“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”

— James Baldwin

I reckon every individual has his or her own set of insecurities. They carry these insecurities with them as they enter relationships; may affect their choice of a mate, manner of relating, or how they attract a prospect.

Most of us wish to find love at one point in our lives. However, we are plagued with self-doubts, which often hinder its realisation. Hence, we resort to masks. Pretense. Layers upon layers of concealers to hide the blemishes that causes you to cringe at the sight of your own reflection.

When you do find love, it will give you the strength to unshackle yourself from these doubts and insecurities. You no longer see the need to hide and cover up. Love causes one to accept and understand. No more lies nor deception. You will get to know the “you” that the other person sees and loves. You will discover that you aren’t as bad as you thought you were. You will learn to face yourself and your life without fear or hesitation.

Love will set the “real you” free.

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Love Takes Off Masks

I’ve heard women classified as desperate by people when they’ve reached the threshold of eligibility, ergo, making them spinsters if not, candidates, at least.

Tell me, is there a definitive deadline for someone to choose a mate before labeling her a spinster?

Once a woman sees this possibility, it scares her. It then creates a domino effect of bad choices, one jerk after the other. Making her believe in the lie that she has to grab what’s there for the taking. It’s sad, really.

What makes a woman lose her right to choose her mate in the first place? Is it if she doesn’t fit the mold as to what the society dictates to be beautiful? Is it if she doesn’t run in the same social circle as the guy’s? Or is it because she’s simply was branded less of a human being since she never finished a degree or only speaks one language?

Questions that need answering. I’m hoping to find positive and real ones since I’m one of the people who advocates that anyone can afford to be romantic and ask for the ideal. I believe that one should never settle on something or someone less than he or she deserves.

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Can you afford to be romantic?

In the dating scene, you will encounter varied ways on how a guy or a girl would prostitute themselves just because of an insecurity. And like I said, there will be people who actually zone in on those insecurities and use them to their advantage.

One article that I came across illustrates this best. It talks about some individuals who actually target inmates for god knows whatever reason apart from boredom or curiosity. Well, it cited some of the possible reasons, factual and speculative, but I’m leaving it up to you to find out.

It’s highly unconventional, I know. It’s not something I’d approve of but to each his own, right? Or is it? What do you think?

Anyway, I’m not suggesting that you receive people with cynicism — that only gives your insecurities power over you. There’s no harm in being wary, though. Best way to go about this is to face your insecurities and learn to love yourself. Always tell yourself that you’re good enough for anyone.

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Preying on Insecurities