How can all this be possible? Well, it’s simply with the use of that functional tool you use to shield off the rain. The everyday umbrella. Heehee.

I guess I really don’t have to go on and paint a picture for you, yeah? This is just me making something out of the mundane. I believe in being resourceful even in the whole dating scene.

I wish I have a great anecdote to share to you guys but I don’t have any. I reckon if any of you readers of Dating Dames have a cute story to tell which involves an umbrella in a rainy day, do share! I’d love to hear it!

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On Rainy Days and the Umbrella

I know how tempting it is to grab that opportunity to hook up with that man you’ve been eyeing but you have got to let him chase you. This somewhat equates to retaining some sort of mystery around you. I know it sounds so cliché and all but it how nature works. Men are born hunters.

A good tip on how to do this: give that guy one small look that resonates a “maybe”. Make that look give out a thousand of opportunities but holds back the true answer to the question, “do I like you?”. Men will answer to it. If they won’t, at least, you know then that he’s not interested in you and you wouldn’t have wasted (or humiliated?) yourself in front of him.

This is part of the attraction — a test if you may — you will see if the man is indeed attracted to you and your, er, mystique. The interest will allow him to overcome is reservations or fear of rejection, know what I mean?

It’s also good to highlight that it’s a great feeling when a man chases after you — not in jest, of course, but just to solidify his interest.

Before I go, ladies, I hope you won’t use this to toy with a man’s feelings, ok? It’s not nice.

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Thrill of the Chase

The Unmask Method

How does it go exactly?

Well, according to this article I came across, you and your mate should…

One, use an opener that’s untrusive and un-alarming. Something like, “Hi, do you mind if we sit with you at this table until our other friend gets here? She’s running late for some reason.” Of course, it should be in a venue that’s somehow packed and would give you a reason to ask that from these women, okay?

Two, once seated you will act as if you and your mate had no intention of starting a conversation with the two women. Keep an open ear to what they are talking about but continue talking to your mate about other things.

Three, after a moment or two you should…

Move a little closer to the girl nearest to you and lean in. With a smile, look her straight in the eye and say: “Okay, I have a question for you. Imagine you were sitting over there at the bar and you saw two girls, like yourselves, sitting at a table like this one. Then, you saw two guys like us come over like we did, sit down and start talking to those girls. What would you think?”

From my point of view, this simple question has the potential to be effective. It’s a situational question that will provide an avenue for people in that table to engage in a conversation that somehow highlights the opinion of the other person and not your own. A girl will find it flattering since it somehow shows that you appreciate her mind.

That, my friend, is how The Unmask Method works.

Go on. I know you’re dying to try it. Just make sure you’ll come back and let me know how it goes. Heehee.

Source: Go Articles

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Hook Up Tip: The Unmask Method

Wikipedia lists the reasons and purposes when two or more people engage in the act of hand-holding and I’d like to cite some of them:

• Rituals
• Expression of friendship or love
• Enjoyment of physical contact
• Emotional support
• Physical guidance
• Dancing
• Arm wrestling

With that said, I’d like to focus on it being an act of expression of friendship and love.

In a relationship, the onset of physical intimacy will start with holding hands then perhaps move onto hugging then kissing, etc. However, I reckon it’s hand holding that remains the simplest and most evocative form of touch — which is of non-sexual or erotic nature — that two people can do to show their affection for the other.

Incidently, I’ve also heard said that the manner on how you hold the other person’s hand, i.e. right over left or left over right, intertwined fingers, held loosely or tightly, etc., says a lot about your personality or the kind of relationship that the two of you have.

Few of the things that also come to mind, when the act of hand-holding occurs, are how it signifies the comfort, concern, support, and unsaid affection that either or both parties have for the other or for each other, respectively.

This brings me to think that one should not take this act lightly. It can be a way for you to win him or her over or get your message across properly. Here are some tips on how to go about this business:

• With moderate eye contact,
• a kiss on the hand is romantic only when you have permission to do it,
• Never grope,
• Keep it light and un-intrusive,
• Caress with care,
• Learn when to let go,
• Sweaty palms is a no-go, keep your hands clean,
• And, please, don’t dare suck her/his finger! [I beg you!]

For me, I do believe that one of the sweetest things I know that two people can do is to hold hands. And when I say, hold hands, I mean it as an expression of love or friendship, regardless of how it is done. Holding the other person’s hand can actually say a thousand words that only the heart can translate. But that’s just my romantic-self, speaking.

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The Art and Science of Hand-holding

Kidding aside, I know flirting is one of the fundamental things you do as a single looking for a mate. Uh, I don’t want to talk about the not-so-single individuals who still practice it seemingly like a sport. Dear me.

Getting on with the topic then.

It’s a common misconception that you need to be loaded with money, oozing with sex appeal, drop dead gorgeous or suave in order to be a successful flirt, success being that you get a name, a number or, better yet, a date. These things just form the tip of an iceberg. It’s really the basics that matter.

So, what are the 3 Flirting Basics?

1. Be Smart

You simply have got to think. Using your common sense will never fail you. Believe me. You have to learn when and how to moderate the expression of your sensuality. Be socially elegant. Be dashing.

2. Be Composed

There’s something magnetic about an un-hurried demeanor. It somehow demonstrates an appealing air of confidence. Learning how to let the other person know that you are worth the wait and/or you’re willing to wait creates an irrepressible reaction from the other person because you’re somewhat giving the impression that being with you is inevitable. Perserverance accompanies this virtue.

3. Be Sharp

It’s quite simple, really. You have to be ready to flirt. Anytime. Anywhere. Know how to connect with a random stranger by saying “hello”, smiling back, or even initiating small talk. Always be presentable.

