Okay. I’m sounding overly defensive about what I’m about to do, er, at least the other half of ‘the plan’ but I know you guys will say, “here goes Sasha again with her meddling in our people’s dating life” Eeep. I just want my single friends to meet my other single friends for posterity’s sake! Fine. I know. There’s the “what if they break each other’s hearts” thingie. /sighs

I already mentioned her to my guy friend. He’s interested but worried that she might not like him. He got intimidated by the fact that she’s accomplished and somewhat well-off even when he’s a Fil-Aussie with a job and somewhat ready to marry.

You got it. They live in different continents. If they hit it off, it’ll be a long distance kinda’ thing. Hehe.

I’m now left to the task of actually letting the girl know of his existence since he now knows of hers! But, yea, part of me is a bit hesitant cuz I know that even when my intentions are genuine, I can’t control the hands of fate between these two individuals.

I just can’t help but ask, “what’s the harm in introducing them?”

What do you think? Do you think it’s wise to go through with this matchmaking endeavour?

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What Would You Do: Make the Match or Not?

These tips focused on your dating behaviour, your expectations and initial impressions, and your methods of procuring a date.

• Don’t lie about your civil status or your police record.
  Dating is for single people! If you’re already married, stop signing up for those dating sites! It’s unethical of you — not to mention, unsafe for unsuspecting users! — to not disclose important things like you’re a convicted felon out on parole.
• Don’t be a “Professional Online Dater”.
  I guess this applies to those people who treats online dating like a sport — in constant search for that greener pasture, metaphorically speaking. LOL.
• Stop dreaming of an overseas romance.
  I reckon the idea of hooking up with a foreigner is exotic. But if, from the start, it’s not financially possible for you guys to meet in person since it involves a considerable amount of travel expenditures, you have to wake up and face that reality.
• Don’t settle for less than a millionaire.
  I guess this applies to online daters who already are millionaires or, uh, gold-diggers ambitious people? Heehee.
• Don’t be a cheap date.
  If you go with the free dating sites, you can’t expect fantastic match results. Or perhaps, it can be a good thing since you already have that in common — cheap preferences, so to speak. Heehee.

I suggest you read the article cuz it presented some reliable arguments regarding these tips.

You have additional tips to share? Feel free to let us know!

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What NOT to Do When Dating Online

Flickr is a digital photo sharing website and web services suite, and an online community platform, which is generally considered an example of a Web 2.0 application. [Wikipedia]

In his post, he narrated the relevant events in their relationship like how and where they met online, how, when and where they met offline, and, finally, news of their engagement that happened a few days ago. Of course, he also provided links to photos that can help give us a picture of how real they are. [You can check the post here.]

Now, Happy Dave is truly happy and even extends his gratitude to the very existence of Flickr, without which he wouldn’t have Princess Valium in his life.

Well done, Flickr!

And congratulations to the couple!

*Thanks for the tip, Matt.

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An Engagement At Flickr

“Here I am, ending my employment, packing house, and moving halfway around the world with my cats, no less, to marry a man from a different culture, different race, different religion, I’d known him online for less than two months, and I’d never met him in person.” — Laurie

You’ll always remember that time when you first see him or her, when you first kissed, and of course the day you say, “I do.”

What if I tell you that Laurie had experienced that in a span of one day? Well, she did. I’m NOT kidding.

My first thought was — she must’ve been insane to do such a thing as marrying a guy 8 hours after she met him the first time. Unbelievable!

However, after giving it a more careful thought, I realised that she took the risk that most of us are too terrified of taking. It reminded me of this theory I have — that the thing that scares us the most is the very thing that will help us define ourselves and our life.

So, yea. It’s a real incredible thing for Laurie and Fahim to find a love online and a happy ending, too!

I’m inviting you to read how Laurie journeyed half-way around the world to find Love. And I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

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Laurie & Fahim: Finding Love in a Blog

Personally, I don’t think I would ever be the type of person that could do such a thing because I am so programmed by society to have my physical gratification NOW – not meaning the sexual aspect – but the touching, holding hands, hugging and of course the kissing.

To me those are very much a part of a relationship and when a relationship has too many miles between them, I just don’t know how they make it work.

Anyone have any tips for making a long distance relationship work?

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Transforming long distance love into a normal relationship

Perhaps I did not grow up in a country that suffers from an issue such as this one so I cannot fully comprehend the consequences of such an act. However, I am aware of what really separates races. Uh, skin colour. Call me naive or foolish but that’s all that I can see. One can argue that there are differences in culture and upbringing, which happens to be true, by the way, but these things can be learned and un-learned thus not really an obstacle but merely an excuse.

It’s just the society who adds pressure to this kind of a relationship. People can be cruel sometimes. But if a relationship that came about an interracial dating doesn’t work out, neither can blame it on skin colour. That’s immature, don’t you think? Interracial partners will suffer the same kind of problems like everyone else.

One other thing that is good to note, if we continue in our quest to globalise, then it cannot be helped if all races will mingle on a regular basis. By just being online, we open ourselves up to the idea that we will meet someone outside our race and at the same time we are effected by all the different influences that’s found in news, books, movies and music.

How do I know these? Well, I’m currently living in a country that’s not my own. I can say that I’m learning a different culture from what I’ve known almost all my life. Apart from that, my country is somewhat heavily influenced by the western culture. But if you want to summarize the kind of culture I grew up in, it’s a mixture of conservative, Spanish-influence and American-influence. And I’ve dated a few guys who are from different cultures [American, Filipino, British-Irish]. Plus I know people who are enjoying successful interracial relationships and marriages.

I’d like to think that I have an open mind and I’m not ruled by my own biases, which I know I’m not. Hehehe.

Bottomline. I reckon everyone’s the same. It’s just the personalities that differ. The differences we may face if we consider dating someone from another race are the same ones we would face if we date someone from our own. I guess it will be left to the individual which will weigh more, society’s norm or real love.

Read the article.

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Thoughts on Interracial Dating

I believe in order to make long distance relationships work, the couple has to be very creative with their methods of communication and to learn how to bring the other into their everyday world.  With the lack of that physical connection, it’s tough.

How far do you think is to far?  If you were to consider a long distance relationship, how far would you be willing to go for the love of your life?  And what’s more, would you be able to afford such a relationship?  The extreme phone bills, travel expenses and much more?

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Long Distance Relationships

In infatuation Sue and Sam have been interested mainly in each other’s physical equipment. That is, what they can see, hear, smell, taste or touch about each other. Such interest is hard to sustain when a thousand miles are separating the couple. Since only a few things attract them to each other, the roots of the relationship are thin. It won’t last long unless it gets nourished by a lot of face-to-face contact.

After the infatuated couple is apart for a few days or weeks, they begin to lose interest. After a while the physical equipment of some more available person begins to look good to them. So if it is infatuation, it will die with distance.

Real Love: survives separation. It may even, as the old addage states, make the heart grow fonder. Why? Because love is rooted in attraction to the other’s total personality, not just physical appeal. When you are in love, a great many of the tendrils of your personalities tend to grow together, to unite you into loving oneness. When you have to be apart, you are not your whole self.

This being the Internet and with the new trends of meeting and dating through various online mediums, do you think it’s possible that more relationships are enduring distance and are gaining strength?

If you have a story to share of relationships enduring distance or even relationships that have failed because of distance, I’d love to share it with our readers.

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CLUE 9. What Does Distance Do?