Er, pardon the pun.
We all have our ideals when it comes to choosing a partner. We come up with a list either by superficial standards or by principles. I guess it will be tested once we face that moment whether we are going to choose the person who matches all but one trait, physical or personality, which we think weighs a lot. We then face a dilemma that basically asks, will you settle for anything or anyone less than your ideal?
A friend of mine is going through such a dilemma right now. She has found a guy who …read more

I had to laugh when my sister tagged me to do this. I’m now forced to sit down and mull it over. Hahaha. When I started reading hers, I had this sinking feeling that I’ll see my name at the bottom of the post. Why? We’ve talked about this several times and she can only shake her head cuz I can’t seem to make up my mind on what my “Ideal Guy” is. She’s been telling me to make a list so I can focus on the important things and drop the rest. Just so you know, I did try! …read more

My friend and I were discussing dating in general [but she highlighted my own lovelife, though] a couple of days back and we found ourselves debating over the matter of importance between immediate gratification and principled dating.
I, for one, cannot sit in judgment over the matter but I do have opinions regarding it. I see the need for both and also their downsides. Secondly, I’m actually facing a dilemma that falls under it, which makes it hard to form an objective opinion.
Here’s the scenario, you went out with guy A who comes a bit short of your ideal, basing …read more