At the free service, I have been “favorite-ed” by 5 men.  They have not contacted me in any way, just the favorite-ing. I find this odd. What do they do after that?  Do they think about writing to me?  Do they put me on list of people they will possibly contact? What are they waiting for?  It’s a mystery to me.

Over at Match.com, I’ve been contacted by one guy – he’s written to me twice to tell me that he’s busy and will write later. I did not write anything back after the second time. He lives about an hour away and if he doesn’t have time for an email, he’s not going to have time for a long distance relationship.

Another man, who sounded interesting and looked attractive, sent me an email when I (boldly) contacted him first. He answered it with something that went a bit like this:

I don’t know why I am using this service. I don’t really want to meet anyone, but you wrote a nice email, so I felt that I should answer it. I’ve only been single a short time. Women my age all have children. I miss my own children, who live across the country, too much to spend time with someone else’s children.

First I thought, well of course a damaged, hurting man has written to me – I’m a magnet for a man like that, but I felt bad for the man – he sounded so lonely and sad. (Are you beginning to see why I’m a magnet for a man like that?)  I wrote back and said that it didn’t sound like he was ready yet and that he had to do what felt right, when it felt right, or he wouldn’t be good for anyone. He probably has some outside influence encouraging him to get out there again, you know how well-meaning types can be with their inability to take no for answer. I think that it’s selfish to go into something with that much baggage, but even so, at first I thought about suggesting that we keep things casual.

Then, I thought, “What in the h&*l are you thinking? You do not need another project – you need a healthy available man.”  I’m not desperate. I do not need to settle for someone who doesn’t really want to meet me.  

I read today that Drew Barrymore is not a fan of internet dating or even texting.  I look at her and I can’t imagine her being dateless, she’s just too darn cute and charming, but then again, I bet it’s not easy to ask out a woman like Drew Barrymore.  I’ve read things that lead me to believe that she’s a bit old-fashioned. For example, she said something about her recent ex-boyfriend Justin Long about how he was a “gentleman caller” or “he came to call” or something like that.

Here is what she had to say about dating and the internet:

DREW BARRYMORE hates surfing the Internet for love – because it has taken all the romance out of dating.
The Charlie’s Angels star – who recently split up with the face of computer brand MAC Justin Long – confesses that even text messaging freaks her out – insisting she prefers the old fashioned ways of finding a man.
She says, “When I first started dating, it was like the Pony Express. We had to be frickin’ patient. And now everything is instantaneous. It’s too much! Where is old-fashioned romance and a little bit of mystery?”

She had me until she complained about instantaneous.  I’m not patient. She would be a good fit with Steve, who still is still MIA. That guy seems to feel that the waiting it the good part for some reason.  I’m all for mystery and old-fashioned romance, but I want it quick, baby.  Like this, yes thank you for holding the door for me, now I’ll race you to the car. Lets go!

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Drew Barrymore Is No Fan of Internet Dating

A new study is claiming that the more mysterious you are in your online profile, the better chance you have of landing a date simply because it leaves less room for finding faults and excuses to be overlooked.

A new study of romantic relationships finds that as online daters got to know another person over time, their initially sweet notions turned sour.

The researchers suggest that inflated expectations can lead to major disappointments when daters meet in person. Once a flaw is spotted, the whole date is tainted.

Fantasies vanishing with knowledge is a process that hits women harder than men, said Michael Norton of Harvard Business School and one of the authors.

“On online dates, women are much, much more disappointed than men,” Norton said.

Women put more stock in the virtual dating world because they seek a soul mate, he said, whereas men are typically after a more casual relationship.

Do you agree?

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Too Much Information Can Kill Online Romance

I know how tempting it is to grab that opportunity to hook up with that man you’ve been eyeing but you have got to let him chase you. This somewhat equates to retaining some sort of mystery around you. I know it sounds so cliché and all but it how nature works. Men are born hunters.

A good tip on how to do this: give that guy one small look that resonates a “maybe”. Make that look give out a thousand of opportunities but holds back the true answer to the question, “do I like you?”. Men will answer to it. If they won’t, at least, you know then that he’s not interested in you and you wouldn’t have wasted (or humiliated?) yourself in front of him.

This is part of the attraction — a test if you may — you will see if the man is indeed attracted to you and your, er, mystique. The interest will allow him to overcome is reservations or fear of rejection, know what I mean?

It’s also good to highlight that it’s a great feeling when a man chases after you — not in jest, of course, but just to solidify his interest.

Before I go, ladies, I hope you won’t use this to toy with a man’s feelings, ok? It’s not nice.

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Thrill of the Chase