You meet a guy. He’s nice, a bit stand-off-ish at times, and smart. Perhaps he can even be cute in your book. Best part, he becomes one of your closest friends. Wow. Seems like a great guy to date, eh?

Stop. And. Think. Again.

I recommend that you consider NOT looking at him through rose-tinted glasses. Some women are guilty of being in the state of “looking” each time they meet a guy, which somehow gives the guy a halo since these women fail to see the bad points.

Here’s a short series I’ll be doing here at Dating Dames, wherein I’ll try to zone in on the kind of guys or certain guy behaviours you should be on the look out for.

You should think twice before dating Guy #1 — stand-off-ish is the operative word. It can be because he’s moody, not that it’s entirely bad, it’s just going to be difficult. For all you know he’s emotionally unstable and you’ll end up being in an unhealthy relationship, worse, if he has a heavy hand.

It can also be because he’s secretive and somehow presents a nature that’s hard to trust. You will always be plagued with the question, “what is he not telling me?” It might just drive you nuts. Date somebody whom you can trust.

Or perhaps it’s because he’s not really the type who wants to share his life with anyone, even when you are close. For all you know, YOU are close to him but if you look back to your friendship, you hardly know anything about him — you can’t really say that you really know him.

Think it over. You might realise that he’s not that cute after all.

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Think Twice before Dating this Guy (A Series)

I guess that’s what dating is actually for — options. It creates an ideal scenario wherein you get to try out something until you find that one thing that suits you best.

However, it doesn’t always work out that way, right?

I’ve never been in a situation wherein I’m actively “seeing” several people at one time. More often than not, I always end up seeing just one person and that’s that. I’ll find out after a date or two if it’s not going to work out. So, the idea of individuals who actually can date more than one person at a given period of time is beyond me.

I guess that’s how I define multi-dating. Of course, it’s different when you have accummulated a lot of first dates over time. Even if it meant you have indeed dated more than one person, for me, it doesn’t fall under this particular practice. That occurence is actually quite normal. It’s simply — dating.

Do you approve of multi-dating? Do you think it’s healthy? Do you think it’s effective?

If you have experienced or are currently practicing it, would you mind sharing with us, so, we can understand it better?

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Multi-dating: Dating more than one person