I’ve observed that it’s a common notion that when someone initiates a conversation with a stranger, it automatically means an expression of interest. It doesn’t really matter if it’s a guy coming up to a girl or vice versa. Simply, when two people find themselves in that situation, they would assume that there’s interest from the initiator.
Hmmm. Curious.
Perhaps I’m naive because I’m a little dubious about this whole thing. To be quite honest, I don’t automatically think a guy is “interested” in me when they spark up a conversation because if I turn the tables around and I initiate the …read more

If you determine that you’re infatuated, not in love, you don’t have to rush to end the relationship. Infatuation can and sometimes does develop into real love. Assume a wait-and-see attitude. If it doesn’t last, fine. You have made no rash commitments, and you haven’t dashed into sex, so you need have no regrets. If and when the break does come, you can much more easily accept it. Breaking It Up After you’ve given a relationship a fair trial and you’re convinced that it’s an infatuation with no future, you may want to call …read more

Infatuation: jealousy is more frequent and more severe. When you’re jealous you want to keep him or her wholly to yourself. You are, in short, being selfish and possessive. Your concern is with what you want, not with what the other person wants. You’re afraid that he or she might enjoy – or give some attention to – someone other than yourself.
Such a response is selfish. Your attitude is one of taking from your relationship. You are not willing to release the other person to do freely what he or she finds enjoyable. …read more

Closely related to your ego response is your general attitude toward your partner. Are you concerned solely with what you get out of the relationship? Or do you find yourself wanting to make sure the other person is happy, and that his or her needs are also being met?
Infatuation: your overall attitude is one of taking from the relationship. You will find that your main concern is what you are getting out of it, plus what you hope to get in the future. The other person is seen as a means to gratify your own …read more

Not only is the unselfish commitment of one’s self essential to a happy marriage. It is also important if we are to gain fullness of life in any are. One of the basic secrets of life is that a higher fulfillment of self comes as a result of committing one’s self to something higher and greater than the self.
That’s a lesson that the so-called “me” generation needs to learn. Such a commitment helps us to rise above mere concern with our own selfish needs and wants. It opens whole new horizons of value and meaning for …read more

Some people date others just for the thrill of necking or petting – or more. Sex is utterly selfish, using the object only to get satisfaction. If a person’s interest in another is just sex, then when they are through having sex with this other person, they are through with them, period – until they get the urge to have sex again. In real love, there is always concern for the welfare or happiness of the other person, regrets their lovers absence even right after sex, wants to be together with their lover, feels lonely without …read more

Clues 12 and 13 may well be the two most important in the list. They have to do with whether a couple are self-centered or other-centered. They deal with the basic, core attitude that each person displays toward the other. Such elements will be crucial to the success or failure of any marriage.
Infatuation: Why does Mike like to date Kate? She’s the school’s Homecoming Queen! Not that he likes her all that much. She is pretty and popular, but she’s also spoiled and selfish. Still, he likes to date her because, since …read more

Infatuation: If a girl is infatuated, time and again she used the words I, me, my, and he, him, his. She did not once use words like we, us, or our. She was unwittingly revealing her true feelings. By the use of these terms she has betrayed that she is still keeping her own identity carefully separated from his.
That tells us that she has not yet come to think of herself as part of a couple. She has not yet invested her self in the relationship. She’s still clinging to her own selfish identity. …read more

Even a couple united by love will quarrel once in a while. Any time two people seek to merge the many facets of their personalities, there will be rough edges to iron out. That is to be expected.
So be prepared for some friction even if you’re in love. You will disagree on a few things. Some aspects of your lives won’t fit together well, at least not right away. There will be many adjustments to make, and sparks may fly at times until you get things worked out between you.
If a couple said they …read more

Infatuation: absence makes the heart grow fonder – of somebody else!
In infatuation Sue and Sam have been interested mainly in each other’s physical equipment. That is, what they can see, hear, smell, taste or touch about each other. Such interest is hard to sustain when a thousand miles are separating the couple. Since only a few things attract them to each other, the roots of the relationship are thin. It won’t last long unless it gets nourished by a lot of face-to-face contact.
After the infatuated couple is apart for a few days or weeks, …read more