If you are ready for some fresh ideas, you might try something form this list:

*Blind dates or the fix-up. Blind dates have a bad rep, but sometimes they work out great. When I was in my early 20s, a friend fixed me up with a guy I probably would not have looked twice at if I had run into him on my own. Meeting him while in the company of other friends relieved the pressure enough that we were able to really be ourselves. I saw that he was a good guy and cuter than he appeared at first glance. We dated for almost a year. 

*Explore your hobbies. Do you like sports or working out?  How about joining a local recreational sports team?  Even if you don’t meet someone on the team, you will have the opportunity to meet other new people and maybe someone has a cute, single friend.   (Possibly another fix-up?)

*Is reading is more your thing?  Next time you visit your favorite bookstore, drag your attention away from the latest Janet Evanovich novel, and try making eye contact with that good-looking guy in the cookbook section. (Cute guy who cooks?!). We bookworms are notoriously shy, so to further bait the hook, shoot him your best smile.   Sure it sounds simple, but it’s also effective. 

*Also good are the grocery store, the farmer’s market, and the laundromat. I had a neighbor who met her husband while doing her laundry.  She explained how she frequented the same laundromat every Saturday. Every weekend she would see the same handsome man and one day he struck up a conversation with her. They continued to see each other and their weekly chatting led to coffee and then dinner. They still do laundry together, but now it’s in the laundry room of their new home. Who knew that folding socks could be so much fun?

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Good Places To Meet New People

If you are out with your girlfriends and open to meeting someone new don’t ”huddle” together. It intimidates men. I can see why it would intimidate them, but honestly, the word “huddle” brings to mind a group of giggly high school girls. Kind of a silly word.

Scan the room like Ben Roethlisberger. “Huddling behavior means they’re closed to outsiders,” says Dennie Hughes, a relationship expert and the author of Dateworthy. Your best bet is an outward-facing group or a line of women doing their own scanning. Aim for groups of three women or more, so no one ends up alone.

The idea is to charm the group and thereby charm the girl you are interested in. The guy will mirror the group’s behavior, chat about what they are watching or listening to, possibly take song requests if there’s a juke box.  It makes a lot of sense and I’m thinking it could work just as well for women. 

People say things like, “I don’t want to meet someone in a bar,” or “I would never try online dating,” or ….well there are a multitude of excuses out there. Why? Why not meet someone in a bar?  Or online?  Why not be open to meeting people anywhere, at any time?  

How about you – would you approach a group of “outward facing” men and ask them how they were enjoying the game/match/song?  Do you have rules about where it’s appropriate to meet people? If you did meet someone in a bar, would you be embarrassed to admit it? 

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Meeting Men In Bars