“You’re not bringing your mother home for Christmas!” a friend exclaimed, after my mom moved to a nursing home. 
“No,” I replied, “It’s too confusing for her.”
After discussing the situation with the staff and assessing Mother’s condition myself, I never took her back to our home from the nursing home.  In her case, she was 275 miles from her home because I had to move her to mine in another state.  Mine never became “home” to her, and she really couldn’t understand why she had stayed with Jim and me for several months.
Living a Life in the Past
By the time she …read more