Now, as I reveal these secrets (you’ll have to visit their article to see the reasoning behind the reason) I’d like for you, the Dating Dames readers, to see just how much of a role each one plays in your life, if at all.

10. Pretend to be virtuous
9. Criticize other women
8. Act jealous

7. Become needy
6. Speak in code
5. Invade our personal space
4. Become too emotional
3. Shop till they drop
2. Talk incessantly
1. Use sex as a weapon

I think the only one I’ve never been guilty of – or that’s never ruined any relationship I ever had is the shopping.  I think I’m one of a handful of women on the planet that really thinks MALL is a four letter word.

Now, on the otherhand, the one that presented the largest battle for me to overcome was my battle with jealousy.  After having been cheated on by a coupld of former loves, I found it very difficult to trust anyone, EVER!

I did finally recognize this emotional flaw I carried and did my best to address it and overcome it.  It was worse than ever quitting smoking – by far, the hardest habit I’ve ever had to break.  But I did!

I realized that IF a relationship was causing enough problems to invite jealousy, that was enough cause for me to leave.

In the end, no one or no relationship was worth that great of a sacrifice.

Now it’s your turn!  Com’on, I know you’re guilty!

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Men Confess the 10 Annoying Things Women Do

Via Christian Carter – Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they “feel” too early on.  Listen…Attractive, single, successful men are rare.  They get a LOT of attention from women.  Most women don’t realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.  And guess what? Attractive men have usually dated a lot of women.  That’s right. They have EXPERIENCE.  They know what to expect.  And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything…   It’s a woman who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.

This signals to the man that you’re just like one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can’t control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives. This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.  Don’t do it. Lean back. Relax. There’s a much better way…

Absolutely!  Women and SOME men need to realize that it doesn’t take another person to complete them!  Once you get to the point where you are your own best friend – where you’re happy with your alone time – learn how to entertain yourself when your alone, your life will be more prepared to handle a relationship.

Even in the best of relationship, couples don’t spend 100% of their time together.  It’s important that you deal with your own insecurities rather than project them onto the next would be partner you may have.

Once you are able to say “I WANT you”… rather than “I NEED you” you’ll be perfectly ripe for becoming 1/2 of a couple.

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Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early

Via Christian Carter – In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man’s attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.  Another HORRIBLE idea.  Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.  Wrong.  Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want… EVER.

Uhhh Huhhh – Ladies!  How many of you are reading this very post with the little words bouncing around inside your head “O My God I did THAT!”  And you’re realizing a strong resemblance between you and the Staples Easy Button?

Again I have to agree with Christian Carter.  In as much as I am very ashamed to admit that I used to make sickening attempts at being the I can do everything better so he’ll realize he can’t live without me girl, thankfully I woke up one day to realize that I didn’t have to be everything to anyone for it to be love.  Just take a look at Christie Brinkley already?  If her husband can cheat on her and leave her?  Well it CAN and DOES happen to anyone.

Altering who you genuinely are and making a fool of yourself or feeling the fool in the end is no way to treat yourself.  Being true to yourself, respecting yourself and doing ONLY those things you WANT is far more admireable than playing the part of the needy lover even for a day.

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Pretending To Be Something For A Man