The Top Ten Somethings about Marye.

1. She’s Hot!

2.She can Cook!!!

3.She makes great looking kids!

4.She is great at painting(on canvas)

5.She is generous.

6. She gives everything her best.

7.She is an awesome teacher.

8.The girl can talk…(that’s why I’m a great listener)

9.She is creative.

10.Did I say she is Hot?

So to you out there reading who are wondering, I am the guy she was referring to in her post “sitting there shaking their head and saying how impossible it is…”

Yes, there are going to be times when the two of you are at odds with each other. Yes, that is putting it very nicely. But it might make a difference going back and looking at the list in those difficult times. Now if I can just remember where that post is…..

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There’s Something About Marye

As I was on the web with Marye’s new laptop while keeping our littlest princess company I came across an article on a news site that alerted me.  In the day with a 70% divorce rate, someone took the time to research a long forgotten secret.  Duh!

Lets face it, in a world that God created.  He created man and woman.  A little side note here.  Did you ever notice that Adam was kinda hip.  He sees Eve and he called her Whoa man!  Over the years the colloquialism is lost and the King James scholars changed it to woman.      Okay that was bad.  And now back to our regularly scheduled blog post.

The surprise is that someone had to research this.

Okay so it isn’t the biggest surprise you will ever run upon, and I’m not saying anything against blended families or single parent families.
It is interesting the author is an adopted child and incorporated that aspect into the study as well.
But yes, children will do best if raised in a household with their biological parents. There are and always be exceptions to the rules or norm, abusive home situations and the missing parent etc.

The Christmas Holidays, a time for family…

Any other thoughts or ideas?

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Surprise, Surprise, Surprise

I like my new laptop.

There, I have admitted it, o.k.?  It has a lot going for it…it is red, which is like my second favorite color in the entire known universe..Burnt orange is my first..but I don’t think they make laptops in burnt orange.

I wasn’t feeling good today and needed to be off my feet.  I laid in bed, with the youngest two kids cuddled up at my side, and wrote four articles.  Four.  I am lying here, in the dark with Kyrie snuggled in between Marc and I…They are asleep..the house is dark and quiet..and I am comfy..and yet I can still blog…as long as I can keep my eyes open.

Pretty darn cool.

I was thinking today of relationships..what we look for in our spouse..those things that we are alternately drawn to and repulsed by so to speak.  If it had not been for Marc doing a little urging I would have walked away from this laptop.  I wouldn’t have resented it or been mad about it..I would have just assumed it was another item that was out of my reach financially.

I need that from Marc.  I need him to look out for me and force me to be good o myself…because it is one of those issues I just wont do for me.  Same thing..this morning. I wasn’t feeling well…I am the designated driver so if I miss church everyone does and I was really struggling to get myself motivated to ignore my discomfort and go..and then Marc came in and said…No.  We aren’t going..you need to rest.

When  he does that I feel loved and cared for.  I feel secure in knowing that he will not allow me to push myself too far.  I think sometimes he feels odd stepping in to protect me from me…but it is a good thing.

Marc has the uncanny ability to make me feel very protected when he wants to.  It is a nice feeling.  I could get used to it.

So, wives, is there anything your husband does that makes you feel protected and safe?

Guys what does your wife do to inspire that protective man thing in you?

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I Could Get Used to This

An this is seriously all I have to say on the matter….

For this week.  I think.  Maybe….

As you can see there are a lot of ingredients that go into an orgasm. So many people are squeamish about their sexuality that it is a wonder that anyone has them at all.  Personally I would like to see a drive through… “Yes, I will take a four minute orgasm with a side of …”

Never mind.   Just seriously, stop being so serious!  O.k.? 

The only thing I haven’t really broached here in this series is sex toys and other helps.  I really think that every woman should, if at all possible, learn to create an orgasm on her own but I also realize that sometimes that doesn’t happen.  Sooooo….toys.

