In the last year both my brother and sister got married.  Now that they are no longer single it is a rare occasion that my parents and I get to spend time with them without their new spouses.  Although I love my new in-laws and I think it’s fun that our family has grown larger, I do value the rare times when I get to bond with my siblings on their own.

This week I am on a five day trip with just my sister, my mom, and my puppy and it is wonderful!  We hangout all day, laugh, go shopping, get facials, eat ice cream, watch silly tv shows, and just enjoy each other’s company.

Mom, daughter, sister, and girlfriend bonding is so important for balance in your life.  Sometimes you just need to spend some time with the girls to chit chat and laugh and maybe treat yourselves to some shopping and mani/pedis.  You will probably miss your man, but I promise that your friends and family will cherish that one-on-one time that they get to spend with you.

Sometimes when relationships are new and exciting it’s hard to remember to schedule trips or weekends away from each other to just spend time with the girls.  But make it a priority!  Don’t just do it to be a good friend/sister/daughter, but do it to be good to yourself too.  It’s important to find that balance in your relationship where you can be happy when you are together, but also happy and comfortable when you are apart.

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Spend Some Time With The Girls

I begin this post by telling all of you that it is okay to be in therapy, that it is okay to tell everyone (including your critical Mother-in-Law) that you are in therapy, and it is okay to call your therapist when you need to.

We are not perfect parents. No parent is perfect…not even the overzealous super mom down the street who seems to have it all under control. Trust me, she doesn’t. She has as many skeletons in her closet as you do (and she probably has spanked her child just as many times as the mom next door but will never admit it, of course).

No parent is meant to be perfect. That is why we are supposed to have Girl’s Nights Out and Playdates (you know they are really for us, right?).

And when things really don’t go right and we slip into dark holes during the winter that carry over until summer it really is okay to seek out a good therapist to talk about your non-existent sex life or the entire bag of donut holes you ate at 12:30 a.m. last night while watching Mad About You reruns. And it really is okay to talk about why you want to secretly be like Romy and Michele or why you give up and don’t brush his teeth for the third night in a row.

Parenthood is tough.

And it really is okay to be in therapy.

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It Really is Okay to Be in Therapy