Well, okay. Let me give it a go and list some of the things they talk about: Makeup and girly stuff while freshening up, recent shopping haulage, latest gossip (either showbiz or family or friends, whatever they’re most interested in), men and sex (depends on how bashful these friends are about that topic) or just a chance to compare notes or catch up on small things if they’re with a crowd and it’s the only time they can get away and talk.

Quite recently, I overheard a conversation among three snotty high school kids in the aforementioned location. Can you guess what they were talking about? Well, basically, they were gossiping about and getting a laugh at the expense of their classmate whom they think are not as “cool” as they are. Nice, yeah? Well, that’s cold hard truth. Cool, indeed. Heh. Some people find the comfort of toilets befitting of such behaviour.

Personally, I’m not the type who practices this sort of thing, needing to go to the bathroom with my girlfriends. I can go to the toilet on my own but of course I won’t turn away an offer to be accompanied by a friend who needs to go to the toilet, too. Conversation is to be expected if you’re with someone, right? But we don’t use going to the bathroom as an excuse to hold a meeting or whatever. I can always single out friends to talk in private outside the bathroom, just away from the group we’re with. Or perhaps schedule a different time to have that talk.

You guys have any idea on what sort of things girls talk about in the bathroom? Do you really think that it’s something that men should pay any sort of attention to? Is it really something significant?

Discuss.

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What do girls talk about in the bathroom?

In my personal opinion, some do and some don’t. It only varies in intensity and frequency. Some women still see the importance of conversing with fellow women and find joy in sharing bits of their personal life with them. Some women tone this sort of things down with age and tend to focus more on other things like career and such. Another thing that I also observed is that the things that the girls talk about moved on from shopping, crushes and boyfriends to housekeeping, kids and husbands — but, of course, that’ll depend on what really brings them together to talk.

These are behaviours of the female gender, which is quite active during their dating phase. They’re carried over to when they get married and still maintain close ties with other women friends. Like I said, either they mellow down or continue to rage on.

Sometimes, I do wonder if the girl talks and guy bashings become too addictive for some that you might think them so negative and bitchy about the opposite sex or, worse, their own. Have you ever encountered someone who can’t seem to stop jabbering about a past love or re-telling how an ex-friend betrayed her? Have you ever wondered if there’s too much girl talk and guy bashing going on that the time you spend with the group (or with just that person) is not healthy anymore?

Sidenote: I thought I’d inform the guys aren’t still in the know about this sort of things. Guys, there’s no need to worry. The worst thing that can happen is you’d need to see a shrink after experiencing it. (Kidding. Kidding.)

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On Girl Talks & Guy Bashings

There may be dozens of reasons as to why a conversation continues even when someone wishes to end it. Among them may be,

• An idea, question, or memory suddenly surfaces.
• When using a messaging app, you can’t really tell what the other person was typing, so, there might be an overlap in ideas.
• Even when you’re, er, sleepy you try to stay awake cuz you are enjoying the conversation.
• Or, simply, that the topic’s sooo interesting, so, you can’t seem to pull yourself away from the conversation!

It doesn’t automatically mean you’re still in love with the other person, right?

I want to know what you guys think.

Is it love? Truly?

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Is it love when you can’t say goodbye?

Hmmm.

I’ve heard it said that it’s best to go to that New Year’s Eve party with someone you’d want to kiss when the clock strikes twelve because word has it that he might just be “the one”. Does anybody know who started this tradition? In my country, it being a conservative one at that, we really don’t practice the kissing on the lips part when we welcome the new year. It’s unacceptable to kiss someone outside matrimony. But, of course, things are a bit lighter now. Some people who belong in the older generation would allow kissing between couples even when they’re not married yet.

Anyway, I digress.

Simply put, we don’t practice it so I really don’t have a good grasp on this one but I certainly am curious. Anyone care to enlighten me?

