Well, it’s official. After much speculation about infidelity, our favorite May-December romance with Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore is kaput. But did those affairs that Ashton reportedly had signal a no-turning-back end to the marriage? More
This is a post from our sister site, Mommyish.
Ashley Madison, the online dating service that is specifically geared towards people already in relationships looking for affairs, ran a very offensive advertisement to women today. In a tasteless play off last night’s Halloween festivities, the advertisement in New York Metro reads “Did your wife scare you last night?” and depicts an obese woman in lingerie. Way to suggest that larger women aren’t worthy of commitment, love, or sexual relationships for that matter. More
Monogamy is the bomb. I live by the code: One down bitch is worth ten funky hoes.
If three weeks of Weinergate have left you skeptical of men and relationships, never fear: Ice-T is here to calm your fears. Judging by his memoir, not all men are cheaters, and while we’re not prepared to skip out on Sunday’s season finale of Game of Thrones to watch it, we are kind of fascinated by the relationship advice relayed in Slate‘s recent review of Ice Loves Coco, a new reality show featuring Ice-T and his wife, Coco, on E! More
I read an interesting post this morning on Betty Confidential about whether or not lap dances can be considered cheating, which got me thinking about all the other murky, gray areas surrounding infidelity. Of course, when you or your partner actually have sex with someone outside your relationship, that’s generally recognized as being unfaithful, but are there other things we do all the time (perhaps without even realizing it) that border on having an affair? To find out, I caught up with Dr. Julie Elledge, a psychotherapist, sexpert, and friend of Blisstree who loves giving us the goods on solutions to all kinds of relationship dramas from her professional point of view: More
Recently, I’ve talked to renowned psychotherapist Dr. Robi Ludwig (you’ve probably seen her on TV more than once) about several sticky relationship issues that resulted in these posts: Good News for Cheaters: You Can Lie to Your Partner About Your Affairs! and Celibacy In Marriage: Pros and Cons. But today I wanted to get her expert take on the quagmire of couples counseling for married folks, as a follow-up to a personal essay post we recently ran called: Why Every Married Couple Should Be In Couples Counseling. So who should go? When and why? How long should you stay in couples counseling? How do you know when to call it quits? Here are Dr. Robi’s often surprising answers: More
Recently, psychotherapist, sexpert, and Blisstree friend Dr. Julie Elledge has talked to us about a slew of subjects relating to relationships including sexless marriages, open marriages, and sex addiction, not to mention other fun stuff like lying, cheating, and infidelity. Today I have some questions for her on sex and intimacy in a committed, long-term relationship including the deal with acting out sexual fantasies, and whether the term “meaningful sex” is always a part of marriage — and how maybe it really shouldn’t be. And because the weekend is almost upon us, I hope you’ll have the opportunity to personally experiment with some of Julie’s suggestions in the privacy of your own bedroom — and sexual fantasyland. More
If you’re married, engaged, thinking about getting married, unmarried, divorced, or never want to get married ever, you really should read a funny, controversial, and enlightening new book by co-authors Paula Szuchman and Jenny Anderson, two Wall Street Journal and New York Times journalists, respectively. It’s called Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes and it’s the closest thing to an actual strategic relationship and marriage manual that you’ll likely ever find. And if you think that a healthy, lasting marriage has absolutely nothing to do with Economics 101, think again. (And if you think a book about marriage and economics sounds dull and boring, really think again.) Then check out my Q&A with Paula and Jenny: More
Right now, one of Blisstree’s most-viewed posts is one called Prince William Getting Married in 2010? (And the post itself is actually from 2009.) I’m guessing this means that a fair number of you harbor more than a casual interest in what’s going on in London this Friday, April 29. I’ll admit it: When Prince Charles and Lady Diana got married way back in July, 1981 (I was just a kid), but I remember that the entire beach town where we spent our summers came to a screeching halt. I also remember crowding into the living room of our next-door-neighbor’s house at the crack of dawn to watch the ceremony live on their tiny black-and-white TV set. (Most people in our shore town, including my family, prided themselves on choosing to not have a TV in their summer house; we had far better things to do outside and on the beach. Still, on that particular July morning, I loved our neighbors more than anyone else in the world.)
