He needs someone to do stuff for him (like cook), and, she needs to do stuff for someone.

Maybe you have to know them to appreciate that thought, but, I guarantee it’d be #1 in reality TV. Or, someone wouldn’t come out alive, I don’t know which.

They couldn’t be more different. The Odd Couple would have nothing on them.

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A sitcom waiting to happen

It’s more than just the practical things such as grocery shopping, bill paying, and laundry (actually he’s better at laundry than I am, but, that’s beside the point, and, actually, not very hard to do), it’s more of the motherly and grandmotherly roles, and, it’s not something he’s had to do in a while.

He’s such things as the official sender of Valentines and the hider of Easter eggs. He’s glad to do it, and, has the proper sentiment, but, you know he’d also be fine with paying someone to do it for him, but, he’d never say that. I imagine he’ll be learning more roles in the months to come as we forge our new routine.

I have, by my own habit, and, conditioning, given him yet another role: that of travel information receiver.
Whenever I leave town, I’m used to calling home, and, calling my parents to let everyone know I’ve arrived safely, and, what my agenda is.

I do this partly because it’s just what yo do, and, partly because my mother also had some long standing anxiety issues, and, it was just better to let her know what was going on at all times. That’s fine, but, it’s also had the effect of making me expect that information from other people, when they travel, and, well, not everyone *cough*my husband*cough* sees the need to provide a blow by blow of their travels.

I’m out of town now, and, this is one of the first times since my mother died. Upon my arrival, I did the usual round of phone calls, and, while I’m sure he appreciated the information about my safety, he was also very plainly thinking, “OK, got it. Is there some other reason you called, or, can I hang up now?”

I can’t decide if it makes me miss my mother, or, if it’s actually a bit freeing.

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ET Phone Home

Like I said, I don’t know him all that well, but, for some reason I was struck with verbal diarrhea about my mother’s death from cancer six months ago, and, he was my victim. I was telling some story about her funeral (that was in the same location), and, we got interrupted, and, I didn’t finish whatever I was saying. Likely, to his relief.

The next night, he called me to apologize that he had walked away, and, didn’t get to finish hearing my story.

I didn’t think much about the fact that our conversation got interrupted, and, I told him not to think a thing of it, and, that I was just yammering, anyway. I couldn’t believe he had called, that was so nice!

So, today? I was reading the obituaries as i am prone to doing (kinda for my job, kinda because I’m old), and, I see that his father died a couple of days ago.

His father had been at the same hospice where my mother was, and, he had not actually been at the funeral because, he was, you know, dying. That whole time I went on and on about my situation, this guy didn’t say a word, he just listened intently, even though his own father’s death was imminent.

I don’t know if I really have a point, I just thought that was so nice of him.

Like I say, the whole thing (the death of a parent) is like a strange club I’ve joined, qualifying isn’t much fun, but, the members sure are nice.

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It wasn’t all about me, afterall

But, did you ever wonder how people found their way here to GenBetween.com? Just humor me, OK?

Looking at the search phrases that landed people here at GenBetween, it looks like a lot of you have parents who’ve died, please accept my condolences, we’re just having a little fun here. Others of you look like you got here by accident, and, still others of you need some advice, I’ll try to help:

“the sims 2 glamore life” – I don’t think the Sims have Sandwich Generation issues, yet, I think that comes until the Sims when your Sim needs a ride to the doctor, but, Sim son has a sick Sim child at home, and, is torn. But, if you’re still looking for glamour: The Sims 2 Glamour Life Stuff

“bald athlete” – I had to look around a bit, but, here ya go.

“medicare elizabeth” – I’m not quite there, yet, but, thanks for your concern.

“dating sims with stepmothers and mothers in them” – What is it with you people and the Sims?

“gamer dating” – try the Sims site

“stupid stick it” – I beg your pardon?

“feed the children” – Again? But, they had dinner last night, must I do this again?

“recipe mayonaise” – right here. I love homemade mayo, save me some.

“coca castle” – dunno, sounds like an adult entertainer to me.

“unibrow children” – give them some tweezers.

“overdeveloped sense of responsibility” – Yes? May I help you?

OK searchers, keep up the good work, see you next time.

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A break from our regularly scheduled programming

When my mother died this past summer, we ended up having to wait 5 days between her death and her funeral because of the church schedule. Other than visitation, we didn’t really have anything going on in between, yet, it was physically, and, emotionally exhausting. I can’t imagine what it must be like for the Ford family.

Additionally, I can’t imagine what it would be like to have to do this in front of the world. I know that’s what you sign on for when you choose a public life like that, but, still to have to bury your husband of 58 years while the world watches has got to take it’s toll.

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Thoughts on Gerald Ford’s death

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Eeep!

Hey, I just do what the Technorati gods tell me to do.

Technorati Profile, is this thing working??

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Don’t mind me…