Though, thinking about kissing that guy on midnight — complete with confetti, fireworks, tooting horns and all — seems pretty exciting and romantic. Add the thought that you just might end up with him, granted that you like him, is like the cherry to sweeten the whole thing! LOL.

So, tell me — do you have someone to kiss?

Countdown… 3.. 2.. 1..

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The New Year’s Eve Kiss

Are women master manipulators in relationships?

Curious thought, I must say.

I was talking to a co-worker of mine about this quote I shared when she told me that it’s true. She does believe that women, by nature, have the ability to manipulate a situation to turn in their favour. I have to admit, to hear a married woman say that, surprised me. Then I’m caused to ponder on the thought some more and I realised that I, too, was guilty of being a “manipulator” at some point in my past relationship — the bitchy kind at that. Heehee.

I’m not particularly proud of that and I did try to make amends for it. Believe me, boy, did I pay for it. LOL. Well, anyway, it’s a good thing I got to think about this theory. However, I can’t help but wonder if it applies to ALL women.

From what I’ve observed with women, some have the knack for “smooth talk” and/or has her way with twisting semantics. Some may call it a subtle way of training the man to think he’s thinking for himself but in reality it’s the woman feeding him the idea. Personally, I reckon that these women have tapped into the power of persuasion. Most politicians and successful businessmen have it.

When viewed in relationships, however, it seems unethical and detestable. You might be right, especially when this so-called power is used for selfish interests and eventually leaving their partners badly scarred. Come to think of it, it’s somewhat abusive.

I’m sure there’s some sort of balance being practiced in most relationships. Uh, right..? But what I’d really like to know is how do women feel about being stereotyped as a manipulator. And for the guys, I’m sure you have a thing or two to say about this matter like how you feel about the women who are and your experiences about being, er, a “victim”.

Discuss.

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Are women master manipulators in relationships?

I lifted this quote from ma friend Rico over at Fool for Five.

Isn’t it quite apparent that I’m trying to start a gender war here? LOL. Nah. I’m just playing. I just found the quote or, uh, zen teaching(?) equally funny as the last quote I shared to you guys.

Read more of Fattifatbastard’s guide, I suggest you brace yourself for more laughs. Enjoy!

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Maharishi Fattifatbastard’s Guide to Zen, er, dating..?

“Marriage is give and take. You’d better give it to her or she’ll take it anyway.” — Joey Adams

Aw, shucks.

How did the women turn out with a reputation like this?

I hope this made your day a little more brighter.

Source

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Funny Quote of the Week

Thoughts? Opinions?

Uh, violent reactions perhaps?

I’m one of them who thinks that it is possible to be just friends with a guy. But I have to admit that if we are to bring “attraction” into the equation, it can definitely complicate the friendship. Hands down. Especially when everything’s one-sided. Ugh. Train-wreck.

Here’s the argument.

I actually went ahead and did what the he said I should do to “ease my doubts” about this theory. I asked the questions and I got an almost-verbatim set of responses.

• ME: question
  HIM: yep?
  ME: do you have any girl-friends who you want to only ever stay friends with?
  HIM: yep
  HIM: is this for dating dames or something?
  ME: yes sort of
  ME: why wouldn’t you want anything more with them?
  ME: pssst
  HIM: hmmm…
  HIM: well, I’m not attracted to them…
  HIM: they’re not attracted to me…
  HIM: either of those reasons.
  ME: do you have any girl friends who you’d like to get together with?
  ME: psssst!
  HIM: well, with ****, but just for [coughs].
  ME: just a simple yes or no will do
  HIM: yes
  ME: but you answered my next question

Weirdness. After that conversation, I’m finding myself inching towards the belief that all men do think alike. No exception. Hahaha.

Here’s a way to validate the claim.

I guess we, the women, can continue to think that our guy friends remain unaffected. According to the logic used, we’ve got 3 good points we can use as criteria then just apply the process of elimination. However, it won’t affect the fact that we’ve already proven that the initial statement made in this post is true.

