A smile is a curve that sets everything straight.  ~Phyllis Diller
 

You’ve decided that you are open to meeting someone and you’ve made your wish list known. The next step is to show the world that you are open to meeting someone. The two best ways to do that are to make eye contact and to smile. 

I work midday at an elementary school.  I am a teacher’s aide and I spend lunch hours with about 570 children.  I like all of the students, but there are quite a few special kids that greet me with a big smile each day.  I feel those smiles and appreciate them each day.  Kids seem to instinctively know how to attract friends. They are open and warm. They grab the hand of the child next to them and say, “Lets go………” They are fairly fearless. 

As adults, we learn to put up walls. We learn to be guarded and private and it’s never as easy to make friends once we walk off campus that last time.  Think back to high school. As awkward as it could be, it was often easier to meet kids, to develop a crush, than it is as an adult. Just being around all those peers, having access to so many fellow humans in a similar stage of life, it made a difference. Of course, we were teens then and teens aren’t wired to appreciate what they have, unfortunately. 

I’m going to issue you a challenge.  I challenge you to make eye contact and smile at least 5 new people today.  Try for 10, if possible, but shine that smile of yours on at least 5. 

Here’s what I think will happen, that smile will be contagious.  The person you smiled at, they are going to take that on, internalize that warmth you shared, and they are going to, in turn, shine it back at someone else. I could be wrong, there are some true curmudgeons out there, but that is probably not the kind of person we are hoping to attract anyway. Right? 

Sharing something positive, it’s going to make you feel good, it’s going to increase your confidence. This is a small step, I know, but maybe baby stepping it is the true path to success. It’s the small changes that you can easily make a regular part of your day. 

Give it a try and let me know what happens. Good or bad, I’m curious and if you’ve got a challenge for me, let me know. I’m game for pretty much any sort of self-improvement. I’m not fully formed yet, still a work in progress. How about you? 

Image credit: Michelle Smith

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Lead With A Smile…

How can all this be possible? Well, it’s simply with the use of that functional tool you use to shield off the rain. The everyday umbrella. Heehee.

I guess I really don’t have to go on and paint a picture for you, yeah? This is just me making something out of the mundane. I believe in being resourceful even in the whole dating scene.

I wish I have a great anecdote to share to you guys but I don’t have any. I reckon if any of you readers of Dating Dames have a cute story to tell which involves an umbrella in a rainy day, do share! I’d love to hear it!

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On Rainy Days and the Umbrella

Hmmm. Curious.

Perhaps I’m naive because I’m a little dubious about this whole thing. To be quite honest, I don’t automatically think a guy is “interested” in me when they spark up a conversation because if I turn the tables around and I initiate the act, it wouldn’t automatically mean I’m interested in that man I’ll talk to, know what I mean?

What about you? Would you agree to the statement that “when someone initiates a conversation with a stranger, it automatically means an expression of interest”? I sure know somebody who does and is adamant that it’s factual “no matter how indirect an act it was.”

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Initiating Conversations

You might be wondering why I’m blogging about a business idea in a dating blog, huh? Well, listen to this: Put up a dog walking/renting center near a park. The market will be single men. What services will you be offering? You accept dogs from owners to walk them, hence, dog walker services. Then men can rent a dog to walk, which they can then use to meet women!

I told you it’s funny.

You’ve got to admit that most women would find dogs adorable and it’s easy to spark up a conversation and commence flirting, using a dog as an ice-breaker. Plus it gives you an image that you’re “safe” and — I don’t know… there’s simply something about men who loves dogs that most women find attractive.

So, what do you guys think? Will this business fly?

BTW, it’s my brother’s business idea. Don’t you love younger brothers?

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Business Idea: Walk a Dog, Meet a Mate

The Unmask Method

How does it go exactly?

Well, according to this article I came across, you and your mate should…

One, use an opener that’s untrusive and un-alarming. Something like, “Hi, do you mind if we sit with you at this table until our other friend gets here? She’s running late for some reason.” Of course, it should be in a venue that’s somehow packed and would give you a reason to ask that from these women, okay?

Two, once seated you will act as if you and your mate had no intention of starting a conversation with the two women. Keep an open ear to what they are talking about but continue talking to your mate about other things.

Three, after a moment or two you should…

Move a little closer to the girl nearest to you and lean in. With a smile, look her straight in the eye and say: “Okay, I have a question for you. Imagine you were sitting over there at the bar and you saw two girls, like yourselves, sitting at a table like this one. Then, you saw two guys like us come over like we did, sit down and start talking to those girls. What would you think?”

From my point of view, this simple question has the potential to be effective. It’s a situational question that will provide an avenue for people in that table to engage in a conversation that somehow highlights the opinion of the other person and not your own. A girl will find it flattering since it somehow shows that you appreciate her mind.

That, my friend, is how The Unmask Method works.

Go on. I know you’re dying to try it. Just make sure you’ll come back and let me know how it goes. Heehee.

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Hook Up Tip: The Unmask Method

It’s actually not a bad idea if you think of it. What do you really need in a site to find someone you can date anyway? Isn’t it all about finding a person whom you can connect with?

I’ve got to admit that I have gone on dates with people I met through sites like these — social networking sites, I mean. I can’t say it’s 100% better than online dating sites, it’s just another alternative to finding Mr. Right.

What I like about the dates I’ve gone to are the idea that I’m not “forced” to be romantic with them right away because all of these dates are of platonic nature, er, at least, on my part and that they are guys I’ve actually interacted with and find something in common through the sites.

I guess when I tried the online dating sites, I’m pressured by the idea that the guys expect me to go into dating and the whole she-bang straight away. I’m under the impression that the expectations are solely directed toward creating a romantic relationship. I may be at fault here but, hey, these sites aren’t called online dating sites for nothing, right?

Bottomline is perhaps if you’re not comfortable with the idea of meeting dates online, social networking sites are a good option for you. At the very least you’ll be meeting new friends you can simply hang out with if you’re not in the mood for dating just yet.

What do you think?

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Dating and Social Networking

Yes. It’s one of those days when I need to take a break and look at the positive side of it all. Heeheehee.

• 1. Meeting new people.

  I love meeting new people. They provide new perspectives on the human race. Every human being is unique and is worth spending time to get to know, that much I’ve discovered.

• 2. Getting dolled up for a guy.

  I like dressing up on any occasion. I like to look good every once in a while. And the idea that I’ll be doing it to impress a guy is a cool thing in my book. It’s always nice to get a guy — in this case, my date — to sit up and take notice.

• 3. Seeing new places.

  Me and my wanderlusts. I love gallyvanting. I particularly enjoy a date when he brings me to some place that I haven’t been to before. New experiences broadens the imagination.

• 4. Romance.

  I’m a romantic. The prospect of going out with someone I can fall for is a big drawing point in dating.

• 5. The Goodnight Kiss.

  It doesn’t happen on every date. But feeling that tension at the end of one is often attractive. And when it does happen and he turns out to be a good kisser — uh, let’s just say the possibility of a second date can be negotiated. Hahaha.

What about you? Why do you date? Can you name 5 things you like about dating?

Do share!

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5 Things I Like About Dating