Dealing with the past is one of the most difficult challenges in relationships.  And the most difficult issue to move on from and leave in the past is definitely cheating.  If you are in a relationship where you or your partner has cheated, you are probably going through one of the greatest struggles of your life.  You probably feel pain, confusion, guilt, lack of self-worth, anger, and many other extreme emotions that interfere with all aspects of your life and make you doubt who you are.  But what should you do next?  Where do you and your partner go from …read more

To follow-up on Michelle’s infidelity theme, I wanted to discuss the unfortunate issue of getting caught on the opposite end of cheating.  It is definitely more common to find cheaters lurking amongst us these days, so it is also more common that you could find yourself accidentally dating someone who is cheating on someone else.
I honestly believed that the idea that someone could be dating more than one person at the same time was something that only happened in movies or to extremely naive people.  But unfortunately I am finding out that it is becoming more and more common!  It’s …read more

Have you ever read Dear Margo? Margo Howard is the daughter Ann Landers and she writes the same sort of advice column that Ann was famous for.
I read Ann Landers, Dear Abby, and pretty much any other advice columnist that I could get find back in the day. I’m not sure if it was the advice itself or the people telling their troubles that interested me the most. (Probably the troubles – I am naturally nosey). 
I was reading a recent column that covered a husband having an emotional affair with his boss. The emotional affair has the man – married …read more

Do you watch that show, “Jon and Kate, Plus 8“?  I have watched it off and on, never an entire episode, but my daughter, Sarah loves it.
I’ve read about Jon and Kate  Gosselin. Especially about Kate, people really love-to-hate her, which I find oddly fascinating. She’s just a mom, trying to do her best, like any other mom. I don’t get the venom, the hate, the Kate-as-the-devil-ness of it all. People go on about how she speaks to Jon, talking down to him, or whatever, but that’s behavior that I’ve seen in many relationships. It’s unfortunate, but sometimes it’s the …read more

I knew when I heard the phone ring that my mother was dead. No one calls at 4:30 a.m. I was sleeping in my parents’ house because, though the doctors had thought she had months longer to live, my sister just had a feeling. And so the phone rang and I let it ring and ring until I heard my father’s voice answer from the other room and then I picked up. The woman on the other end said, “Dr. Walker. This is the hospital. I’m am sorry to inform you, but your wife, Mary Walker, has passed away.” …read more

Cheating, trendy? I promise, I’m not being sarcastic or snarky here.
Infidelity has been on my mind lately. No, I’m not contemplating stepping out on my boyfriend, but with the news that John Edwards has admitted to an affair and the renewed interest in John McCain’s past infidelities, cheating does seem to be a topic of public interest.
Theories on cheating (who does it? the percentage of people of do it is? do only men do it?) abound, but the answers to these questions differ, depending upon whom you talk to. Affairs may happen for many reasons, …read more

How do you go about talking to your partner about the subject of jealousy?
Jealousy
Jeal”ous*y\, n.; pl. Jealousies. [ F. jalousie. See Jealous, and cf. Jalousie.] The quality of being jealous; earnest concern or solicitude; painful apprehension of rivalship in cases nearly affecting one’s happiness; painful suspicion of the faithfulness of husband, wife, or lover. (Source: dictionary.com)
In an ideal scenario, jealousy should be non-existent in relationships. After all, trust should be present in a healthy relationship. The former contradicts the latter. Without trust, the relationship ought to be non-existent itself.
However, we all know that to be human is to err. …read more

A few days ago, a reader of Dating Dames left a comment on the post, The Cheating Boyfriend, presenting a scenario and here’s how it goes:
he said he doesnt have any1 to talk to abt his problems, bcoz i was too busy partying everyday with my friends, so he called this bitch (who adores him like crz) to come to his house to talk. and *you can guess what happen next.
my friends and even the bitch told me what happenned between my bf n the bitch, i was so stupid fr not trusting them, my bf kept denying it n …read more

From a Dating Dames Reader asking for the advice:
Dear Dating Dames,

I have a close personal friend who has grown so serious over a certain girl that he’s considering proposing to her soon. I’d hoped he would find out on his own that she has cheated on him several times. That doesn’t seem to be the case and I’m afraid he’s going to get even deeper in something that will end up hurting him much worse.
Should I tell him what I know?

David Zinczenko from Mysteries of the Sexes Explained presents his argument of four reasons of Why Men Cheat – and while I can ‘understand’ reasons 2 thru 4, I have to admit reason one is a DOOZY!
Ok, before I even attempt to go where David Zinczenko did, let’s visit reasons 2 – 4, shall we?