For the young and single seekers, the normal amount you spend on a dinner and drinks or perhaps a movie, is all that it takes. But what if you’re someone who’s been around the block? I mean, you’ve been married for decades and had children and even grandchildren and now divorced or widowed? Will dinner and movie dates be suficient enough?

I reckon it may be difficult to get into the dating scene again. Heck, it’s hard enough for singles to deal with dating, can you imagine how it must feel like for them?

Well, after reading about a widowed grandmother conned into spending $125,000 on a matchmaking scheme, it left me bewildered. I just can’t believe that someone’s willing to spend that much in her search for a mate.

How did it happen? Well, let me share this bit from the article:

Promised the company of affluent, sophisticated men, Ms Majerik signed on. Initially, she paid Ms Hadida $50,000; subsequent payments took that to $125,000.
– Guardian Unlimited Special Reports

Read the rest of the article to learn more on how the scam got discovered and the events that led up to court plus other bits about Orly the Matchmaker. The $2.1 Million award is an unprecedented amount in the history of dating service cases. Other notable cases cited were the ones involving Match.com, Yahoo Personals, and Great Expectations.

This is some crazy dating news. This should teach these companies not to prey on lonely people.

UPDATE: I’ve recently learned that the case was subsequently dismissed. The dismissal documents can be found at www.rankrover.com/orly .

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The Million Dollar Matchmaking Scam

Perhaps I did not grow up in a country that suffers from an issue such as this one so I cannot fully comprehend the consequences of such an act. However, I am aware of what really separates races. Uh, skin colour. Call me naive or foolish but that’s all that I can see. One can argue that there are differences in culture and upbringing, which happens to be true, by the way, but these things can be learned and un-learned thus not really an obstacle but merely an excuse.

It’s just the society who adds pressure to this kind of a relationship. People can be cruel sometimes. But if a relationship that came about an interracial dating doesn’t work out, neither can blame it on skin colour. That’s immature, don’t you think? Interracial partners will suffer the same kind of problems like everyone else.

One other thing that is good to note, if we continue in our quest to globalise, then it cannot be helped if all races will mingle on a regular basis. By just being online, we open ourselves up to the idea that we will meet someone outside our race and at the same time we are effected by all the different influences that’s found in news, books, movies and music.

How do I know these? Well, I’m currently living in a country that’s not my own. I can say that I’m learning a different culture from what I’ve known almost all my life. Apart from that, my country is somewhat heavily influenced by the western culture. But if you want to summarize the kind of culture I grew up in, it’s a mixture of conservative, Spanish-influence and American-influence. And I’ve dated a few guys who are from different cultures [American, Filipino, British-Irish]. Plus I know people who are enjoying successful interracial relationships and marriages.

I’d like to think that I have an open mind and I’m not ruled by my own biases, which I know I’m not. Hehehe.

Bottomline. I reckon everyone’s the same. It’s just the personalities that differ. The differences we may face if we consider dating someone from another race are the same ones we would face if we date someone from our own. I guess it will be left to the individual which will weigh more, society’s norm or real love.

Read the article.

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Thoughts on Interracial Dating

As an example, I know a girl who was married, had an affair with her best friend’s husband. The two fell in love, made a baby, divorced their respective spouses and got married for the sake of the love child they created. What a mess that created. Guess what? They couldn’t trust each other. Can you believe that?

Each one was left to constantly recognize that their spouse had been taking away from a former spouse so easily so what made them think it couldn’t happen again? There was nothing that could be said or done, shy of placing a real ball and chain where the proverbial fictitious ball and chains once were. Aside from being together every minute of every day, this couple could not trust one another and rightly so.

Back when I was on the “dating scene” one thing I wanted as much as love and trust was positive predictability. Not so much knowing where my partner was every minute of every day, but being able to learn him well enough to predict his moves. To me there is a big different in being predictable in a boring fashion than being predictable in a positive way.

Once you’ve established positive predictability, trust is a natural and secure fit.

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Positive Predictability

Hey, I did! I’ll admit it. I’ll be the first to stand up and say that it took me dating not 1 or 2 but SEVEN Gemini’s before I realized that my “Everything You Need To Know About Astrology” book was right on the money! Cancers and Gemini’s do NOT mix!

Call me silly, but Seven Times of that book being right and I became a believer!

Want to know if you and your honey are a good match? Want to know if that date this weekend has potential?

Check these handy dandy little tools out:

Is it a Love Match

Is it a Great Sex Match?

Dating is complicated enough – so every little bit helps! Even when it’s something as silly as a little astrological match guide. Go ahead, try it! I bet you’ll be surprised!

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Is it in the stars?