Toys are coming out of the…uh….toybox.  They aren’t just for perverts anymore.  There is a great assortment of them, and they are everywhere.  Amazon sells probably a couple hundred different kinds of vibrators!  When Marc and i took the blog I put a couple of my favorite shops in the links on the side bar.  They are not porn shops, and if I remember correctly they are Christian.  Amazon also has alot of stuff…so, I thought I would give you a quick run down on “stuff” and what it does.  That way you don’t have to ask your teenager.

Just kidding.

• Vibrator: can be used in a variety of ways from stimulation of the clitoris to stimulation of the perineal area of the husband.  When using a position that does not directly stimulate the clitoris you can use the vibrator for extra oomph.   Some vibrators are meant to be used internally against the G-spot, and then there are some that have internal and external capabilites for doing both at the same time.
• Lube: Lube comes in many forms.  There is flavored lube, unflavored lube, waterproof lube, and lube to use with latex.  There are lubes that heat up, lubes that tingle and lubes that deaden sensation to extend the husband’s ..uhh..”up” time.  (It basically holds off ejaculation longer due to desensitization).  If you are prone ot yeast infections don;t use the flavored lubes for penetration.  My personal favorite lube is organic coconut oil..it is antifungal, antibacterial, and nice and slippery.  You can melt it down a little, add some sugar free coffee syrup in your favorite flavor and make your own flavored lube.  So…Why lube?  Lube makes things slippery so that there is less chance of pain during penetration.  The slipperiness can enhance the sexual experience, and if you use one of the specialty lubes (tingling, heat) then it can add a different feel altogether.  Some people like it, some don’t.
• Flavored Powders and Frostings ust on and lick off.  Pretty darn simple.
• Vibrating Ring: This does several things.  It is all about multitasking.  It is a silicone ring with a small vibrator attached.  The ring fits over the penis and settles at the base.  It helps to hold in the blood(without cutting off circulation..it is not tight for most men) to help with ED problems.  It also vibrates giving a different sensation…it ALSO vibrates against the clitoris during thrusting so there is more action everywhere.
• Intensifying Gel: Goes by many names but basically it makes your clitoris more sensitive.  Increased sensation means increased pleasure, generally.  Be careful though, too much and it can just make you sore.
• Blindfold: Why a blindfold, you ask?  Blindfolds are sexy because you are out of control.  Remember, part of the whole intensity of sex is the being out of control.  Remember the scene in the video I posted?  Blindfolds, feathers, ice, different textures, and even light handcuffs or silk ties are all related to light BDSM.  It can be very exciting to be at the mercy of your spouse. (This is where the trust comes in).  Most people initially react with a “No way!”.  How do you know if you don’t try it?
• Penis enhancers: Honestly, I am not sure I could look at one of theseand not laugh..but they used to be called French Ticklers back in the olden days.  They are made of silicone and fit on the penis..they have various bumps, and other odd shapes on them to enhance the way it feels…if you can stop laughing.
• Ben Wa Balls/Luna Beads: Everyone knows that Kegels are good for you.  Well these are made to be used internally during kegels to increase the resistance.  They are also stimulating.
• Nipple Rings:These aren’t  piercings.  The nipple fits through a space in intricately patterned wire.  They creates enough tightness to let you know it is there. They are pretty.
• Stroker: This is a silicone sleeve for men.  Sometimes they have goop within the layers of silicone, and some have small beads…some vibrate. They are basically a fake vagina.  They are an excellent idea for couples that can’t have intercourse for a long time for some reason..just makes things a little different.  I suggested one of these to someone outside the family once, during a particulary difficult time…they really liked it.  I can’t tell you more than that..it isn’t something i will be able to use.
• Tightener:A cream that causes the tissues of the vagina to swell and tighten..I am not sure this stuff is sucha  great idea…
• Prostate Massager: The truth is that many  men really get pleasure form prostate massage but the only way to get to it is  anally.  The aneros is probably the best massager on the market.  It it inserted into the anus and has bumps that move against the prostate as you move.  The compay also does a similar one for g spots for women.
• Costumes: Again, it is fun to role play.  For some women, it allows them to leave themselves for awhile and become someone else. Since most men are visual it gives them a little different wrapping on the package.  Love Fifi is linked on the sidebar at the bottom.  It is by far the best place I know of to get costumes..
• Talk:Do not underestimate the power of well spoken words to light a fire.  Make some noise, let yourself go, say words that you wouldn’t say anywhere else..It’s o.k. Stop thinking and allow yourself to feel.
• Do whatever it takes to feel sexy.
• Games: There are thousands of games out there specifically to enhance your sex life.  There are many more that can be used in the same way…Twister could be a pretty amazing game if you play it naked, or partially clothed.  Strip checkers, anyone?  Loosen up and make your love life the mini-vacation it was meant to be.

