When I was very small I spent a great deal of time with them due to my older brother being so ill.

There were so many nights that I’d have my grandma brush my hair and tell me about the time when she and grandpa met.

Grandma was working in an old time fountain shop when a sailor walked in off the street one day. There was no conversation exchanged other than the typical, ordering, paying and leaving. When grandpa walked out the door my grandmother turned to her friend and said, “That’s the man I am going to marry.”

Later that day grandma went and broke off her existing engagement and waited a very long 6 months or so till that sailor would come back in town.

He did and they dated a very short time and married. They were married 54 years when grandpa passed away. Prior to this he had survived 7 heart attacks and even World War II. They had five children including my mother.

The night grandpa passed away I was able to be there. I stood back in the corner of his hospital room feeling almost as if the space around grandpa’s bed was sacred space and should not be disturbed.

I heard my grandma and grandpa whispering to each other a bit and then I heard grandma lean over and say, “it’s ok, you can go now.”  And within a couple of minutes of my grandmother giving him her blessing and a kiss on the cheek - my grandfather was gone.

This was a man that held onto the woman he loved even through his own pain. He could not and would not leave her until she assured him she would be ok. He was always so concerned that some relatives would place my grandmother in a nursing home and take all she had left. Grandpa was an intuitive man because that’s exactly what did happen.

Today my grandmother lives in a nursing home dying a slow, painful and very lonely death. She doesn’t remember much, which is so sad – when she can’t remember the greatest love story I have ever known.

Perhaps that was one of the biggest challenges I faced when I was single and dating.  I had always had the perfect love, the perfect marriage – the perfect husband to compare everyone to.

The one comfort I have in the man I chose to marry is that he was one that both grandma and grandpa both approved of. 

In honor of my grandparents and the inspiration they were to me and so many who many be hoping for a love that powerful…I wanted to share the tale of Frank and Carrie.

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The greatest love story I know…

One-sided love or infatuation and the PRINCIPLE OF LEAST INTEREST: in a one-sided romance, the partner who has the least interest in continuing the affair is able to control the other person. That’s because the one who is more involved has more at stake. No one should use another human being for selfish purposes, but people often do. E.g. a girl who doesn’t care much for a boy may keep him just to build up her ego to have someone care so much for her. Or for a convenience that she can always count on him for a date if nobody else asks her. She knows he’ll put up with shabby treatment because he’s so emotionally involved. Or the boy may demand more sexual favors than his girlfriend wants to give.

Real Love: has an organizing and a constructive effect on your personality. It brings out the best in you. There is an intense and satisfying feeling of greater self-realization and expression, as well as a feeling of having one’s own personality reinforced and strengthened and enriched. Love gives you new energy and ambition, and more interest in life. It is creative, brings an eagerness to grow, to improve, to work for worthy purposes and ideals. Love is associated with feelings of self-confidence, trust and security. Love lifted you to new levels of maturity and responsible action. When you love a person you make an effort to be more deserving of the beloved. You want your beloved to be proud of you, so you try harder. Life has more purpose. You make plans and save for the future. Life takes on new meaning, more sparkle.

What if you have loved and lost? You may have had a real love relationship that did not result in marriage. Perhaps one or both of you did not recognize at the time that it was real love. Or some tragedy may have robbed you of your beloved. In spite of the pain of loss, you still are likely to be a better person for having had love. You can better understand yourself and be better prepared for finding success in your future relationships. You will be more mature. You grew through your love experience, and that growth will not all wither away. Whatever happened, real love will have an organizing and constructive effect on your personality.

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CLUE 5. How Does It Affect Your Personality?

Real Love: starts slowly. Studies have shown that the longer the period of courtship and engagement, the better the chances for success in a marriage. There is no substitute for passing the test of time. A year is better than six months. Three years are better than two, five better than four. The quality of the time spent with each other is as important as the quantity. Understand that people can be great actors. We all tend to play games with one another, to appear to be what we are not. A couple might date for a long period, yet have only a shallow knowledge of each other. You need to find out what the person is like way down deep inside, beneath the display-window mask.

Caution to older people: People at late 20s are tempted to marry in haste.

Caution to young people: You are more likely to be infatuated than genuinely in love.

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CLUE 3. How Did It Start?

Regardless of what anyone says, when shopping for love, romance, relationships or even “no strings attached” – introductory lines aka pickup lines should be funny, original, entertaining and sincere. What they should never be is offensive, critical, insulting, or have offensive sexual connotations.
I’ve scoured the web and several message boards to come up with a list of 16 of the most often used pickup lines and I’ve found the following to the most commonly used but also the most often rejected.

16 Worst Pickup Lines from Men and Women

1. “What’s your sign?”

2. “Pardon me, I seem to have lost my phone number, can I borrow yours?”

3. “You must be a broom because you’re sweeping me off my feet.”

4. “I was wondering if you have a moment to spare for me to hit on you?”

5. “What’s a sexy woman like you doing in a dirty mind like mine?”

6. “Are you lost? Because heaven’s a long way from here.”

7. “Do you work for UPS? I could have sworn I saw you checking out my package.”

8. “I’m new in town and can’t find my way around; could I have directions to your place?”

9. “Are you religious? Because you’re the answer to all my prayers.”

10. “Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again?”

11. “Well, here I am. What are your other two wishes?”

12. “You must be Jamaican, because Jamaican me crazy.”

13. “See my friend over there? He wants to know if you think I’m cute.”

14. “How would you like your eggs for breakfast: scrambled, boiled or fertilized?”

15. “What do you say we go back to my place and do some math? Add the bed, subtract the clothes, divide the legs, and multiply!”

16. “I just want to tell you that you have a price to pay for being this cute, and I’m here to collect… your phone number, that is.”

If you have a pickup line you’d like to share that’s either caused you to be shot down like a duck in flight or has resulted in winning the prize, let us know. I’m sure the world would love to hear!

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16 Worst Pickup Lines