I’m 27. When babies cry, it triggers something foreign and possibly maternal in me, but I have very little desire to start a family—especially right now. Actually, I don’t envision myself having a baby, ever. And I’m tired of being told … More
It’s rare that I pick apart another writer’s opinions on what makes something good or bad because we are all entitled to our opinions, just as we are all plenty able to disagree with one another’s ideas. Marriage, for example, … More
Healthy, early sex education combined with increased birth control accessibility will yield better, less detrimental results — not making teen moms look and feel like bad parents simply for being parents. More
Is it international women-get-back-in-the-kitchen-week or something? From Carla Bruni pitting feminism against family life to the Queen of England’s motherhood comments to some Phyllis Schlafly wannabe on Fox News ranting about the ‘war on men‘ — there seems to be a preponderance of working-women shaming and 50s mystique yearning this week. And it’s only Monday. More
Jillian Michaels announced last year that she was leaving Biggest Loser to focus on becoming a mom; now, she’s officially got her hands full with two kids: 2-year-old daughter Lukensia, adopted from the Democratic Republic of Congo, and newborn daughter Phoenix, born on May 3 to her partner Heidi Rhoades. More
Jessica Alba wrote a sweet ode to motherhood on iVillage today, explaining how sexy she feels since becoming a mom. It’s awesome to hear a mom say she feels good about her body, against a backdrop of headlines ridiculing moms who don’t. But on the other hand…I think she sets up an unfair double-standard for women: That moms should feel good about themselves by virtue of not caring about how they look, while women who don’t have kids are…left to feel obsessed with their bodies because they’re not distracted by the tireless needs of babes. Cheers to Alba for kissing her insecurities goodbye; but don’t all of us deserve the chance to do the same, whatever life choices we make? More
Before having kids, I had very idealist visions of what our lives would be like. Our family would be the perfectly healthy family. What we ate would be carefully scrutinized. Fresh fruits, tons of veggies, lean meats and whole grains would be on the table at every meal. What we did during our leisure time would also be closely mapped out and monitored. Lots of fresh air, exercise and family outings like picnics, hiking and biking together would consume our weekends. And of course, things like keeping the kids spotless and myself looking hip and put-together every day made the list too.
Yes, I had high expectations for being the perfect and healthy mom. And I’ll admit, I even went so far as to judge other moms who weren’t all that healthy (because, you know, before you have kids, you think you know everything about parenting). To those moms that I judged, I apologize. To my former neurotic self, I apologize, too. Because not only did I not follow-through with most of those rules, over the course of the last 15 years, I did some pretty unhealthy things that I swore I would never do. More
Placenta-eating has now become so popular that even January Jones is doing it, and hospitals are changing policies to make it easier. Meanwhile, Jessica Alba founded an entire company to ensure that toxins don’t come into contact with her babies, and Alicia Silverstone is making moms wonder if chewing food for their kids is part of the job. But it’s not just celebrities (or crunchy hippies) jumping on the trend of all-natural, health-conscious parenting; now, all moms are pressured to gain the right amount of weight, eat their own placenta, breast feed long enough, and safeguard their kids against everything from BPA to GMOs. On the face of it, these all seem like a good things—after all, who wants to give their kids gestational diabetes? And what new mom isn’t desperate for a way to jack up her energy levels without having to fake a need for adirol? But much as we here at Blisstree favor being ‘natural’ and ‘healthy,’ we also wonder if all those pressures add up to a new kind of unhealthy—particularly because they’re mostly placed on women. More
New reports from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention say that birth rates dropped another 3% in 2010, making three consecutive years of dropping numbers. Experts are debating whether it’s the economy or better birth control that’s responsible for the dwindling numbers, but however you want to explain it, the numbers indicate to us that women are smarting up about their family planning. Which doesn’t surprise me, but given that just a few days ago, MSNBC proclaimed women ignorant about the details of their own fertility, I thought it might be worth pointing out. More
When I first saw the title of this MSNBC article, “Fertility math? Most women flunk, survey finds,” I thought it was going to be a piece about women being unsure what days of the month they’re most fertile. Nope. MSNBC is actually positing that most women aren’t even aware of one of the most basic concepts of fertility in general: That it declines with age. I call bullshit. More
I have so much more that I want to do aside from modelling. I can live with my body not being in shape if I have a healthy son More
To be or not to be a mom: That’s the question that psychologist Ellen Walker, Ph.D. discusses in her book Complete Without Kids: Childfree Living By Choice or By Chance. Study after study proves that childfree adults are happier than parents, and Walker agrees. But how do you know whether you’ll be happy without having kids? And what does life look like when you skip out on parenthood? We asked Walker for her take on how to make the tough decisions, and how to deal with the pros and cons of being childfree:
How did you decide not to have kids?
Well I’m one of those poeple who woke up one morning and realized I was 45 and had forgotten to have kids. I was busy! I was getting a Ph.D., having a full psychology practice, doing community service, and traveling around the world with friends. More