This is difficult, though not as difficult as real life. I am sorry that I have not been as frequent here at MarriageActually as I should have been. This has been good, getting to know some of you as you would let us know you. To say that laying this down is easy is wrong. Doing this has been equally difficult as of late.
Things are not going well in Camelot. My armor is chinked and tarnished. And may need to be retired as well. I am no knight in shining armor and never have …read more

It was in Monterey, Ca. actually, to a fiery brunette soldier from Texas. She still has it, it may not feel like it to her right now. But, she does still have it. Somewhere in the fall of 1979, When I saw her, I was a goner. It has been a couple of times around the block and my heart still skips a beat. Perhaps lopes would be a better term. For the past couple of years it hasn’t felt like it has still been this way. I have had a problem.

If you are married it had to happen; the marriage proposal.
From the moment of conception (almost) girls dream of that romantic moment when the love of their life sweeps them off their feet with the most romantic marriage proposal ever.  Generally that is followed closely by the. wedding. fantasy.
In the interest of Valentine’s Day I had an awesome idea.

O.k…if you are as tired of the serious stuff as I am it is time to move on for now and talk about something (hopefully) fun; Valentine’s Day.
Are you thinking about it? Planning it?
Most guys need to be planning a romantic interlude, while if you are a wife you should probably be thinking along the lines of something majorly sensual and sexy.  If you guys both get it right we will more than likely see the fireworks from here.
So, what are you planning?   What are you doing?
Here are some ideas that I have picked up on the Internet, and yeah, …read more

I was checking out some of the AOL headlines this morning and this one caught my eye.  It is a slideshow which is based on an article in Men’s Health.
While there were two suggestions that I totally don’t agree with (watch porn together/ check out the erotica section of the local bookstore) the other 25 were brilliant, amazing, and from my point of view anyway, pretty darn good.

If you and your spouse enjoy sending steaming emails through the blogosphere then Hoochy mail might add a little variety to what you are doing…
Be warned though, it is pretty hot, and if you aren’t sure of your spouse’s reaction you could find yourself taking alot of cold showers and being met with fish eyed stares and glares.
Also, some spouses work at places where they could actually get fired for a steamy email..so again, be careful.  You want this to be a fun thing..not lead to unemployment!

 
I am a hopeless romantic.  I sigh when the good guy rides off into the sunset with the girl..my heart beats faster when the gallant knight slays the dragon and claims his princess…I love happily ever after… When Wesley says “As you wish” in Princess Bride..I melt.
It isn’t the words, it is the tone of voice and the look on his face.  sigh.
Even though I am middle aged and not all that I used to be I still have all of those sigh and starry eyed reactions that I had at 16.  Actually, more of them because I was quite …read more

So..I have been talking about sensuality, sexuality and libido….One of my very favorite movies ever is Bella Martha, also called Mostly Martha in the original German with subtitles.  This is the movie No Reservations was a pitiful, weak remake of.
This clip contains one of the most sensual scenes in the history of movies, in my opinion…the soup scene.
In it..he has her blind-folded, tasting and identifying tastes and components in the soup he is feeding her.  Watch what happens.
By the way, she does correctly identify the last ingredient, if you don;t understand German….

 
All right..if you lived through part one of this series then part two will be ….easy..sort of.  And this it primarily for women.

I have been reflecting on my last post about spending more time together.
There is a company that can make us an item forever.   The company is called LifeGem.  They could take Marye’s ashes and turn her into a real diamond.  It is her birthstone! (there is a bad joke there I am not publishing)