Hey, single lady, do you have a list?  A list?  Yes, a list. A piece of paper or maybe its a file in your lap top, where you’ve listed what you would like to find in a man.

*Funny
*Kind
*Strong
*Loyal
*Sexy
*Open-minded
*Likes kids
*Smart
*Patient
*Tall
*Between the ages of 37 and 45
*Some gray hair
*Smells good
*Values family
That is an excerpt from my list. I started with the bare bones, then I thought, “Funny, but also able to be still and quiet, because I need some peace, too.”
I can remember reading about a love spell of sorts where you make the list, then burn it and send it out …read more

Today I’ve got something for the men. AOL Health has a piece on the best exercise for even better sex.  C’mon guys, grab your weights, and lets get busy.

*Push-ups – Men need good upper body strength to support themselves in the missionary position.  Push-ups build muscles and help increase endurance. They don’t mention it, but the yoga position known as The Plank would also help here. Lean forward with forearms along the floor, hands in fists, feet bent down, toes on floor. Lift mid-section off the floor and support your weight on forearms and toes. Try to keep your body in …read more

Tonight, after a night out carousing (we’re currently on a girlfrends getaway), my best friend related a story about how, once upon a time, as she was young, she would love to pick dogweeds and put them in her hair.
“They looked so pretty…but later I realized, they smelled really bad.”
I wonder if that may be symbolic of the mistakes ALL of us keep on making in our relationships…going for the guys that are wrong for us, and are bad for us, but yet, we are attracted to anyway.
Why do we insist on doing this to ourselves???
I’m sad. Sad for me, …read more

As women, it’s easy for us to think that it’s way less complicated to be a guy.
The truth is, it’s not. What does it mean to be a man today? What can a man do to improve his relationships?
Recently, Elliot Katz, author of Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants, was posed this question during a television interview – the answer sparked great insight. We share some his thoughts here!
Show leadership
One of women’s biggest complaints is that men don’t show their share of leadership in the relationship. When a man sees a situation that needs to be dealt with, he …read more

Right now, I’m on a bit of a girlfriends getaway (under the guise of being on a “business trip”) at the absolutely fabulous Water Club (a signature hotel by the Borgata) in Atlantic City.
Last night, all of us lovely ladies went to Gypsy Bar (in the Borgata) for tequila tasting, and after that, clubbing at the very exclusive mur.mur – while we were there, a super mysterious tendency unveiled itself.
One of us, married for fifteen years, was absolutely FLOODED with male attention. Another, in a serious relationship, was too receiving declarations of love.
Us single girls? Interestingly enough, we were the …read more

I wrote a post a few months ago, Redeeming Men, talking about how my goal is to not screw my son up.

So, a friend of mine emailed me and said, “Do you know any good, kind, compassionate men? Your anger is coming out in your writing. It’s emotionally destructive to you.”

Duh. Hate that.

Angry writing on a women’s website. It’s just too easy. It reaches a certain audience, (other angry women for sure), but I have too much respect for my craft. I’m too ambitious.

Also, I just got bored. With the anger itself and with talking about the anger. It’s futile. …read more