Women, being prone to thoughts lingering on the faerie tales we’ve read growing up, are stuck with the idea that we’ll go through life finding love in just one prince charming. We’re led to believe that there will only be one man who will capture our hearts and sweep us off our feet. But does it really happen often in real life? Do we end up with our first crush or first boyfriend? Can we honestly say we didn’t find any other man attractive?

I’m not pushing you guys to date multiple guys at one time. All I’m saying is that there’s nothing wrong if you do end up breaking up with the first guy you’ve ever said the words, “I love you”. There’s nothing wrong if you think that it’s best for you to sample the buffet before you tie the knot. What’s important is that you give dating a proper shot so you’d discover what you truly want and need in a partner. Experience is the best teacher.

So, adding a twist to the faerie tale, I implore that you kiss as much frogs as you can, if that is what it takes to find your Mr. Right. For all you know that next frog you do kiss will be the only frog you’ll be kissing for the rest of your life.

Further reading : When God Writes Your Love Story (Part 2)

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Kiss As Much Frogs As You Can

Hee hee. Just wanted to make you guys laugh a bit.

But dog or not, it’s a great thing to think about, yeah? What kind of man do you want? Were the traits the woman in the comic enumerated even such a tall order in the first place?

It’d be good to know your thoughts!

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What kind of man do you want?

Hmmm…

Again.

Hmmm…

I can’t say I agree but who am I to challenge a real-life observation, huh? I can only offer my own personal opinion regarding the matter and let Sorsi take care of the rest. But first let us highlight how she defined “good girl”

“…an equally conservative girl. You know, the type who has neat hair (all the time! Whereas I’ve had bad hair days all my life!), a nice smile, who doesn’t laugh too loud, who puts her hand over her chest when she leans forward (as opposed to showing cleavage), who says “I didn’t get that” when someone says a green joke (as opposed to always being the first one to get a green joke, or the source of the joke), who has that sweet disposition (instead of a PMS-al disposition), who is a girly-girl (and not ‘one of the boys’)….in short, the girl boys proudly bring home to their momma.”

First off, I don’t believe just because you’re conservative, you’re “good”. I guess, you have to elaborate on what kind of good we are talking about here. Don’t you agree?

But more importantly, sweetie, here’s what I think. You ARE good. You may not be perfect but who is, right? Despite your scandalous interests, and the candid and liberal manner you conduct yourself in public or in private, I believe you deserve and WILL get a good man.

I don’t think those ideals were set by a heart that’s not good, wouldn’t you agree? For all you know, someone else sees you as his ideal. What can you say to that?

Dear readers, Sorsi came up with a Good Girl transformation plan, seeing that the type seems to get the good guys. What do you guys think? Perhaps you can take a shot or two in giving her an advice. Do let us know!

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To get a good guy, be a good girl

I’ve never been one to think that dating more then one at a time would be anything more then confusing.

Perhaps I’m wrong, and please feel free to speak your mind if you disagree…

How can one possibly give any one person serious consideration when there’s a constant comparison factor at play?

At some point in time, this is going to create a very sticky mess – consider running into one of the others you may be dating – and how you would handle that.  Personally, I think I would choke all over the place.

Are we losing site of the whole old fashioned courting like our parents and grandparents used to do?  Do we have to turn everything into a race for convenience?

Do relationships have to be discounted to the degree of being compared to a microwaveable side dish?

Sometimes in life, we just have to admit that some things truly are worth waiting for and I think a love partner or spouse is one of those.

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From Trampy to Trendy

Anyway.

Let me present you with two simple thoughts (or theories, if you prefer) on how one can tell if he’s Mr. Right material:

One. The guy is capable to own up to his emotional immaturity — that he acts on making himself mature, emotionally.

Two. You have to see that he has taken active steps in taking the road to stability. He’s a doer not a dreamer.

I’m sure the right guy should have more in his person than what I just told you. I’m merely jumpstarting your thoughts so you can somehow determine if he’s a good bet or not by using these two theories I’ve presented.

You? How can you tell if a guy is the right guy for you?

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Let’s Talk About Mr. Right

It’s actually not a bad idea if you think of it. What do you really need in a site to find someone you can date anyway? Isn’t it all about finding a person whom you can connect with?

I’ve got to admit that I have gone on dates with people I met through sites like these — social networking sites, I mean. I can’t say it’s 100% better than online dating sites, it’s just another alternative to finding Mr. Right.

What I like about the dates I’ve gone to are the idea that I’m not “forced” to be romantic with them right away because all of these dates are of platonic nature, er, at least, on my part and that they are guys I’ve actually interacted with and find something in common through the sites.

I guess when I tried the online dating sites, I’m pressured by the idea that the guys expect me to go into dating and the whole she-bang straight away. I’m under the impression that the expectations are solely directed toward creating a romantic relationship. I may be at fault here but, hey, these sites aren’t called online dating sites for nothing, right?

Bottomline is perhaps if you’re not comfortable with the idea of meeting dates online, social networking sites are a good option for you. At the very least you’ll be meeting new friends you can simply hang out with if you’re not in the mood for dating just yet.

What do you think?

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Dating and Social Networking

I’ve been thinking about social classes the past few weeks and how it affects an individual’s choice for a mate. Some might not be willing to admit it but it’s almost as good as fact — it does have some weight to one’s decision.

Who is the average joe?

Is he someone who’s not spectacular? Is he someone who isn’t handsome or built like a god? Does he fall under the geek, nerd or dork category? Is he someone who isn’t earning enough? Or is he simply someone who isn’t part of a certain social class, which you think you belong to?

Sometimes, I wonder about how most women view themselves. Are we really superficial? Do we see ourselves higher than we ought? Are we driven by vain conceit?

Perhaps — the question we really ought to be asking is — who am I?

I reckon I’m rambling because my thoughts are still just made up of questions about this matter. I’m hoping to find some sort of sense in the end. However, I guess that’s probably why I think that an average joe IS as a good choice for a mate as the commercialised Mr. Right. I even think that they’re the bunch that has something REAL to offer to any woman.

For now, it’s best to leave you with these thoughts and a promise that I’ll come back with follow up posts on this topic. If you can let me know your own thoughts on the matter, that’d be great. Feel free to leave a comment or send me an email over at sasha [at] b5media [dot] com.

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Will you date an average joe?

I did mention before that I’m pretty old fashioned when it comes to finding a potential mate, reason being I’m a romantic. I do like chance encounters so whenever I step out of the door, I’d often find myself wondering if I’m going to meet someone that day.

This thought came to mind since I’ll be heading to my home country, Philippines, tomorrow. Well, technically I’m stopping by Singapore first and spend quite a bit of time there before I head to Manila. And from my experience in travelling, I know there are possibilities that you will meet someone new. Dates may come out of some and others just plain “our paths just crossed in time” kind of thing. So, there — this is one of those moments wherein I may just meet someone.

Aside from cafes, restos or bookshops, where you can strike up a conversation with a stranger or vice versa, Airports have been added to my list of places. I guess, it’s a good thing you are able to enumerate them, right? That way, it can be clear to you just what type of people you do get to meet. That is, if they share something similar with you in terms of interests and experiences or you’ve been making mistakes in putting yourself in wrong places or situations that’s why you end up with the wrong kind of guy instead of Mr. Right.

What about you? What places do you reckon you can meet people? I’m really interested to know.

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Where do you meet people?