I realize that there is a ton more I could have covered here.  Bu this is a good start, and I have a tendency to overwhem people anyway.
So for the rest of the week I will talk about something besides sex.

Glad it’s Thursday.

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Stalking the Elusive “O” Part Five

I was online this morning and ran across an article that caught my attention:

I usually turn off when I see Oprah mentioned but decided to read on.   Here is part of the article:

From the Editors at Netscape:

But the question that generated the most interest was: How often should you have sex? The multiple choice options: once a week, twice a week, 10 times a month, 200 times a year.

The answer: 200 times a year.

“If you have more than 200 orgasms a year, you can reduce your physiologic age by six years,” Dr. Oz says, basing this number on a study from researchers at Duke University who surveyed people about the amount and quality of sex they had. “They looked at what happened to folks that are having a lot of intercourse over time, and the fact is, it correlated.” Frequent sex helps prove that your body is functioning as it is supposed to. “But in addition, having sex with someone that you care for deeply is one of the ways we achieve that Zen experience that we all crave as human beings,” says Dr. Oz. “It’s really a spiritual event for folks when they’re with someone they love and they can consummate it with sexual activity…seems to offer some survival benefit.”

To see more of this article click on his link:   Sex: How Often

So, What do you think?   Is 200 orgasms a year like the “Impossible Dream” ?

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Want a Longer Marriage?

Do remember when you were first married? You were inseparable and you were usually holding hands wherever you went as a couple. You spent as much time together as you could. She would be at your softball or hockey game cheering you on. You even went shopping at the mall or grocery store so you could be around her.

So nowadays, are you still the same couple?

I know there are times we aren’t. Most of the time, but not always. I still kiss her when I leave for work or an errand, and when I get home everyday. We might not be doing the same thing together, but lately we are both in the office together blogging on the computers or doing research.

We still hold hands walking in the store, as long as I’m not using both crutches or my wheelchair. I will even still go to the Super Target when she is going for groceries, as long as I don’t have to be at work or church for Royal Rangers. No, I don’t get excited about shopping, but I want to be alone with her and spend precious time with the woman who is the love of my life. I want to be with her. It is like a oldie song, I feel like “Precious and Few Are the Moments We Two Can Share.”

We can’t be together enough. Sure, there are exceptions to the rule. You know, like when she is upset with me, because perhaps I did or said something wrong. But 99.9% of the time we can’t get enough of each others company. Funny thing though, hmmm, Marye doesn’t want to spend time with me at the gun range.

Just kidding.

This post is merely a reference to one of the facets of our twenty-eight years together as husband & wife. For better or for worse… Personally I think I got the better part. Right now she’s having to deal with the in sickness or in health line with my pain issues for the past 15 months. We both believe that this is not permanent, and with God’s help we will get through this test of my faith.

Hopefully you are doing as well as Marye and I in this area of our marriage. If not,there’s some food for thought.

Blessings.

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The More Things Change, the More They Remain the Same.

So I was thinking this morning, Wow we have had some great times. Sometimes I have to think back to a different time and remember fondly some of our memories together as a couple.

There are to many to mention now. There are things we did that just happened, like the Sprite soda incident before we were married.

Marye thought maybe she would discourage me by pouring Sprite on my head. But it didn’t deter me.

I eventually got a date with her. A mercy date , but that was a night to remember too. The Marine Corps Ball for MCAD DLI-FLC 1979. That was our first date. We had a great time. there was the pomp and ceremony, with me on cake detail. I was one of the last of the Marines in the ceremony that passed out after overheating in our dress blue uniforms and keeling over.  This was due to a long winded guest of honor’s speech… went probably 40-45 minutes longer than it was supposed to. We had been left at the position of attention. That portion of the ceremony was supposed to last only 12 -15minutes. That’s a story in itself. I think at least nine men on the detail literally fell out.

