I have had a bit of trouble writing relationships this Summer. My daughter, Bailey, my oldest girl at 17, has had a really tough time. It’s been very hard to watch her struggle, to watch her go through so much pain.
However, it appears that things are looking up for her. I can’t fix what happened to her this Summer. I can’t make it hurt less, but I can encourage her about the future, which is what I hope I’ve been doing.

Yesterday, on her birthday, her father called her. She had not spoken to him in a couple of years. In …read more

I’ve always heard a lot about closure. A person will say they “need closure” or someone will advise another person to “get closure.” I thought it was a load of BS. Nothing anyone said or could say was going to make it easier for me to move on. The circumstances that lead up to a breakup hurt and time was the only thing that would lessen that pain, not closure.
Closure represented a sort of door. Open door=pain. Closed door=healing.  No closed door ever truly changed the way I felt. It could not be that easy.
I was in a relationship that …read more

I came across another “old” email from the people at Kineda, pointing me to their somewhat useful post, Top 10 Breakup Songs to Get Over Your Ex-Boyfriend. It’s quite an entertaining read, actually. They’ve listed the following songs that they’ve picked to be part of this fun list.
1. I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor
2. Since U Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson
3. Irreplaceable by Beyonce
4. Survivor by Destiny’s Child
5. Over It by Katharine McPhee
6. Not Goin’ Cry by Mary J. Blige
7. Ain’t It Funny by Jennifer Lopez
8. Get Out (Leave) by JoJo
9. Don’t Bother by Shakira
10. My Happy Ending by …read more

There are several ways on how you can get over the feeling. I don’t know them all since there’s always a different way for each person so the ones I’m listing won’t apply to all. I only included the ones I’ve, somehow, tried and proven effective. Hahaha.

Wait it out.
Let yourself feel it but without doing anything about it. This requires a certain amount of restraint and control. You have to be lucid. You begin to rationalise the emotion and situation and try to be objective. Treat it as if it’s just one of your work projects that encountered a …read more