The presence of attraction dooms the friendship between man and woman.

Tip: If you’ve never considered this guy friend of yours before, perhaps it’s a good time to do so. Especially if you can come up with a positive answer to the “why not?” question. However, if you already know for certain that it’ll never happen then you’ve got to re-think the friendship. Sad but it’s only fair, right?

You can also check out:
The Friend Zone
When do you call it a date?

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In the Spotlight: The Guy Friend

I, now, have a new blog-addiction. Reading the utter craziness written by this Noisy, Noisy Man! Hahaha. I really had to laugh out loud! He’s friggin’ funny! Mind-numbingly C-R-A-Z-Y! [All meant in a good way, ok?!]

Since I did a feature for the women on how to care for their new boyfriends, I thought I’d extend the same courtesy to men who have — uh, not necessarily new — girlfriends.

Of course, in my readings, I stumbled onto these posts from his series, Troubleshooting your Girl: [Provided some excerpts, too.]

Troubleshooting your Girl: PMS

“You can also say ‘Honey, my wallet is upstairs. Help yourself.’ But I won’t advise it, lest you’ll have different variants of chocolate for dinner for the next three months. And your woman’s closet will be unexplainably filled to the very last inch with fur coats, shoes, handbags, and other girly stuff we men don’t even want to touch.”

[What is it about men and PMS? Honestly.]

Troubleshooting Your Girl: Your Wallet Beckons

“Rob a bank – This is probably the simplest solution to your problem. Borrow some of your girlfriend’s stockings, put it over your head, get one of those cheap Chinese-made Swiss Army Knives that you’ve been collecting (you can finally use ‘em!) go to the bank, and scream ‘This is a stickup! I want your money!’”

[You've got to check out the Pros and Cons. Heehee.]

Troubleshooting Your Girl: Read Her Mind!

“The Pickup Line. No, women would not appreciate it if you state outright that you just want to get into their pants.”

[Note: I got the male and female images from this post. Great way to illustrate a point, I must say. Hahaha.]

I’m sure it’s not meant to offend us, females. It’s done in good — un-clean(?) — fun. I do suggest you head on over there, read them posts and get to know this Noisy, Noisy Man. His blog is crazy fun!

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Tips On How To Troubleshoot Your Girl

“If she hasn’t given you her weekend, then don’t even say you guys are dating.”

I lifted this thought from a friend’s post, which was quickly followed by a number of people commenting that they agree with it.

Hmmm.

I guess, it’s time for my *opinionated* self to dissect the said thought. Hehehe.

The essence of the statement is as real as the sky is blue. Well, from where you’re standing, looking up, you’d see that it is blue but if you try to bottle up the sky, it’s not really blue, right?

Alright. Alright. I know you may be thinking — what does the sky have to do with dating on a weekend? Uh — just give me a chance to explain, people!

The essence that I was referring to was the importance of “time allotment” in dating. Some schedules are simply too cramped for dating. Or perhaps priorities differ for each person. Bottomline, giving significance to going out on weekends is somewhat silly.

To further elaborate, let me illustrate.

Girl A [let's call her Isabel] keeps a 58-hour work week on the average and has her weekends free for leisure activities with friends, family or dates. Girl B [let's call her Alyssa] keeps a normal 9-5 job and spends her weekend doing volunteer work, hobbies and activities with family and friends.

For Isabel, weekends are quite normal for dates and is no inconvenience to give up. For Alyssa, it’s the only time for her to do the things she loves and prefers to go out on a weekday, thus, making weekends strictly a time for personal space.

Get the picture?

If you try to define dating in terms of what days in the week you go out on is really silly. It simply cannot be limited to that! Hahaha. I’d like to say that it’s the frequency and the quality of the dates, which the two of you have that matters and will ultimately define whether if you guys are, indeed, dating or not.

*End of opinion*

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On Giving Up Your Weekend