Some people date others just for the thrill of necking or petting – or more. Sex is utterly selfish, using the object only to get satisfaction. If a person’s interest in another is just sex, then when they are through having sex with this other person, they are through with them, period – until they get the urge to have sex again. In real love, there is always concern for the welfare or happiness of the other person, regrets their lovers absence even right after sex, wants to be together with their lover, feels lonely without …read more

Infatuation: If a girl is infatuated, time and again she used the words I, me, my, and he, him, his. She did not once use words like we, us, or our. She was unwittingly revealing her true feelings. By the use of these terms she has betrayed that she is still keeping her own identity carefully separated from his.
That tells us that she has not yet come to think of herself as part of a couple. She has not yet invested her self in the relationship. She’s still clinging to her own selfish identity. …read more

No, but infatuation is. Infatuation, like other extreme emotions such as anger, hate, and fear, distorts thinking. Only the passing of time will bring about gradual return to reality. When the ideal bubble bursts – and burst it will – pain and disillusionment sets in.
Again, it pays to be honest. Much of the pain and tragedy of romantic infatuation could be avoided if the couple would level with themselves and with each other. Instead, they hide their faults and misled the other into thinking they are something they are not.
For this they pay a terrible …read more

Before we proceed with each individual clue, I’d first like to draw special notice about these clues:
1. The order is not important.
2. No clue can stand alone. All clues are important. Failing one or more does not mean you have to break up with your partner right away. It just means that you two are not ready for marriage and need more time to work them out.
3. One-sided loves will not work.

1. Many divorces and unhappy marriages have roots stemming from infatuation and sex interest only.
2. Most youth are not sure what real love is due largely in part by lack of example.
3. Age and maturity give no immunity of infatuation.
4. Teen marriages have twice the risk of ending in divorce.
5. Living together and having a sexual relationship before marriage has shown to create tougher times to adjust after marriage.
6. One-sided love won’t work.
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Throughout the next several weeks I will be revisiting a classic article that I obtained several years ago. I have no idea who the author is or where it came from – only that it was received via a relationship support group, and at that time it had been copied so many times that you could tell it was a well worn and used resource. The article has become a bit outdated with statistics and other bits of information but the basis is still very strong.
It was through this article that I was able to recognize …read more