand are built to handle relationships. One is …read more

A reader requested that her thoughts be shared with other Dating Dames readers. I reckon there’s no harm that we talk about this, yea?
They say never say things when you’re emotional because you might regret it later on, because you can never take it back.
Same with “rebounds.” When one is fresh from a breakup, or a failed relationship, one has so many questions left in his/her mind, insecurities come in, and confusion begins. At some point, one would want to do something about it just to feel better. People always crave to feel better. The process …read more

I received this email — made me pause for a bit and laugh — earlier this week. Curious? Well, reading about “why men are happier people” will tickle your funny bone. At least, it did mine.
It highlighted certain things that somewhat proves just how they are happier. While most claim that women are baggage-ridden, emotional beings, this email tells us that men are happy and carefree beings.
I couldn’t help but nod in agreement on some parts. I hope all you guys out there won’t take offence when you read this. Just think that it’s all in good fun. Hehe.
Anyway, …read more

I’ve heard things said a lot of times, pertaining to how much a person had changed upon entering a certain relationship. It can be a positive change or a negative one. I reckon one can’t help it, yeah? A relationship can indeed change a person. I guess all that’s left to question is just how much, which will be the basis of it being positive or negative. So,
How much of yourself do you lose?
I’m talking about your personality. Ok. There’s no right or wrong answer here (depends on where you stand about this matter, though). Granted that you have …read more

I’ve been quite the gamer lately. It all started when my boyfriend showed me this very cute PSP game, PATAPON, which turned out to be very addictive, too. Of course, the PSP wasn’t mine and I couldn’t get enough of playing games. I then toyed with the idea of buying myself a console, in order not to take the PSP away from him. So, yea. I bought a Playstation3.
I’ve been addicted to Guitar Hero III. But when I beat Lou in the Easy round, and halfway through the Medium, I decided to rest my weary hands. I was getting cramps, …read more

Men are strong, abled individuals. Masculinity is expressed in strength, firmness and superiority. There are times when men will come off as brutes and unfeeling. This may be due to their respective upbringing, i.e. “boys don’t cry” mentality.
However, there are men who need not resort to rudeness or callous behaviours to be called men. They see no need to break necks or be serial monogomists to exercise their manhood. They respect women; are gentlemen; know things such as honour and chivalry.
In and around relationships, whether platonic or romantic, men will find themselves in a situation wherein they have to balance …read more

Two titles bestowed on women. Some claimed, some labeled. Of course, these titles don’t apply to women in general; they’ve simply become widely used by both men and women in reference to the women of their acquaintance and/or themselves, respectively. You can’t help but ask questions: What makes one a man-eater? What makes the other a man-hater? Is there a need to label these women who fits the description as such?
For clarity, perhaps. To gain better understanding of the women who fall under these classification. It’s better that you, ladies, know if you indeed are man-eaters or man-haters, right?
Let’s …read more

Walking your usual route going to work or school, you encounter various guys you may or may not like. Same goes if you go out clubbing, coffee or just a meal with your friends, you’ll spot a guy in the room.
If you do see a guy you like, can you immediately tell if he likes you? If you’ve got nothing but a small idea on how to even start figuring it out, here are some body language hints to help guide you.
Hint #1
The brow and the smile
Hint #2
His Body Faces You
Hint #3
Looks at your lips while you’re talking
Hint #4
Pupils …read more

It’s my birthday today and I just received an awesome gift! This incident caused me to ponder on a thought, ‘the more valuable the gift, the more valuable you are to him (or her)’. It’s something that I’ve heard, though in a negative sense, from other people before. It’s either to complain about a *cheap* gift or the lack of one on a special occasion. (I’ll leave off names so that no one will get hurt.)
Do we really equate gifts to love?
I’m trying not to sound preachy. I want to approach this subject in a more rational manner so we …read more