Sometimes, we do dive into the whole dating scene head first, which as you would expect will incur unnecessary wounds and headaches (to say the least). And as the years pass, meeting one person after the other. Experiencing heartbreaks which will drain you to the point that you would want to drop everything for a while, focus your energies on something else — a hobby, a sport — as long as it’s done alone.

According to the theory, knitting works wonders in keeping yourself pre-occupied, keeping your mind off of sex. It’s probably due to having both hands busy, which a specific goal, i.e. knit a sweater, in a short period of time. You need to concentrate in order to successfully finish one.

Then again, it’s just me trying to put a definition to the whole thing. I still wonder at the effectiveness of the task. So, have any of you guys thought of taking up knitting? Perhaps you can provide clarity.

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Have you taken up knitting?

How would you define this most sought-after emotion known to man?

I had spent countless moons trying to decipher the mystery of it. I have come to the conclusion that it’s simple really. I was just looking at it too closely and over-analysing it. Heh.

I am aware that my meager attempt of a definition will prove to be unsatisfactory to some if not most but I just want you guys to keep an open mind and know that I have found some sort of peace with the knowledge I now possess. Hehehe.

Love is a decision.

See… I told you it’s simple.

Allow me to illustrate how this definition works. Many philosophers have de-bunked the theory that one can simply “fall in love”. Even if it can be supported by Newton’s Law of Gravity. Love just doesn’t happen involuntarily. You allow yourself to experience it. I reckon you choose to jump — if I am to use the same analogy.

What do I mean? Small decisions that leads up to that point of agreeing to a date or perhaps even to that point wherein you initiate contact with the opposite sex. Everything contributes to the domino effect.

Furthermore, I believe that you are in control with whom you are attracted to. You choose whom you go out with. You choose whom you become friends with. You choose whom you want to have a relationship with. You choose whom you marry. Bottomline, no one pushed you into something in the area of love. You have the final say if you choose to risk it with someone.

I recognise the fact that one will experience the *magic* or *chemistry* especially during the initial stages but I can’t simply throw out the fact that you choose to think about such things. You do engage in the process of thinking under such situations, right? Anyway, when you think, you weigh the pros and cons and all the things that you normally think of when you need to come to a decision. It’s like when you go out shopping, “Oh, that pair of shoes will go well with my new top!” See what I mean?

It’s the same with love. You think and make the decision to welcome another into your heart and life. You can’t help making mistakes sometimes but like every wise decision-maker, take it in stride, learn and move on. It may come off as cold and heartless but believe me it’s not that bad. Heartbreak sucks but it’s not the end of the world. There will be other opportunities. Just think that it’s time to use the contingency plan.

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Define Love Please.

Is there anyone who really believes that garbage? Or are you like me and believe it’s one of those old clichés that people say just to get a person to shutup when they’ve had their heart stepped on like a June bug in July and are stuck in whine mode.

Perhaps I’m a bit too cynical when it comes to love, but I honestly don’t know of one ex that was truly worth the pain of heartbreak for me to say I was better off because of it. Nope, not one!

Oh sure, I believe there’s bound to be heartbreak when it comes to the whole dating thing, isn’t that what Ben and Jerry’s was invented for?

If you have a better to have loved and lost story you’d like to share, feel free… as for me, I’ll stick with Ben and Jerry’s.

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I’d like to thank one of my already loyal readers for this submission. Though she would like to remain anonymous, she’ll know who she is! Thanks T!

We’d love to hear from you too! If it’s got to do with dating, we’ve got the place for it!

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Better to have loved and lost…