That’s why they call them the basics. They’re simple. They’re non-discriminatory. They’re equalisers. Anyone can be successful flirts. All you got to do is practice. Eventually, you’ll see that everything will come naturally for you. The results will speak for itself, you’ll see.

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Learn the 3 Flirting Basics

It can be considered a taboo in most cultures — it certainly is in mine! — particularly in women. We blush. We squirm. We simply don’t speak of it outside our closest friends’ confidences. It’s something most women are uncomfortable showing, much less talk about, with men.

But the thing is, the more comfortable you are in being sensual, the more sexy you become in the eyes of others. I’m not talking about blatant, vomit-worthy sexy. Rather, I’m referring to the complete freedom in expressing your femininity and the sensuality of the gender.

I’ve observed that men like women who are comfortably sensual.

So, there’s an idea. Perhaps if you can work on getting in touch with your sensual side until you reach a comfortable level, your attractiveness may, just as well, increase. This trait will become evident as you deal with men. They will notice it. And just maybe, you hooking up with that guy you’ve been eyeing for quite some time will be within your reach.

Sounds exciting, isn’t it? So, what do you say? Care to give it a go? Go on. I know you want to.

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Let’s talk about our sensual side…

Straight from the mouth of a gamer. He educates other male gamers on just how to manouver themselves in the dating scene using illustrations that show how their “experiences from games relates to the romantic sphere”.

Who or what is a gamer anyway? Well, ever heard of these games? Online games?

World of Warcraft. Ragnarok Online. Guild Wars.

Sheesh.

These people do establish an online community much like how bloggers relate to other bloggers through their blogs but, of course, they have their characters, raids and guilds. However, here’s a really funny bit on where gamers stand when it comes to dating. [Not that I'm knowledge-able in these things. My brother's a gamer, though. Heehee.]

“Face it, you spend more time thinking about leveling up than you do about dating. Even if you think about sex constantly, you are not working on ways to get it. You need to start planning ahead a bit, for chance favors the prepared mind.” — Kill Ten Rats

And here’s a primer on how exactly he went about his “lesson”. Heehee.

“How long did you spend planning your last character, guild event, or raid? How long have you spend comparing the numbers on templates, drops, and everything else? How often have you started looking for a clean pair of jeans less than ten minutes before a date?” — Kill Ten Rats

I really had fun reading it. AND that’s just Part 1. Heehee. I’m now off to reading the 2nd part. Ta!

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Dating: Gamer’s Style

gam‧bit /ˈgæmbɪt/ [gam-bit] n.

1. Chess. an opening in which a player seeks to obtain some advantage by sacrificing a pawn or piece.
2. any maneuver by which one seeks to gain an advantage.
3. a remark made to open or redirect a conversation.
[Dictionary.com]

• For The Ladies. When approached, how important is the guy’s opening gambit to you?

For me, opening gambits set the tone on what kind of conversation I’d be engaging in with the guy so it’s somewhat important. Oftentimes, I can tell what his intentions are. Well, that and what his body language tells me.

• For The Men. Just how much effort do you put into your opening gambit?

For some, I’m sure striking up a conversation with a girl isn’t that hard. But to others, it’s one of the hurdles they have to overcome. Please — let us know what you think.

What really brought this on was a little something that recently happened…

I had dinner with friends earlier and a guy friend took notice of the hostess, who, I have to admit, was quite attractive. Dinner came and went. We were only left to talk about the incident long after we’ve left the resto — yea, his game wasn’t that tight he didn’t consider “hitting on her” cuz he’s with other *aherm* hot ladies and had every intention of coming back to finish the job. Heehee. For now, he’s only left with a memory of a really cute girl named Rhea. Heeheehee.

The subject of “how to approach a girl you’re attracted to” came up. And, of course, I only had a few suggestions to throw his direction. As an example, I told him not to use some cheesy intro or to reference some past encounter, i.e. “Hi, miss. Remember me? I had dinner here last night with friends…” My reasoning was that there’ll be an opportunity to let her know that bit ot info when he does get her to go out with him even just for coffee at least. Anyway, I opted that he’d try to direct a witty remark her way, hopefully, something that can make her laugh.

But that’s just me. Now, I’m thinking perhaps you guys can help my friend out and suggest a good one he can work on.

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The Opening Gambit

This was a suggestion made by Six Guns Blazing, who basically invites you to download and printout the application form and use them to your heart’s content. Saves you time and money, right? Instead of dating for several weeks to get enough info on the other person, you’ll achieve it with one go. Hmmm. Very efficient.

Of course, fret not, the women weren’t overlooked. The Boyfriend Application is also available for our perusal. But Rico says you need not go through such trouble since he’s available. Hahaha. Ugh. This makes me feel like a pimp. Heh. Well, I do love playing matchmaker, though. Hehehe.

Can you believe that it will require you to list your Relationship Background and possible References? Talk about contingency plans! Hahaha. I really suggest that you look through it even when you’re not at all interested because, at the least, you’d be amused. And if any of you have used it, can you tell me if it works? Or, perhaps, you know somebody who already filled it out?

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The Girlfriend/Boyfriend Application

Take a look at a little something they’ve got to say about the top city, Denver – Boulder.

Singles Scene: It’s very diverse. You can meet people at a charity, hiking or at bars, like in every city. Everybody is very friendly.

Here’s the rest of the list [just listed the top 10 but the list goes on so check the rest at their site] :

• #2 Boston
• #3 Phoenix
• #4 San Francisco – Oakland
• #5 New York
• #6 Raleigh -Durham
• #7 Seattle
• #8 Austin
• #9 Washington – Baltimore
• #10 Miami

However, if you’re from overseas [and don't mind moving to a different country], and you’re considering settling down in the US, then I reckon this list will be useful for you, too. Hahaha. I wish you much luck on the endeavour!

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Forbes.com’s Best US Cities for Singles