But why do we care so much? Is it just the A-List celebrity aspect of the whole affair? Is it because most of us know that we’ll likely never be invited to a private ceremony at Westminster Abbey followed by an even more private reception at Buckingham Palace hosted by the Queen of England? Or is it simply because people just love, love, love weddings, no matter who’s in them?
Sorry! This poll is now closed.
Among the many relationship dilemmas we’ve tackled here at Blisstree, recently we’ve brought you When to Tell a White Lie: 10 Situations Where Honesty Doesn’t Pay, My Marriage Survived a Cheating Affair and So Can Yours, and, just yesterday, An Affair May Be the Best Thing That Happens to Your Marriage. You might say we’re a little obsessed with the idea of infidelity in a relationship, whether or not couples can ever get past it, and, perhaps more controversially, whether or not you should always admit an infidelity to your partner. Because if you don’t, that pretty much counts as lying, doesn’t it? And we’re never supposed to lie to our partners or spouses. Or are we? I have to admit that I found myself more than a little confused about these relationship rules, so I asked renowned psychotherapist Dr. Robi Ludwig (you’ve probably seen her on TV) to weigh in on what place, if any, lies have in a marriage or otherwise serious, committed relationship. More
A few weeks ago, Blisstree contributor Rebecca Dawson wrote a brave and honest post for us called My Marriage Survived a Cheating Affair and So Can Yours. Sure, that was just one person’s personal experience, but I’ve always wondered if there were any hard and fast rules about infidelity in serious, committed relationships. Is screwing around always a dealbreaker? Or can couples use unfortunate sexual indiscretions to actually strengthen their bonds of matrimony? I’ve seen both examples in real life (as I’m sure you have), so I asked psychotherapist, sexpert, and Blisstree contributor Dr. Julie Elledge six questions about the cheating heart, and how an affair may be the best thing that ever happens to your marriage. More
It happened again. Last night, as I was channel-surfing between Bravo’s Pregnant In Heels (to watch my personal trainer Lacey Stone make an appearance) and the season finale of NBC’s Parenthood, I was reminded of just how often art can imitate life and vice versa. (And yes, I realize that calling Parenthood “art” is a bit of a stretch. Humor me.) As the complicated relationship saga of Crosby and Jasmine came to a head last night (which I’ve previously blogged about here), I was discomfited to find that their complicated situation mirrored one of my serious romantic relationships, albeit before I was married. (Crosby and Jasmine had been engaged.)
The gist is this: He and I were together for a long while. Things were good. We were happy. But then something changed; I’m still not entirely sure what. We fought. He kind of acted like a big jerk. (Although in our case, infidelity wasn’t involved as it was for Crosby and Jasmine.) We broke up. I attempted to move on. He realized his mistake and launched an unrelenting quest to win me back. I rejected him. (And I dated someone else for quite a while; but Jasmine hasn’t had time to do that, what with the challenges of seasonal TV programming and all.) He persisted. I told him to forget it, that it was too late. He persisted some more. More
Recently, psychotherapist and sexpert Dr. Julie Elledge has given us her take on controversial subjects including open marriages (yike) and sexless marriages (eww). Today I’m grilling her about that trendy new condition which the likes of David Duchovny, Tiger Woods, and Russell Brand have made famous (or infamous, as the case may be): Sex addiction. Personally, I think the whole concept of sex addiction is a fabricated scam perpetuated by serial philanderers who need a crutch on which to lean their lame-o domestic and relationship habits. Now let’s see what the good doctor has to say when we talk about being addicted to love: More
Groom Together, Stay Together – Do you and your partner have similar hygiene habits? (The Frisky)
I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change – Three ways men tick women off – without knowing it. (Betty Confidential)