At least the authors of Sex Comes First: 15 Ways to Help Your Relationship expect us to believe that.

In this book, Dr. Joel D. Block and Kimberly Dawn Neumann go through fifteen universal relationship roadblocks and offer sexual solutions to help you move beyond them.

Whether it’s work, money, jealousy, lack of communication – there’s lots of emotional issues that seem to cause rifts in couples. This book, though, maintains that we can use sex as the common denominator to bring us and our mate back together.

Do I agree? I’m not really sure I do. Sure, bad sex, or lack of sex, can tear us apart…but can good sex bring us back (or keep us) together? It’s – I think – a matter of it being really important a factor if it’s not going well, but only a component if it is.

What do you all think?

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The article explains that some people look for someone like themself and some look for someone very different, but that for the most part, the successful relationship is the one in which the couples have complimentary personalities - not just exactly the same, not too different. Although, there is a danger in the complimentary couple finding themselves further entrenched in their particle personality quirks.  Neumann says, “… couples should be careful to treat their partner’s strengths not as a crutch, but as an opportunity to watch and learn new habits and skills to move outside their comfort zones on occasion.” 

Science plays a part in attraction, Neumann shares that “Helen Fisher, Ph.D., anthropologist and author of Why We Love,” breaks the types down into four “temperaments.” Each temperament has a “chemical in charge,” and a good and bad match.  For example, say you identified yourself as “The Negotiator,” it would go like this:

The Negotiator
Chemical in charge: Estrogen (associated with intuition and creativity)
Personality: Imaginative, sympathetic, socially skilled, idealistic
Best match: Good with all types!
Worst match: None

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