The open marriage concept works well for these people. Jenny Block says that being part of an open marriage gives her “a sense of peace.” She and her husband found that they had differing needs, “mismatched libidos.” She basically says that she is “a lot” to handle.

The marriage started out like any other and then a few years into it she had an affair with a female friend. It ended badly. After some time, she and her husband discussed their situation and found that an open marriage was the way to build a satisfying relationship for them.

I respect that this couple, or trio, has found a solution to their personal, emotional, and sexual needs. My problem is when she feels that the rest of the population, the monogamous segment of the population are either being dishonest about our needs or that we are brainwashed to believe a marriage should only consist of two people.

I don’t want more than one partner. I’m not brainwashed or lying to myself. I am lazy. Plan and simple. A relationship is a lot of work. I cannot imagine having enough energy for my kids, my man, and my extra.

When I was younger, before I married and had children, there was a period when I was seeing two men at once. I wasn’t committed to either. One night, I was spending time with one, when the other showed up. I sent the second one away. I was so upset at first, even though I was not seeing either one exclusively.

It was embarrassing and I wanted one  of the men to say, “Okay, you need to chose.” They were fine with it. What I realized then was that neither one of these guys was for me. I like to be exclusive. I need a man who feels the same way.

I’m not a big dater and I’m not good at casual. I’m like that Kelly Clarkson song, “I fall deep.” I’m a one-man woman.

How about you? Do you think that mongamomy is notion that we are brainwashed into believing?

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Is Monogamy A Lie?

I had to share this quote cuz it almost caused me to fall off my seat. Hilarious.

Just in case the sarcasm is lost on you, here’s a Wiki explanation.

“..attributes like “serial” and “parallel” make sense only when describing multiple relationships, so they cannot logically refer to “monogamy”, which implies only one relationship.”

Get it?

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Serial Monogamy in Dating

Hmmm.

I guess for women who take on this kind of thinking when it comes to relationships are not-so-into monogamy, eh? ‘Does make you think, though. Why is having two boyfriends better than one? Of course, it’s a rip-off of the saying, “Two heads are better than one” and takes on a similar if not the exact, same concept. But they were refering to idea generation during meetings, plannings, or brainstorming sessions.

• Is it because each guy provides something that the other can’t? Is it to reinforce the girl’s attractiveness? Or it’s simply because the girl knows she can have two or more, even?

Perhaps there’s something about getting a taste of different types of “relationships” since the girl will be getting “inputs” from two different guys. Like in meetings, if ideas would come from just one person, the outcome may turn out to be not as exciting as getting ideas from two or more “heads”, to accomplish a goal.

For the girl, the idea of having just one boyfriend seems unsatisfying — quite similar to multi-dating or men having more than one girlfriend. I guess, this kind of thing is not limited to men, huh?

Now, it also peaked my curiosity when it comes to the guy’s side, are there guys who agrees to this kind of a set up? If yes, I’d like to know why. [I want to put an exclamation point at the end of that statement but decided not to --- egad.]

Discuss.

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Two Boyfriends Are Better Than One

Her then-fiancé Jude Law apologized for an affair last year, but Sienna Miller has her own issues with monogamy, she says in a new interview.

“I don’t know, monogamy is a weird thing for me,” Miller, who is still seeing Law, tells Rolling Stone in its new issue. “It’s an overrated virtue, because, let’s face it, we’re f–ing animals.”

Is monogamy an overrated virtue?

Have we become so desensitized in our relationships that it we can’t see the deep and long lasting rewards there are to be had in a committed relationship?

I’m wondering how many people share the same views as Sienna Miller and if they might share their views with me – I’d really like to know what the take is. For the life of me I just cannot imagine being ‘OK’ with my partner having intimate relations with another person.

Am I too old fashioned?

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Sienna Miller Says Monogamy Is ‘Overrated’

Is monogamy hot or not? For many women, the answer is “yeah, baby!”

Women of all ages say they’re enjoying sex with their partner more now than they used to, according to results of the new ELLE/MSNBC.com Sex and Love Survey. For many men, however, giving up the thrill of the chase means giving up some thrills in the bedroom as well.

A record 77,895 adults took the online reader survey over two weeks in February, answering more than two dozen questions about what works and what doesn’t in their sex lives. Nine out of 10 reported being in monogamous relationships.

Both men and women answered several questions regarding the relationships with their partners – many of the common complaints are listed in this in-depth report.  For the most part, I think the article reveals much of what is common knowledge and gives little information on how to correct the issues many couples complain of.

Hop over and enjoy the read – but come back here and share your own thoughts on whether monogamy is hot or not!

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Is monogamy hot or not?