Our first date finally ended in the barracks stairwell with a goodnight kiss at about 2 or 3 am.

Our wedding of course, at Lover’s Point Park in Pacific Grove , Ca. and the reception in the upper room of one of the Marines favorite hangouts on Steinbeck’s Cannery Row , a restaurant named “Kalisa’s”. The only reception I’ve been at with belly dancers. Those memories help me remember how I loved Marye then and how much that love has grown over the years.

There were also great times when my in-laws watched the kids so we could get away. The weekend we went to check out the art gallery to display Marye’s oil paintings was awesome.  It turned into a rainy romantic Sunday afternoon on the Mandalay Canal, cuddling under a bridge to get out from the rain, after we perused the shops and galleries.

There was also the weekend getaway I found out about when I got home one Friday after work. I had the weekend off and Marye had our bags packed for a weekend at the historic and beautiful Aristocrat Hotel in downtown Dallas. Marye won a Hula Hoop contest that Friday night in a club at the West End Entertainment District of Dallas.

Just thinking of these and other memories can make you want to rekindle some of those feelings and make some new memories as well. Whether you are going through great times or low times in your marriage making these kinds of memories can strengthen your relationship. It can sometimes be a sacrifice, whether it is financially or in time but it will pay off in the end.

We need to have one of those getaways soon kid. Don’t you agree?

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Memories are Forever

1. A full social calendar
2. Good food
3. Sex
4. Laughs
5. Encouragement when I’m down
6. A thousand touches that say “I love you”
7. More good food
8. Amazing kids
9. Someone to be impulsive with
10. Some one to grow old with

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10 Benefits to Being Married

A very good thing.

One of our fundamental needs as people is to be known for who we really are. Whether we are good, bad, or most likely some combination of the two, we desperately long to be “naked” in the eyes of another. We want to stand before someone, say, “This is the real me,” and have them reply, “Yeah, I know. Now lets get on with it.”

An important element of this deep knowing is knowing a person’s past. Our past does not define our present, but it certainly shapes it. Whether that past is a source of guidance or something against which to rebel, where one comes from holds keys to where one is going.

But this knowing must be something that surpasses an academic understanding. You can’t know a person in this deep way by watching their biography on the History Channel. That knowledge comes only from proximity, time, and shared experiences.

Kerri hates the Ohio State Buckeyes. If you know her, this will not surprise you. The copious orange and blue in her wardrobe are clues to her Illini fan status. And if the colors don’t give it away, the fact that each of those shirts, sweats and hoodies is emblazoned with block print “ILLINI” the it, ought to be enough for anyone to get it.

But Kerri’s hatred toward the Buckeyes and her love for the Fighting Illini run deeper that the obvious causes. These are facts not completely explained by her years growing up near Champaign, Illinois. Though not obvious, I know why. I know with a fair degree of detail exactly how, when, where and why this all came to be. I wasn’t there when it began, but I was there not long after and for most of the developments since that beginning. We’ve shared the stories, and I know them as well as or better than I know some of my own memories.

And that is one of the things that makes a marriage awesome. Between us, Kerri and I know a great many things about the other, things that no one else knows, things we scarcely know ourselves. There a moments when we can anticipate the other’s reaction or response. Sometime that only means Kerri knows the punchline before I utter it for the umpteenth time. Other times, however, it means much more.

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Blast from the Past

I know, I know… not a very romantic date. But a date nonetheless, because after all, what is a date? At this stage of life, a date is leisure time together without the kids. And while I love those blessed hours between 8:30 and 11:30 pm when the kids are in bed, they don’t count as a date. We are still on duty, even if the inmates are sleeping.

Now I wouldn’t want every date to be this low key, but sometimes it is more important just to make time – any time! – that to make a big deal. I was delighted to share a quick bite and some adult conversation with my wife. Besides, who can pass up a Chicken Teriyaki and Fresh-Cut Fries?

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What is a Date?