With that in mind, I’d like to remind all you guys that we are still accepting your contributions. Again, if you prefer to write it on your own space, just send us the link and we’ll be happy to feature it.

If you’re wondering how you should go about doing it, feel free to check Gayla’s, Sara’s or my own non-couple moment contribution.

So, don’t forget to send us the email!

We hope to hear from you soon!

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Share your non-couple moment!

I think it’s silly.

I’m sure there are a lot of reasons you can throw at me why you’re guilty of such practice. But let me tell you this, “technicality” will not erase the fact that you are going out with the guy. So, yea. Like it or not, if you agree to spend time with the guy, especially when you have knowledge of the intentions since you guys talk about them, you are already dating him.

I am not saying you guys aren’t friends. I just want you to know that you are more than just friends. Why is it important that you know? So you can level your expectations and yes, be responsible for the person’s feelings as well as your own. There’s no middle ground. It’s not fair for either of you.

Tell me, if this friendship that you have with the guy doesn’t evolve into a relationship, will either of you be able to walk away with your heart still intact and without tears?

Think about it.

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“Just Friends”

It took time for me to organise my thoughts as to which non-couple moment I would share here at Dating Dames. Yea, I did have a moment or two — uh, perhaps a little more than that — that I might share to you guys. But for now, I reckon I’d start with one. His name is Peter.

Wow. I’m disclosing his real name, eh? You’ll find out why when you get to the end of my story. Hehehe.

I met him back in 1998 at my church’s youth camp. It’s actually an embarrassing moment for me when we met. It was an afternoon of the 3rd day. I just came from a spot where most of us youth workers congregate to have some drinks and chat by the beach. Some of the girls were talking about him in a manner that showed their interest and curiosity about who he is. I had no idea on who he was or what he looked like because there were like around 150 campers and I’ve been busy handling my own responsibilities. Duh. Well, okay — I was already crushing on someone at that time so I’m not on the look out, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, that was the first time I heard of him and caught a glimpse of what he looks like — Uh, from the back, I mean — when a girl pointed him out to the group earlier. I honestly just shrugged it off after leaving the group since I am already crushing on somebody else at that time. So, a few of my friends and I walked away from the place with the intention of heading down to the beach to hang out. I was walking by myself thinking that one of my friends was close behind and I started to say something before I actually turned around so when I did and found Peter smiling at me, boy, was I embarrassed! Hahaha.

That’s how we met. Me getting all flustered and him just laughing it off. He told me that his impression of me was that I was a snob and a girl who’s out of his league but was glad to find out that his initial assumptions were wrong. I was taken aback by his indirect admission of him taking notice of me before that incident. I just told him that based on what just happened, I can be a dork sometimes. We became friends after that.

However, after all the conversations we’ve had and clear indications of us liking each other, though left unspoken, we never did get together. One, it’s because he was leaving for Uni. Two, I was sort of starting to see someone who later became my boyfriend a few months after Peter left.

Peter was different from all the rest of the guys that I’ve met and I still sometimes hear his voice saying the crazy and serious things we talked about. I can’t help but think about the what could’ve beens.

If you are interested to know what happened after that, you can read something I wrote a couple of years ago, Summer’s Tears. I changed the names of the other characters in the story but not Peter’s. If you do get to read it you’d understand why I freely disclosed his identity and why we’re destined to remain as a non-couple. I hope you’d let me know what you think.

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Sasha’s Non-Couple Moment

Have you ever found yourself in a friendship relationship that can easily be compared to the ever popular Rachel and Ross from Friends – or how about Maddie and Dave from Moonlighting or what about Ted and Robin from the new hit series How I Met Your Mother?

The chemistry is there, the attraction is there – but no one ever seems to have the courage to take the first step at testing the waters to see if there may be more?

I’ve found myself in that very situation a couple of times actually.  Once I had to become so intoxicated that I had at least something else to blame the “impulse” on in case the advance was not reciprocated.  It wasn’t!  Turns out I had become intoxicated and made my move on a gay man.  Wow – did I feel like a duck shot down in mid-flight!  Turns out the brown bottle flu excuse does come in handy sometimes.

The second time resulted in a white hot love affair that quickly ended by going right back to being the same friends we always were.  Apparently we’d been good friends so long that it almost felt as though the relationship were somehow incestuous to a degree.  I’ve never felt more like the butt end of those cliché’ hillbilly jokes than I did at that time in my life.  You know the old “if she ain’t good enough for her family then she ain’t good enough for ours” type jokes?  Ewww.

Following those two attempts at taking a friendship, uhem, to the next level I avoided such relationship advancements at all cost.

Granted, in the end (and 8 years later), I wound up marrying a lifelong childhood friend/first kiss/first date boyfriend, but something about that seemed almost cosmic rather than a draw in the law of attraction and somehow I just knew he would be the last person on earth that would ever shoot me down – after all we’d come through so much to reach this point in our lives.  It just had to be fate, because there was no other simple answer that could be used to describe it.

So there you have it!  I’ve been drunk enough to think that I could turn a gay man straight and to make a pass at someone that was more like a sibling – perhaps that’s the Rambo Hillbilly in me – who knows?

I’m going to do some begging and pleading to get other b5 bloggers to contribute their stories too.  So if you have a blogger you’d particularly like to see humbled, exposed and humiliated a bit, lemme know and I’ll target them just a little bit more.

Now, I’ve shown you my most embarrassing non-couple moments – now show me yours!

If you’d like to write about it in your own space and provide the link, I’d be happy to share your most embarrassing non-couple moments too.  Don’t make me hang out here too long.

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Non Couple Moments