There are a million reasons why someone might be jealous of you.  It might be something that you have control over, or it might be something that is just part of you naturally.  Humans are naturally competitive and when they see something in someone else that they desire for themselves, there is a definite tendency to feel that ugly little twinge of jealousy.

If you worry that someone in your life is jealous of you, my biggest piece of advice is: don’t worry about it anymore!  We live in a social environment where we interact with people everyday, so it is a constant stress to worry about the way that your presence affects other people.  You could spend tons of useless energy worrying about what other people think of you and never knowing what is inside their heads and why they feel or treat you the way that they do.

The most important thing to remember is that you can’t control other people, you can only control yourself.  Jealousy coming from someone else is not something that you can work on fixing and it is only something that the other person can work on.  It’s very natural to worry about what other people think of you and feel sad if they treat you coldly, but if you are focusing on being the best person that you can be then you should be able to move on from their negativity.

It’s also important to remember that you may be diagnosing their jealousy incorrectly.  Again, you have no idea what thought process they are going through, so it’s not important to spend time worrying about whether or not they are jealous of you.  Don’t waste your time trying to figure it out…it will only make you self-conscious and confused.

If someone treats you in a way that makes you feel like they are jealous, try to turn your focus on yourself.  Remember that jealousy is something that they have control over and not you.  If you have wonderful things in your life, enjoy them!

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I Think They Are Jealous of Me

Sometimes people get jealous. They worry that someone is slipping away, that they are losing their influence. They worry that they might be losing the love or complete attention of another person and when this happens, they turn to coercion. They hit on a person’s frailties, on his or her fears until they chip away a chunk of their confidence. I’m talking their self-confidence as well as the confidence that they may have in their relationship. I find this sort of selfish and destructive behavior disgusting.

When I heard the “deceitful” statement, it was clearly a case of an individual parroting another persons bad intentions. These teenagers are still figuring things out. They need a supportive environment to do that. They don’t need outside sources filling their heads with doubts. How are they supposed to develop healthy relationships if their biggest influences are not healthy to start with? If things do not work out between them, they will still take the lessons that they learned during this relationship with them. They will suspect the next person is deceitful or jealous or whatever term they throw at each other.

Sorry to be a bit on the cryptic side, but we just had a scene here that was ridiculous and totally without merit. I do not appreciate people messing with the kids. Teenagers are not property to control. They are young adults who will soon be on their own, especially when they are 17 and almost 18. They deserve the best guidance we have to give. 

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Be A Good Example For Teens

Page 72:

“The best reason first: If we skip this vital step, we may not overcome drinking. Time after time newcomers have tried to keep to themselves certain facts about their lives. Trying to avoid this humbling experience, they have turned to easier methods. Almost invariably they got drunk. Having persevered with the rest of the program, they wondered why they fell. We think the reason is that they never completed their housecleaning. They took inventory all right, but hung on to some of the worst items in stock. They only thought they had lost their egoism and fear; they only thought they had humbled themselves. But they had not learned enough of humility, fearlessness and honesty, in the sense we find it necessary, until they told someone else all their life story.”

We are masters of self-delusion! Consider this;

Did we not, for years or even decades, swear we didn’t have a drinking problem? Didn’t we also swear that the next time it would be different? Didn’t we also swear that we could stop anytime we wanted to? Didn’t we also swear we were hurting no one but ourselves?

Masters of self-delusion! Egotistical!

How egotistical is it to think that we might be able to hide some putrid fact of our lives from God? Pretty damned egotistical, if ya’ ask me… yet, somewhere, in our minds, it lurks that if I don’t have to share it with another human being, no one will know – and I won’t have to work on that. Delusional…

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Why Can’t I Just Admit It To God?

To be used as a guide for a Fourth Step – Liabilities and their definitions.

Resentment – “When we are angry or bitter toward someone for an extended period of time over some real or imagined insult, we are feeling resentment. It is a hostile or indignant attitude in response to an alleged affront or personal injury.”

False Pride – “is either feeling better than or less than someone else. Feelings of superiority include prejudice about race, education or religious beliefs, and sarcasm – putting someone else down to make us feel better about ourselves. Feelings of inferiority include self-pity – dwelling on one’s own problems, and low self-esteem – the lack of self-worth or self-respect.”

Envy – “wanting someone else’s possessions.”

Jealousy – “being suspicious of another’s motives or doubting the faithfulness of a friend.”

Selfishness – “concern only for ourselves, our own welfare or pleasure, without regard for, or at the expense of, others.”

Laziness – “means lacking the will or the desire to work. Procrastination, which is postponing or delaying an assigned job or task, is a form of laziness.”

Dishonesty – “theft or deception. It includes taking things that don’t belong to us, cheating people out of what is rightfully theirs, and lying to or witholding the truth from others.”

Fear – “is being afraid of losing something we have or not getting something we want. It manifests itself in many ways including phobia, terror, panic, anxiety and worry.”

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Liabilities